i feel worthless lately. the very idea of trying to pick up a girl feels daunting to me. im going to a party on friday, a lot of pretty girls, and im trying to get over a girl who likes someone else, shes gonna be there- the old me would think 'okay ill get with someone at the party' but the new me just doesnt feel capable. i have nothing to say to girls, i have no game any more, i just dunno what to do...i need my confidence back asap
How do i get my confidence back
You sound depressed. Try to get out into the open air, exercise, and do something you enjoy each day.
My advice is spend some time for yourself. If your going to go to the party, then go to have fun. Get a haircut, trim your nails, groom your body hair, buy a new tooth brush and some good mouth wash, get a new outfit, cook or buy yourself a really delicious meal. It may sound feminine, but it's important to treat yourself every now and again.
If you think you look good and you feel good, then confidence tends to follow.
its good advice, but i just had a hair cut, i have a new outfit and i cant afford the meal. i dont look good. you can tell me im good looking until you are blue in the face, but its a matter of opinion, and my opinion is that i dont look good,
thats another issue i have with confidence- looks. they say looks arent as important as confidence with girls- but if you're ugly, what do you have to be confident about? sounds shallow i know but im kind of sociopathic right now
Quote:i dont look good. you can tell me im good looking until you are blue in the face, but its a matter of opinion, and my opinion is that i dont look good
There it is. You know, if you don't think you look good then other people will often have the same opinion. It's weird how that works.
I have a very exotic look. Some women find it so very hot and others think I'm one of the ugliest guys they've ever seen. I've actually heard both comments in the same night! So, it doesn't really matter what other people think you look like. It matters what you think you look like. I've come down to, "Hell, I'm just me and I like me." I think pleasing everyone is impossible.
Of course, it's hard to say if this is a mental issue or maybe a chemical imbalance.
Having seen pictures of Africa, I'm sure it's some sort of imbalance. I don't think any unbiased judgement could possibly call him ugly; but it's remarkable how depression and low self-confidence can distort one's image of oneself.