i tend to hesitate when im with a girl- she usually has to guide me or lead me along with what we're doing. sometimes i wish i was more domineering and spontaneous with stuff like kissing and sex acts- how do you let your lust take control and run free? (im asking as in what personally lets you do it)
Letting your lust take control
Id say thats the biggst part of it.
expereince breeds that confidence.
A long term and several years of being wit the one girl also helps in my paticular situation.
With girls you havent been with for long its a matter of cinfidence and whats worked before. The only way to find out is to try it.
Im confident in all areas of my life, not jsut the sex part so it helps a great deal when I get into shakey territory in other areas the remember Im good enough, smart enough, and have been through wrose.
An active sense of adventure doesnt hurt either, I like the unkonwn, Im heavy into danger and adrenaline, taking control and trying new shit is a bit like that.
Let's agree to respect each others views, no matter how wrong yours may be.
I'll let someone else speak to starting up kissing, for my own reasons that something that is very, very hard for me, but as far as getting a little T or A, I can speak to that with ease.
When your kissing your partner and thinking "do I" or "don't I"... well, just "do". Kiss away and reach for that boob. If she doesn't want you playing with it she'll let you know. Then don't try it again until next time. If your playin' with her boobs and want to try for a handful of muff, try. She'll stop you if she doesn't want you playin' with the cootch. I don't think it's inappropriate to push the envelop, or pantie line as the case may be, if your making out.
Just be cognisant as to whether she's a three date to the muff girl, or a month to the muff girl, or a just grab the kitty right now kinda a girl. Pace yourself to what you think her proclivity is and then try. When she says no wait till next time and "try, try again".
It has nothing to do with domination and everything to do with persistence.
There is no punishment. There is no reward. There are only consequences.
What if she doesnt want to go on a date again ebcause you tried?
When your having your little make-out session dont just rush into the grabbing. be subtle about it. Caress her back whilst kissing her. Or grab her hips. Work the body with your hands and slowly work your way to the breasts. if she doesnt want you wandering there she should just simply pull your hand away or move it to another part of her body. and if you do it like that then you should be ok and good for another date. some things take time and work.
well i guess i would like a guy to maybe warn me somehow that he wants to go further, by slowly moving his hands to that particular area or whatever. but usually i love guys to tell me exactly what they want and be dominant.