Im in love...

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Well first off let me say this, i am only 13 years old, alot of people say to me "your not in love dude, your dont know what love is yet" What i say to that is...BullshitAlot of young people dont know what love is, and i fell im not one of them. I fell light headed when i see her, she is the #1 on my mine everyday Shes the last thing i see when i go to sleepI know im in loveOk with that aside let me explain my story to youWe met in 3rd grade, not really met, just saw each other. I was never intrested then, and thought i neer would be. Man was i wrong.Now its in 6th grade, and she has really grown since 3rd grade, She is around my height, brown hair, tan face. We start talking in the hallway, i start to feel a little lust brewing...Now its 7th grade, present day. I start to love her, i see her everyday 8th peroid, we talk and get to become friendsNow about 2 months later, i tell her how i feel She says she gonna sleep on it. 2 days later, she says no. We havent seen each other enough, idk you enough yetSo we become friends.Now were very good friends. Conversations go on for pages, i tell her i love her everyday, and she loves me...Only not the way i love her.Just last night her and me and a bunch of friends go bowling, she sits on my lap, we take pics, all funThen she tells me....She thinks she likes me, but she is still confused about her old b/f, so were not going out yetBut then i figure out, one of my best friends likes herBut im not mad, im not a jelous personSo now thats my story, She is crushin on 3 guys, all of us best friends, whoever she picks, idc, i just want her to be happyBut i would still like her to pick me =)Now what i dont want to do is go full on lovey dovey crush mode on her and make her feel uncomfortable, but i dont wanna compleatly back off and have her think im not intreasted.So basicly my question is...How do i win the girl i love?

Just for fun, heres a pic of herhttp://a272.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/58/l_e69ef0b06b51bf9cef1e709681423d3f.jpgThats me and her

Regardless of what happens, you still have lots of time.

Try to get more alone time with her. Take her on a date or something.

I'm probably being pessimistic, but you may love her, but young love doesn't last. They're called a "crush" for a reason.I'm not sure what more you can do, than what you're doing now (hanging out with her and stuff). She already knows how you feel. Now, she's going to need to figure out how she feels. I just hope if she doesn't want you as a boyfriend, you won't take it too hard. But being friends should be just as good.You're only 13. You're going to be "in love" many, many times.

That was a great pic, btw, u are cute together.The worst things you'll ever hear are something like - i like you, but not like that, or I'm glad we're friends...Sorry, but that will happen, more than once...I agree, u got to let her know, she can't assume you're there 100% and you don't care. Ask her on a date - just the two of u if u can. Dinner or a movie, it doesn't matter. And you have to tell her u like her.Otherwise, she may think you're just cool that's she's happy. I know you would be - but it's not the same. If she doesn't feel teh same way, at least she knows - and you can still be friends. Who knows later.You are not alone here, dude. We have all been throught this.

Ok, i really doubt you are really in love. I used to think the same thing when i was 12-13, every gf i had i would tell myself that i was in love and that i knew she was "the one" i just laugh at myself now for thinking that, because i know i wasn't really feeling love. You may think you know what love is, but no one really does at that age. You have a crush on her thats all. And to answer your question, only time will tell, and it looks like to me that she doesn't really "like" anyone really if she has 3 guys in mind?..

There's a reason why people say "You're not in love, you don't know what love is".There's a 99.9% that what you're feeling is because of hormones. There's always that one special case where it turns out to be true love, but that's about 1 in a million.I know you probably feel like there's no way you could live without her, and you'll love her forever. Just remember, forever is a long time.

I agree with ya, young love is nonsense.

Double agreed.

I think its really awesome

Ok, so everybody pretty much agrees that he is not in love. So then, what do you consider true love? I would like to know.

Originally Posted By: question?

So then, what do you consider true love? I would like to know.
It's definitely not infatuation, as in this case.

how does one knows if it's a infatuation or "true"love? when i first met shannon we were 14.

Originally Posted By: CR125how does one knows if it's a infatuation or "true" love?Because... Quote: I fell light headed when i see her, she is the #1 on my mine everyday Shes the last thing i see when i go to sleep...proves it.

Originally Posted By: Virtual_Star Originally Posted By: question?So then, what do you consider true love? I would like to know. It's definitely not infatuation, as in this case. Dee dee dee! Oops, I made a major mistake. I meant it IS infactuation, and definitely NOT "true love".

so ur saying cuz he thinks about her 24/7 thats why.. so if he thinks of her .say 15/7 then it;s love? :scream_cat:

yea you got to spell it out. i'm stupid. lol

Infatuation is a fancy word for "obsessing over someone" (something like that).And I don't think anyone can define true love

What is the difference between 'infatuation' and 'true love'? Both are temporary. Marriages don't last on 'true love' - that fades quickly. They last because it gets replaced by affection, and (especially) a will on both sides to look after each other. That is indeed a higher love, but it's not what Hollywood calls 'true love'.Perhaps 'infatuation' and 'true love' are one of those 'I-you' pairs: "I have true love, you are infatuated".

You're in no way stupid or ever will be.By definition, infatuation is a short and foolish passion for someone or something. "True love" is one of those words that has a different definition from person to person, so I won't get into that (although, personally, I believe this is not true or romantic love).Yes, when someone is overthinking and obessed with someone, else it's definitely infatuation because they put them on a pedestal. They idolize them for their specific actions (seen as "perfect"), but not them as a whole (their mistakes and flaws).In this case, he met her in the 3rd grade. At that age, girls and boys are COMPLETE opposites. They think each other carries "coodies" and have nothing in common. Sure, there may be the ocassional crush here or there, but it's way off from love. Then he said he started to noticed her at 6th grade. Of course, because your hormones start to kick in. And he starts to admire her, from a distance. That's a clear sign of infatuation because you can't "love" someone from far away.When he starts to talk to her and finally tells her how he feels, she gives a mixed reply. Like in many cases of infatuation, these passionate feelings are not returned (that's why they are called a crush). If she does indeed want to be with him, I will give it no more than six months.I just personally don't believe there is such a thing as "true love" when it comes to young teenagers.* I agree with StillSearching, 99% of it is just hormones and that 1% is rare. In this case, I believe this guy likes her, but doesn't "love" her (and I can say the same for her).Love is a VERY different thing.ADDED:*Just want to clarify. I acutally don't believe in "true love" in general (both teens and adults).