Girlfriwend seems unsure about blowjobs

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My girlfriend stayed over at mine for two nights this week. Both of us are virgins and we just went for non-penetrative sex acts. She doesnt really know what shes doing when it comes to oral sex. She got pretty upset about it, saying she felt like she didnt know what she was doing and was scared she wouldnt be able to please me. I could understand why it would be frustrating for her, I did everything I could to explain she can take her time and she shouldnt feel pressured.

The initial problem was that her teeth were rubbing hard on my dick which was very uncomfortable and I had to tell her so, which of understandably damaged her confidance and she became visibly nervous about what she was doing, and more or less inactive til I just got soft. Later we went for it with me kneeled over her so I could direct my cock into her mouth which I enjoyed, though I dont think was emotionally satisfying for her as I was the one making all the motion and I get the impression she wants to be able to make an effort for me but doesnt really know how.

I want to be able to give practical advice that could boost her confidance, otherwise I'm worried she will just get more frustrated as time goes on and just stop enjoying it. When I was a kid and first acquired female attention I was always uptight and worried about things and it ruined it for me and I dont want that to be the case for her. However I am inexperienced too and dont have much I can say to her. Anyone got any advice about what I can say to her that will improve her understanding and make her less nervous? I appreciate this will not happen overnight btw.

Cheers

Show her how to do it, but in a sexy, seductive manner, using one of her fingers and your mouth. That could be quit hot. If you all are up for it have her touch herself and get her finger wet and then demonstrate to her how to suck dick with the finger she just dipped in the honey hole. When your sucking and licking on her finger don't tell her "This is how you suck dick." tell her "This is what I want you to do to my dick."

Originally Posted By: OldFolksShow her how to do it, but in a sexy, seductive manner, using one of her fingers and your mouth. That could be quit hot. If you all are up for it have her touch herself and get her finger wet and then demonstrate to her how to suck dick with the finger she just dipped in the honey hole. When your sucking and licking on her finger don't tell her "This is how you suck dick." tell her "This is what I want you to do to my dick." Uhhhhh!! Yeah Do That!! That's pretty damned hot! I know if I was a chick and a guy did that I'd be putty in his hands! Did someone turn up the head in here?? Sheesh!

Originally Posted By: NtroducingMyself Originally Posted By: OldFolksShow her how to do it, but in a sexy, seductive manner, using one of her fingers and your mouth. That could be quit hot. If you all are up for it have her touch herself and get her finger wet and then demonstrate to her how to suck dick with the finger she just dipped in the honey hole. When your sucking and licking on her finger don't tell her "This is how you suck dick." tell her "This is what I want you to do to my dick." Uhhhhh!! Yeah Do That!! That's pretty damned hot! I know if I was a chick and a guy did that I'd be putty in his hands! Did someone turn up the head in here?? Sheesh! I see what you did there :P

Thats not a bad idea, though it does open up an important question...How does one suck finger like a pro?

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Originally Posted By: StrapingYoungLadThats not a bad idea, though it does open up an important question...How does one suck finger like a pro? With chocolate covered fingers of course!

Don't forget the objective here. Suck her finger like you would want her to suck your dick. Demonstrate what would feel good on the ole' tally whacker by doing it to her finger.

ahhh the tally whacker!a term I have not heard often since I was about 10 years old, a time when most people on this board had yet to come into existence.I feel old now, and its mostly just the worn out fucked up body that i have abused for so many years, but alot of its to do with shoveling fucking snow at 6 am this morning.Fuck, I had intended to bring this comment back on topic in the end, but I sorta forgot what the hell I was going to ramble about so you all have to make do with what I wrote above instead.

I'm honored I could bring back a bit of your childhood Chance.

Been thinking alot about my childhood these days, I fucking miss it, it was shit when it was the present time, or atleast so I thought, but fuck I miss it, I miss the fucking 70's, and the am transistor radio, the beads, gilligans island, summer vacation with my older brother intorducing me to classics like blade runner and late night with david letterman, long summers, water fights, riding my bike downtown, toilet papering houses, worried about russia, carter in the whitehouse and the peanut jokes and I swear the colors were different. a bedroom with paneling on the walls and blue shag carpet and 1" rope around the walls where they met the ceiling, a big captains wheel hanging int eh middle with lanterns hung from it for my light, deep purple, kiss,black sabbath, frank zappa, cars as big as boats... Fuck I miss the 70's.

I just miss the possibilities that where ahead of me back then. You can keep the shag carpet and shitty decorating. The gas guzzling huge ass cars with big block... I do miss those.

I had a hwole life ahead of me, and no responsibility at all. My biggest fear was a nuke attack from russia. Any movie the russians were the bad guys, the cold war was on the news nightly.That blue carpet...That was water for adventure land people and star wars action figures. My room looked like a fucking boat. My life wasnt planned then, anything was possible, and SNL didnt suck.

Alright my only concern then is that I must demonstrate that will be subsequently pleasing for me. I'm not very experienced so thats not inherently easy, but I will check out Ineligible link and see what I can learn about this. It features pornography so I guess it wont get boring heheI'm kind of hoping she may have gone and done some research herself actualy haha I shouldnt be the only one learning to suck my cock.Thnaks for yer help guys.

My girlfriend used to suck at/not like giving head, but now its great. took like a month before she could finally get me to cum, and it just keeps getting better 6 months later Best advice i can give you is tell her what feels good and what doesnt...the biggest thing is practice. Also if she asks her friends/watches porn, i'm pretty sure that helped a lot.

Don't over think it. Go with your gut. It might sound awkward but practice on your finger first and think about what would feel good on your dick while your doing it. You know a tongue would feel good flitting across the bottom. You know lips on the head would feel good. You know a long lick from base to tip 'll get you goin'. You know you want to hump her head, so demonstrate all that with her finger and your mouth.

in my mind porn makes girls insecure about giving a BJ......the women in the films apparently LOVE giving a bj, and some like me do, but, there are girls who don't like it at all....but there are some clips around the interweb thingy that she could watch that she might get tips from, just not the deep throat/gagging ones......or those that spit on it WTF is that all about i hate that lolI really feel for girls who embark on doing this for the first few times since its a big thing cos so much is made about it, like its the be all and end all of everything.......girls worry, is it good enough, and does she spit or swallow etc etc, its a shame....to much pressure on something that should be so enjoyable for both.teeth are a no no in general unless He really likes it, i knew a guy who would like his bitten, but hey thats another thing! lolvariety is the thing, licking, using her lips (wetted) along the length and head, sucking gently on the head, alternating how hard she sucks and how much is in her mouth at the time using her breasts, her hands etc etc, and when she gets more confident using her imagination nothing like a man fresh out of the shower grins so why not shower, lay on the bed, make it dark maybe if she if feeling self concious and let her explore (making sure of the no teeth rule first) and when she does something that blows your mind tell her, she will soon learn what bits about what shes doing drive you insane, a good BJ should be enjoyed by both, the more she enjoys it the more she will do it and the better it will be, believe me and practise makes perfect lol and i find it can be very empowering for me personally since i can dictate when He cums, be it a couple of minutes or an hour after i started lol could probably even get him to buy me a new mobile phone if i asked at the right time laughsmake sure she knows that even if she isn't an expert at it, hell your going to enjoy what shes doing