Quote:but she shouldnt "forget about men" completely. Ugh, for Christ's sake, I didn't meant completely. Why don't you ask if you're not sure. I thought it was clear enough. Quote:if she takes this word for word as my ex did she'll become desolate from her peers and distance herself from her family.Complete bull. Quote:i do feel i can relate a bit better about this then most, seeing as how i witnessed its repercussions first hand. and i know what it can do to a person. Your ex isn't this young lady. Two different people. Please stop relating. Quote:her mother had a husband, but left him cause she couldnt forgive him of his past. now shes single about 45 yrs old, partying and drinking. she sees her children roughly 2 times a month.That doesn't prove a single thing. Quote:now OP let me ask you something, in 20 years, do you want your daughter going/graduating college, and only you being there, do you want to answer why it is that she has no father or father figure (im not talking about her biological father but just a man that she can call daddy and bug her for money and such) Maybe because her father wasn't good enough to be a father? These sorts of situations are always a case-by-case basis. You can't lump ALL fatherless families together. Now that's ignorance.Maybe this will be clear enough, if not, then I can't help you: This young lady does NOT need a man in her life right now. She needs to get back to school and focus on her future. When the time is right, when she gets her life back on track, then she can either work it out with her baby's father or find another man.However, don't be stupid to think that the baby MUST have a father to be happy and healthy. Is it nice to have a whole family, yeah sure. But this is life, and life is not that simple. Stop trying to play soothsayer in saying that her baby is going to suffer without a father in her life. There's no point. All you're doing is putting unnecessary ideas in the OP's head.Maybe when you grow up also, you'll understand as well.Please reread what my good friend said. He said it better than I could... Originally Posted By: rvbapocalypseI'll concede that its not an ideal situation, and it is generally good for a child to have both a male and female input to their growth, I stress the word generally, if the father was a jerk, or if there is no more conection between the parents, then I believe its healthier for the child to be raised by a single parent.