Ok so my ex girlfriend who I still like alot. is well him I don't know how to put this exactly. basically she broke up with me because distance was to much and she found someone else she was interested in that was closer.Anyway First she find out after 2 weeks of going out he lied about who he really was he use to drink and crap (he's now 15 I think or something) She is Highly against anything sexual,drinking, smoking all that crap. which is good since she's only 14. Anyway.She was mad for 2 weeks i mean pissed. and then he said hey can I come over and hang for a little bit, just as friends. then blam back together and she kissed him.Then he kept doing this like asking if she ever consider having sex with him, then saying nasty crap like saying penis backwards and telling her answer it as a yes or no question no questions asked on what it was etc until she answered. Finally he broke up with her or she did him something like that.And Recently he's been saying all these crappy things happening to him (which I had similar situations only about 20x worse) making her feel bad for him and then acting really sweet to her, and she's starting to like him again, and even though says oh no don't worry I'm not getting back with him (which she said twice.) and I think she might consider going back out with him (Btw I forgot to mention he asked and she rejected once.)I'm trying to talk her out of going back with him because even though she said she wasn't she also said (You wouldn't completely hate me if I ever went back out with him again) we're still kinda like best friends sorta.And I keep trying to make sure they stay split apart. honestly this isn't an attempt to get her back with me, but I do really care about her and she keeps getting hurt by him and she has alot to deal with as it is.Note she found out while they were together he was fingering another girl. So honestly do you think I should agree with my friends and say fuck it, if you want to trash your life and get hurt bad go for it, or continue to try to keep her from hurting herself again.I know I can't really "Stop" here, but if I keep talking her out of getting back with him maybe she won't. again this isn't a jealousy thing (even though im kinda jealous lol) but she has got hurt badly twice by him, and thinking about going back for a third time even knowing that he cheated on her recentaly, in one of her most unforgiving ways, admitted it and then tried to lie about it ever happening and tried to get her to do crap she didn't want to. like be slutty say sexual things and make out yada yada.So should I leave her be and have her continue to be hurt by him or try to stop her?
I would say something like this."Please listen to me and hear out what I have to say. I'm going to tell you this because I really care about you. But this is the last time I'm going to say it because if I keep bothering you about it, you'll hear me but you probably won't actually be listening. This guy you're getting involved with is manipulating you. He won't treat you the way you want to be treated. People take a long time to change, and they must change on their own accord. I really want to see you respect yourself. A person that respects themself would not allow someone to treat them as badly as he does you. I wanted you to know this because I care about you as a person."She may get defensive or it may open her eyes a little. No matter what happens, keep your calm and be respectful. I wouldn't bring it up again unless she's the one to bring up conversation. If she brings up conversation about it, I wouldn't express my opinion unless I was asked.That's just me.
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