Female ATA Members

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Basically he is doing a sexual act with someone else outside his current relationship. I say thats a good definition for cheating.

i'd say cheating is more like breaking the rules...so if they discussed the situation, and decided that this was okay...then it wouldn't be cheating. But without such a discussion, not having sexual relationships with anyone else is sort of a "given" rule.

well your right thats trueas long as the other person in the relationship allowed it i guess it would be finebut you know most people wouldnthowever there are some.....

I think there are quite a few that would be cool with it, at least in my crowd. Alot of my friends will have some sort of situation where it's okay to cheat built into their relationships. A few have "waivers," actual physical contracts that both partners have to sign, they get a set number per month or year, and using one enables them to "cheat" with one person with no repercussions from the partner.

Quote:A few have "waivers," actual physical contracts that both partners have to sign, they get a set number per month or year, and using one enables them to "cheat" with one person with no repercussions from the partner. haha thats pretty funny

yeah I thought it was crazy when i heard about it, i don't think i could deal with that in my own relationship.

oh god me neither!!!

To add to your conversation. even if it is agreed upon.. I still don't think its healthy.Alot of people say "only girls view sex as an emotional type situation" however, I think if your having sex with anything short of a fuck buddy or whore. Basically if you have any feelings for that person outside of them being a piece of ass.. then there is emotion tied in to the act of sex.That would definitely complicate things to have sex with someone else.

yeah i dont think its a good idea at all, but hey watever they wanna do.

To each his own, is my opinion. Scenario: I have friends that have broken up with somebody they really care about just so that they could have sex with somebody else. Maybe in that situation it's better to just have sex with somebody else and NOT lose your significant other. It's not for me, but I can see where these ppl are coming from.

yeah but hey if the ppl wanna fuck up a good relationship, let em haha

Oh I agree its none of my business what so ever.I would much rather someone break up with me because they want to play the field then to cheat on me. Plus it lets me know they feel playing the field is more important than I am in their priority list.I am not going to go try to councel anyone. However, I do think its worth mentioning.

Quote:even if it is agreed upon.. I still don't think its healthy Who are you to say what's healthy for other people? I happen to know a married couple who are swingers. They are in thier late 30's, have a couple kids and have been together since they were 16. They have a few other swinger friends and whenever they feel like it, they swap out partners. They are really nice people, thier kids are great, they always practice safe sex, and they seem extremely loving towards each other. I don't see anything unhealthy about that.

I have a waiver from my love for sex with one person during my life outside of her. of course its angie jolie so the odds are thats nto gonna happen, she has yet to fill in the name of the celeb she wants dicking her with no strings and no reaction from me.

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I have a waiver from my love for sex with one person during my life outside of her. of course its angie jolie so the odds are thats nto gonna happen, she has yet to fill in the name of the celeb she wants dicking her with no strings and no reaction from me.

Thats a very, very good plan >.>.

Dhl.. I am not a marriage counceler, psychologist or form of professional. I have done no professional studies and my obversvations don't amount to squat.

However, I have yet to notice a case where it just worked out so wonderfully well that it would be worth it.