My boyfriend and I met in college and graduated at the same time. We've been dating for over two and a half years. Two years ago we lived together for a summer. It happened by accident and didn't go too well. We were both stressed out with our jobs and the stress of being on our own for the first time and school.After my lease was up on the apartment I moved all my stuff into my parents garage and traveled around for a few months using my parent's place and my boyfriend's place as base. I am looking to get an apartment in the same city my boyfriend lives in with one of our mutual friends. My boyfriend's lease is up in August and he said he would be looking for a less expensive place to live. I suggested that he could come and shack up with me. He seemed okay with this and the rent would be insanely cheap.Today when we got to the house to look at it he pointed out that the bedrooms were tiny (it's an old house) and that there wouldn't possibly be rooms for both of our beds, dressers etc.He's right. There isn't room for both of us in either of the bedrooms. Two years ago when we were living together neither one of us had ever lived anywhere bigger than a dorm room before. Now I have a bunch of stuff in my parent's garage from my old apartment and he has all his stuff in his current apartment.How do people who both have their own stuff co-habitate? Is there some trick or do you just need a ton of space? Does anyone have any stories about how they worked it out? This isn't an urgent emergency I'm just curious as to how this works.Thanks
Friendship is certainly the finest balm for the pangs of disappointed love.
Jane Austen, Northanger Abbey
I suspect most people do one of two things. They either have separate rooms, so they can have some privacy or can pretend to be merely housemates, even if they spend most of the time shagging on the loungeroom floor; or they go for a double bed in one room. If there is no bedroom big enough for a double bed and suitable wardrobe space, you could always make one room a bedroom and the other a dressing-room.
The trick is to decide who has better shit, make sure its a long term thing, then get rid of the worst shit.I gave alot of it away to either a charity here in utah that accepts furniture and about anything else and resells it or to specific people I found through craigslist.org.some of it my brother needed, so I gave it to him.Some of it was far too nice to give away, but not as nice as her stuff, so we sold that.If it wasnt a long term thing that we think will be a permanent arrangement, Id of stuck it in a storage shed at about 60 bucks a month till I was sure it would work, or till I needed it when I moved out.
Let's agree to respect each others views, no matter how wrong yours may be.