i am a male virgin who is in a serious relationship and my girlfriend and i decided it was time to have sex (shes not a virgin, but isnt too experienced... only having one other partner). anyways we have fooled around before and it has never been a problem for me to get hard, but when we were about to have sex for whatever reason right when i was hard and put on the condom as i was about to enter i would start to go soft (i did not climax either). so i am not sure what to do. i dont think it is a problem regarding impotency cause it is not a problem when i masturbate and when we fool around i do not have a problem getting hard, but the trick is keeping it hard enough to actually begin having sex.
i am really worried about this.. is it nerves? i know that when she first started giving me handjobs it took one or two times for me to loosen up and start getting hard.. ahh i dont know its really frustrating though and i feel like im the only guy in the world this would happen to
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It sounds like it is a problem with using condoms. You could try having her put on the condom for you, so you are still being in contact with her and having her stimulate you as you're putting it on. You could also try using thin condoms so you don't feel the weight and thickness of them as much.
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buddy, you're not the only guy in the world with this problem.
A case of nervs can happen to any man. There is no magic cure other than persistance.
What happens is psycological, not physical. If things go wrong once, you will think of it next time and it will go wrong again. This too shall come to pass. It's just part of the complicated world of being male
<b>and there was light</b>
It would help to get some practiuce putting on condoms when you're masturbating, so you get more used to them.
i think unsupervised is getting somewhere with this. it is not a problem with putting on the actual condom... i have tried it while masturbating and it was fine... more psychological i think, but how the hell do i get over something like this..
really, it just takes time.
it's the memory of what went wrong that tends to make it go wrong again. No-one can force them selves to forget something.
Like I said, patience and persistance and it will all be in the past soon enough.
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I think agent10ve is pointing out that if she puts the condom on you, you may feel more comfortable or you would be aroused? As for the psychological aspect, I have no advice