Embarrassing. But, this site is called 'afraidtoask', so I'm asking here for help.Okay, here's the story in short. I'm 16. Me and my girlfriend have been going good for 4 months, and we have tried to have sex twice.But the only problem is, with the anxiety of putting on a condom, I grow soft when I try to put one on. Therefore, when it's just about over the head of my penis, I'm already too soft to put it on anymore.Help! This is the only little obstacle in our loving relationship.What can I do?Thank you, if you took the time to read this.
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Erection problems - Need help!
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Welcome to A2A and yes, this is the place to ask these kinds of questions.I think a lot of it is caused by your anxiety when you're having sex. This problem happened to me several times when I was first starting to become sexually active. Every time I had sex this this person I would go soft trying to get the condom on and most times it ended the mood in frustration. Then it happened.. One time we were messing around and it was that time, where you knew you needed to put on the condom because you had crossed the point of no return.. well, she put the condom on my dick by giving me a blow job. She had the condom in her mouth and slowly lowered it onto my shaft and I never went soft.It was a cool way of putting it on... Try that!good luck and remember to take your time and relax....
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Wow.. Thank you very much!
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I think it also helps to practice putting a condom on by yourself, enough times that it's a familiar and no-stress operation.
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I think what Roc said is definitely an interesting way and sounds like a great one to me, but if she doesnt want to put it in her mouth, it might also help to have her put it on you with her hands. The feeling of her touching you should keep you hard.
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I think what both said have very good points. Both use a trick for the mind using a kind of "use-it-as-a-turn-on-so-that-you-forget-about-it" kind of way, and the other one is "get-used-to-it-so-at-least-the-feel-of-it-isn't-so-stressing."Probably by doing both, he can get to having the time of his life in no time.