i got myself into a really sticky situation and i dont know what to do. heres the story:me and my boyfriend were together for a year until i broke up with him. (it was a random break up and i dont know why i did it) a few weeks after that he developed feelings for my best friend and they started going out. meanwhile, i liked this other guy (lets call him guy 2)and he said he didnt want a relationship. my so called best friend one day told me that her and my ex did "stuff" and i got really pissed so i asked "guy 2" if he wanted to be friends with benefits. shortly, my best friend told me that he gave her head and she returned the favor and that really pissed me off. in response, me and "guy 2" went further. i know it sounds really stupid but i was lost and confused and still in love with my ex. anyhoo, me and my ex were hanging out after we decided to still be friends. we were alone and talking and one thing lead to another and he kissed me.. while he was still with my best friend. he told her, she dumped him, me and him got back together, she doesnt know. i told him some (not all) things i did with "guy 2" and he became very upset and angry. i pretty much had to beg him not to kick his ass. hes asked me a few times if im sure that i didnt go farther with him and i said yes. this morning he called and said he had a dream that i lied about that, and yet again, i lied. i really want to tell him, its eating me inside. i know if i tell him hell go kick that other guys ass and i dont know if hell ever forgive me, not only cuz i gave this other guy a blow, but because of trust issues. i love him very much and i cant bare losing him again. ive tried to tell him many times before but i just cant bring myself to it. also, theres never a right time. what do i do? please help.thanks for listening
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Please help im stumped
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That really is a sticky situation. :open_mouth:
I believe that you should tell him, even though there might be negative consequences. No matter what you did to "guy 2", lieing to "guy 1" is worse. Things like this will always be in your head, bugging you, unless you confess. What could be worse, is if he found out what really happened from someone other than you. It would be best to tell him the truth, IMHO.
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oh please! you won't like to hear this, but your "guy" has done just as much stupid crap as you have. sure, you broke up with him, but then he starts dating your good friend? big no-no!and then he's giving you crap about what you might have done with guy 2? HELLO??? why is it OK what he did, and NOT what you did? sounds like a jerk to me.either agree to NOT discuss anything that went on with you and guy 2 AND with him and your friend, or part ways. aside from the goofy stuff both of you did, he is way wrong for doing what he's doing right now.
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I don't think you should tell him. You're ashamed of what you did - why should you dump it on your boyfriend just so you feel better?
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In reply to: oh please! you won't like to hear this, but your "guy" has done just as much stupid crap as you have. sure, you broke up with him, but then he starts dating your good friend? big no-no!and then he's giving you crap about what you might have done with guy 2? HELLO??? why is it OK what he did, and NOT what you did? sounds like a jerk to me.either agree to NOT discuss anything that went on with you and guy 2 AND with him and your friend, or part ways. aside from the goofy stuff both of you did, he is way wrong for doing what he's doing right now i'm in total agreeance herehe has no right to be mad unless you can be tooand he has no right to go and 'kick this guys ass' cause it takes 2 to tango... if he's that angry at guy2 then he should also be that angry at you. you have to forgive and forget about the past, and concentrate on the futurethat could or could not mean telling him...
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hey guys, thanks for the advice but...he found out from someone else. appearantly "guy 2" bragged about it to one of his friends who also happens to be one of my bf's friends. oh, a little detail i forgot to leave out, i cheated on him the day before i broke up with him. anyway he calls this morning and says, listen, ive talked to some people... i need to know something.. did u do something with [guy 2] while we were together... i ended up telling him everything. after bout 3 hours of him yelling and me crying, were still together but hes still really pissed.