So im very confused about what to do. All of my life i have been self conscious about myself, height, looks, personality, penis size everything. For the first time in my life im starting to get some real confidence and i dont really know what to do.My current girlfriend and i took a "break" before the NY and decided not to see each other for a month. We have had alot of problems lately and in short it has just gotten to be too much. She very much loves me still and wants to be with me and im confused about what i want. I have been with her for 1 year and 3 months and thinks where great for about 7 months until problems started to happen, and it slowly started to get worse as time progressed.It got to the point where i called for a break. I have been thinking about her alot and i do miss her and miss what we have and i still may want to be with her. Well the day i called a break with her i met another girl. We had alot in common and talked alot and she seemed very interested, and then i left the place i met her and that was that, pretty much just a confidence boost that things went good and let me know that there were other girls out there. Well today i find out from my mom (its her clients daughter) that the girl was very interested in me and liked me alot, and her mom told her that i sound like a good friend and we should hang out and see where things go.After that i went to a NYE party the next day and met alot of girls. It was all probably stemming from alchohol but i had alot of girls all over me. I made out with maybe 5-8? Dont really remember much, and that was a real confidence boost (even though we were drunk) and it let me know that even though im short, girls still find me attractive apparently.The next day i go to the movies with two girls and talked to them for about an hour afterwards and i was able to converse and have a good time with them.One reason i stayed with my girlfriend so long despite all of her bullshit was because i thought i could never find anyone else or be accepted by anyone. Now that i have this confidence i kinda want to get out there and use it. I dont want to be a slut like i was on NYE but i would like to meet different women and see what happens.Now lastly my girlfriend who im on a break with. I talked to her tonight and yesterday and she is really regretting everything she did (Lying, being immature, dramatic, etc etc) and she is really trying to change. She has no interest in anyone except for me and i can really see she is hurting and that she regrets everything. Part of me wants to be with her and make things right, but part of me wants new people. Part of me thinks things will end up like the bad part of the relationship and part of me thinks it could be a fresh start. Part of me thinks i still love her and part of me thinks im just feeling sorry for her. But all of me knows im confused and i dont know what to do and that i need advice from other people, therefor i am here. Sorry for the long post but it is necessary.
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Stuck in a very bad spot
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I think you need more time to get to know some girls as people and find out what you want. I'd suggest getting to know a few girls as friends and see how things develop. Don't push yourself, don't feel in too much of a hurry; keep it at friendship for now.
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With this new girl i met all i want from her is a friendship. Its not that i dont like her, i think shes great and i think i could have a relationship with her. But its too soon. If me and my girlfriend were to officially break up i wouldnt want a new relationship right away. I wouldnt want to hurt this girl so for now i just want to be her friend and see what happens. Maybe i should just finish the month without my girlfriend and see how i feel, ty.
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Hanging with other girls will certainly help you understand how important your ex is to you. It almost sounds as if you hung on to her using the "bird in the hand is worth two in the bush" theory. Get to know some other girls. Have fun. See what develops and then compare what you have to what you had. I'm betting that it might be better.And I don't think that you're in a bad spot. On the contrary, you seem to be in a very good spot and are being well received. I think you may not be giving yourself enough credit for who and what you are.
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Yeah i guess it isnt such a bad spot, more like a confusing one. I called the break with my girlfriend to see how i really feel, but i also feel sort of guilty seeing other girls while on this break. Though we are on a break (and therefor able to see other people) it almost feels like im cheating. Anyway i am hanging out with her right now and im going to take her to the movies and so far things are going good. I guess i just need to let time tell, ty for the advice.