hi all, i havent posted in a long time, mostly cause i am fairly computerless right now, and i am also very busy with grade 12. Anyway, me and my girlfriend have been going out for...7 months on the 27th, and i honestly do not know how our relationship is, lately it seems liek we are...i dont know...one day we are great, the next day she is all bummed and its liek she doesnt want to be with me, and the next day its back to being all great, Also, she got mad at me for talking about my best friend who fyi is a girl. i have no feelings other than friendship for my best friend, i have told my gf this numerous times, and its liek she doesnt believe me or something, i dunno. I feel like my gf is always mad at me for something, any suggestions? oh, and i know if i ask her she will say soemthign like "no, why would i be mad at you?" even if she is mad at me.
Relationship is stressing me out
Well, um. Don't ask her if she IS mad at you. Ask her why she acts the way she does, and if she seems unaware of it, tell her but in a polite manner. I know countless times the answer "just tell her" may not be of best interest as it sometimes risks things, but it CAN BE THE BEST WAY to do it. Seriously. Sometimes, people take the other road because they don't want to tread the risky one. But times go to show that when it comes down to it, the road they picked in the end gave worse results than the one they avoided.
We do what we do in life because the world tells us it's right. But what's there to tell the world whether or not what -it's- doing is right?
perhaps you should re-evaluate your relationship.think about what might happen in the future.
LUKE! Yay, you're back! :smile: Hope everything's going well for you!
This seems very familiar to me. It seems like she's going through an emotional roller coaster or even the roller coaster of depression. She'll be fine one day, but the next, for some unknown reason, she'll hit her low point.
I do doubt you have anything to do with her being mad. She could be mad or upset for any little thing, or she can even wake up like that. In my honest opinion, it sounds like it's all in her head. You can talk to her and get her to be honest, but if she isn't willing to do that, then you can't really help her.
The situation with your friend is related, I believe. Because she's in a sensitive mood, she may not believe everything you tell her, even though you've been going out for months. Her state of mind is too emotionally unstable to know what she believes is true or lies.
The best thing for you to do is to get her to open up and be 100% honest. No answering questions with questions ("no, why would i be mad at you?"). It helps so much for a person to talk about how they feel, so they can release some of that pressure and stress. But try to talk to her when she's in her "better" mood. If you question her when she's mad, she's going to withdraw even further.
Best of luck to you, honey! Hope everything gets better.
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hey! you really should get msn, i always forget to sign on to AIM. anyway, thanks for the advise, i am sad cause i really think that we may break up soon, one one level i dont want to, but on another i feel like we're drifting away from each other...I dont know, this is my first "Real" relationship I am no good at reading my own relationship, great with other peoples because i can see both sides and be objective, but with my own...