I really want to talk to this one girl i've liked for a while now. Im just too shy. I hate being like this. I can never talk to girls or new people. I hate being the center of attention and im always scared of how i sound or how i look. Im always scared of what people might think of me. Im 15 years old and i've been like this for as long as i can remember. I dont even care if i can get this girl to like me. though that would be awsome. I'd just be so happy if i can even have a conversation with her. Something about her is just so different from other girls. She acts all strange and is pretty quiet. Just seeing her makes me feel good. Im not even looking forward to summer vacation because i doubt ill be able to see her. Schools almost over and im just killing myself. I regret this whole school year. I really need some advice. I dont want to go into summer vacation regretting everything and thinking how stupid i was to not take the chances i had. I awlways have ideas of what i can say to her. I just always freeze up or just watch her pass by. please, i need some advice
I'm too scared
If you like this girl you should just ask her a simple question, just something that will start conversation. Ask her about her classes this year or even ask her about what classes she's taking next year. There's no harm in that. It's really hard to initiate that first statement. Just focus, take a deep breath and spit it out. You could even ask her about her plans for summer break! It'll be hard but just try to relax and keep the conversation lively and flowing. Sometimes you just have to step out of that shell. And don't be afraid to ask questions about things she has said that intrigue you. After a while, the conversation will come naturally. I used to be just like you. Quiet, shy, kept to myself most of the time and I always worried about how I looked or what I said and it really bothered me. I could never talk to new people, in fact I hated meeting new people, I always stayed in the back. It's scary but you'll just have to gather up the courage to step outside your personal boundries and challenge yourself.
<i><b><span style="color: 633258"><span style='font-family: Georgia'>Aeralix</span></span></b></i><br /><span style="color: 668300">I walk, I crawl...
Ya gotta take risks in life, im with Aeralix on this one!
Well, actually I think it's quite normal to be that shy at this age. Especially when you're so much in love with a girl.
I think it's very common to feel awkward and stupid in front of the girl you like. You don't have to be seriously anxious about it, because almost everyone was just like you. On the other side, you have to realize that your reactions may look cute to her. It can be so cute when you try to say something to her, you feel this apparent embarrassment and you mix your words and speak nonsense. It's happened to almost anyone and most girls like it. She will understand your profound feelings and she will get the message soon. Don't worry about it
I believe that you'll break your "silence", when you try to measure things and realize that it's better to sacrifice your pride and self-confidence, instead of your feelings. Of course, when you actually do this, you'll feel more self-confident as ever before and more experienced. It's only a mind game, after all
Personally, I believe you're doing fine and I feel jealous that you're so strongly in love with a girl. Recently, I've missed that feeling pretty much
Never to surrender, never to retreat...<br />Give your last breath to defend it
Thanks guys, this is like the best advice i've ever gotten.