Fetish?

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Me and my bf/Master are into a Dom/sub relationship. And soon I will be willingly loosing my virginity to him, as he puts it making me 'owned'. Is there any positions that make it less painful?

you call him your master... that's very upsetting, a boyfreind should never be a dominator. one of the many things that makes me sad about being male. (All compesated for never having to experience the miracle of birth + menopause)

owned?? master??? someones got some serious control issues over you. get help soon. XOx

Thats the point of our dom/sub relationship though.Its all by choice he knows I have limits on things and he respects that he never forces me to do things I don't want. Any ideas on my main Q though?

Personally, I think you should try a normal relationship before you delve into the s/m realm. But hey, I can definitely see where you're coming from, and if it fulfills you then who is anyone to tell you not to.

And remember, there's a difference between a guy who doms you and a fucked up control freak, make sure he's not the latter and that you actually trust him.

Yeah I do trust him, hence the reason why I think I'm ready to let him pop my cherry, but my main Q was is there any way to make it less painful i.e. positions?

Any ideas on my main Q though?Why did you put that dom/sub stuff before your question? You didn't think it would steal all the attention?There are several thread that address your question, including this one.Don't forget that you can still get pregnant the first time, so use protection.Different strokes for different folks, but I don't see how you can dominate and respect another person at the same time. It's an unhealthy dynamic. You might want to explore what it is within yourself that makes you want to be dominated.

Yeah I read that post, and some of the others.Such as the one about doggy aparently being more painful even if the girl isnt a virgin. I was just wondering if missionary is the best bet for less pain. And our relationship is as trusting if not more than others, its different but no less loving.

I'm sure many house slaves would have said the same thing about their masters.What to do? Go slow. If it hurts, slow down, or stop, or try again later. Your being on top will give you a lot more control, if that works in your relationship.

Thank you. I didn't actually think of that, maybe it would be easier if I was ontop

Remember that in any dom/sub relationship there should be a safety word that you can use if you need to stop.

angel1 you need to sort your life out if you treat him as a master all your living life then frankly thats sadman and woman should be equal in a relationship and the woman to win like 95% of arguements lol

I'm sorry but its my choice. I like being this way and I've always had liked to just be told to do things and I do that well.

Just to add a little more to SteveA's post, I suggest alot of foreplay to get relaxed and aroused (wet).

I disagree with a lot of the response posts to be honest. If thats what works for you both and you're both fulfulling fantasies and are happy together who is anyone else to tell you that it's wrong? That is, of course, assuming he's not physically abusive or anything nasty like that.The missionary position would probably work best in your case for losing your virginity, since it's a submissive position for the woman, i.e. the man has more physical control. Just be sure he understands first that it's possible to be in the dominant role and be gentle at the same time. I'd be clear on that point if I were you cause you wont forget your first time so it's better being worth remembering.Good luck.

Thank you.And yes, even if he is harsh at times he's the most gentle creature I've ever met. He knows when to stop without me saying.

You know, I'd like to respond with something profound, but I just can't get over the fact that you've chosen your first relationship to be one of subservience rather than a sharing of equals with the desire to give to one another the greatest gift ever. And I'm sure you're probably thinking "but we both give each other what we need", but I really don't think "taking" will ever qualify as "giving". Personal opinion, but whatever...as with all to whom I respond, I wish you the best of everything.

Have you ever given much thought to why you feel the way you do? Or do you see it as just another fixed trait, like your eye color?Also, you could have asked your question without mentioning the dom/sub thing. It's not directly relevant. You didn't mention what color the paint in your room is. Why did you open with the dom/sub comment in your original post?

Perhaps she would feel uncomfortable in a woman-on-top position?

I said, "Your being on top will give you a lot more control, if that works in your relationship.", and she replied, "Thank you. I didn't actually think of that, maybe it would be easier if I was ontop ". It's, ummmmm, up to her.