What's wrong with this man???

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kiwi, maybe you should shut up when you dont know the facts, Star and I have been joking around via IM all afternoon, she asked me to post here. Nice of you to jump on your white horse and ride to the rescue but in this case it was poinltess.

I've heard Canadian people refer to what we know as a soother as a dummy, but really Steve, it's 11am in my corner of the world; I'm going to bed and am not about to get into an argument with you - I have better ways to spend my time.But if you're going to take your seemingly compulsive need to enter into a confrontation elsewhere I suggest you pick a more mature topic than soothers/dummies or whatever the fuck you want to call them.Good night.

Try timing his sleep patterns and waking him up just prior to waking anyway.
To wake him when he needs sleep is just wrong.
**Cockefeller **

Wow...I had no hostile intent. Chill.

My insult still stands

I can't help thinking that if it were a man waking up a woman like that, and she said no, the advice would be firmly that no means no and he should be more sensitive to her needs and not expect her to jump at his command.
Well, I think that even though men need less foreplay on average than women, the above is still true with the genders the other way around.

Do you have to swear quite so much? and i know you are joking hon but telling people to fuck off all the time, can you calm it down a little...........?

no affence, but ur just being selfish! he's sleeping and if he works during the week, he's not gonna want to be woken up..
for a compromise, make it so u can only wake him up like that on friday's nd saturdays wen he can sleep in...
but leave him alone for awhile

Maybe you need to get another guy or 2, take turns waking them up, that way each gets some sleep.
Variety is the spice of life

I was just tryna add some levity to the situation.. it seemed rather flacid

Hey, Star...

horny's got the best advice I see....know when to do it. I know you want it because he looks sexy to you while he's sleeping, but he's SLEEPING...refreshing the body and mind for the next day.

Here's my suggestion: If you don't already have one, get yourself a cock-shaped vibrator just a little larger than your man's dick. When you get those urges and you don't think he'd be happy with your bj wakeup, start using that vibrator next to him...but don't TRY to wake him up. However, should he wake up, I think he'll be into what you want at that point.

Just a suggestion :grin:

This whole thread seems to have gone a bit crazy.. may put me off posting for a while!

I'm not really crazy....I've been misrepresented by my psychiatrists and the media

Like myself so; isnt it terrible to be misclassified as a loon? Ha ha.

The other dy i posted that " this guy might not be into you" because he rejected you sexually and you kinda beat me up for that.I'm lookin over some other posts and see another one you posted about this guy saying he is lacking in showing you affection and that you 2 are "mismatched"."This morning, for example, I went to give him a hug by way of an apology as I'd been a bit bitchy (am not a morning person) and he just tut tutted and pulled away. This isnt a one-off, it's a regular thing. I just walked downstairs and had a bit of a private cry in the kitchen." I'm not tryna be nasty..really... but look at the facts. There's something wrong with this relationship, he really doesn't seem interested. You guys need to have a serious talk.

I wasnt beating you up, I asked for your opinion and didnt think you were taking the problem seriously (come on - you did say he may have "turned gay" & advised me to find a second lover etc etc!) I thought you were taking the mick and was teasing you in return, we have already had a pm discussion about all this and cleared it up two days ago, so why drag it all back up now? If you were indeed serious in everything you said then maybe you deserved some of the posts from other people who told you to cop yourself on, as if you were serious, then you were very insensitive. (It looks like the insult deserves to still stand - thanks Kiwi!)I dont think rejecting somebody sexually (or in any other way) while you're sound asleep can really count as a genuine example of rejection! And yes, we are mismatched in the affection stakes, but then, a lot of couples are, as the response posts confirmed.He has had some relationships that havent even gotten off the ground because he's just not a huggy touchy person and some women have really not been able to deal with that - so I know this is not behaviour I've been singled out for. It's just an element of who he is that I sometimes have difficulty in dealing with, as I am very much his opposite in that one regard.Now can we put an end to this hard_again, as I dont appreciate having to argue to anybody that my relationship is worthwhiie and valid. I'm unhappy in it about 5% of the time, but afraid2ask isnt here to accomodate me banging on about how great things are the other 95%.

right, back to topic.... hows about you masturbate while hes next to you and if he wakes up to the sound of you masturbating rather than you climbing on top of him he may be a little more willing, especially if he's been hearing you while he's asleep. the subcounscious mind and all that. and at the same time you get rid of some of your sexual frustration. just a thought. take care

I have to laugh. I don't think I have been with a man that did not want to be woken up that way. I myself am a woman that needs her sleep, but anytime the man has wanted to get busy I have always given in. I may resist at first, but I am happy at the end of it. Although, I can fall back asleep fairly quickly.I suggest trying either close to the time he wakes up in the morning or shortly after he falls asleep. And don't make it an everyday habit. Just a once in awhile quickie type of thing. Of course, if he really does not want to do it, you are just going to have to respect him and stick to Saturdays. Or pounce on him in the shower....men look pretty sexy when they are all wet too.

You asked for advise, i gave it. Sorry if it wasnt what you wanted to hear. This is a public forum full of different people with different thoughts, you are going to get different answers, some you might not like, that's life. Perhaps in the future when you post you should tell everyone exactly what they are supposed to say in reply.
Yes some of my replies were foolish, I was just trying to have some fun, thought maybe you could differentiate between humour and a serious reply. I guess not.
This is the last I will speak of this. Flame me all you want for giving you my honest thoughts on the matter, i assumed that is what this board is for.

This is the advice I asked for:"I'd appreciate any men who have similar issues about being 'harassed during sleep' as my boyfriend puts it, to give me a few tips on how a woman could bring them around to their way of thinking!"Not an overall assesment of my relationship, which you are in NO - WAY qualified to make. I'm done discussing this with you. You need to grow up.