i've been with my gf going on 3 yrs, we both seem to be old fashioned.. yesterday she admitted to me that she doesn't really care about sex.. i admitted that i agreed.. we do it maybe 5x a month.. but of course with me saying it, i can see a loss of confidence on her face and im concerned (shouldnta opened my big mouth!)my problem is that i get bored in the monotony of things.. i've had my share of partners before I committed to her, but even then its been the same - sex is no surprise, its in and out, grab this, grab that, grapple here and there.. but of course looking down the road... 80yrs married to m'lady, its obv going to be the same thing (like eating rice for dinner every day).. even after the roleplaying and the dressup foreplay its still the same thing..we're not the cheating types, but this particular acknnowledgement has put us in a state of awkwardness and doubt.. what can we do or focus on to keep our interests fresh? how does one NOT get tired of sex and intimacy?
Awkward agreements on the monotony of sex?
What can we do to keep from getting tired of anything? We can keep trying new things, and that's OK up to a point; but the time comes quite soon when novelty can only be obtained at too high a price.I think it's a matter of attitude. If you look for the good in something, even though it's a well-worn walk in very familiar ground, there is always still enjoyment to be found.
That's a tough question.... One reason I look forward to settling down is the familiarity. I don't like having to get used to new people. I guess my advice would be to concentrate on the person (how much you love her, love being close to her) instead of the act. Also, it's not only positions you can switch up, but also the place. Take sex out of your bedroom and house.
I've come this far, I ain't turning back.