Ok.. I need help! My parents keep treating me like a kid as I grow up! I hate it! But I can't just tell them to stop because I want to change who I am.. It's a lot more complicated then that.. A LOT! And I try and try and change but the won't let me! Like as I grow up and say... I want I new hair cut or something they won't let me! It's so annoying!!! But if I tell them to stop I'll get in big trouble for something... I just needs someone to tell me how to go on with this :frowning: trust me.. It got to the point where I couldn't handle it anymore and thought about killing myself or running away.. I need help.. :'(
Welcome to A2A, EmoMonster. You don't indicate how old you are and that is some pretty important information that would help in a response.
Oh sorry.. I am 12 almost 13.. The age on my account is stuffed up..
Parents often find it hard to adjust as their children grow up and become more independent. They think of them as the infants and little children they once were, needing only looking after. Suddenly their child is thinking independently, and indeed often deliberately opposing them because that is the natural way to assert independence, yet still dependent on them. It takes a lot of adjusting to the new realities, and some parents do it better than others. (Mine didn't do it well.)
It may at least give a little comfort to know that most people have to battle with their parents as they grow up. It takes a long time, some years usually, but eventually some sort of truce develops in which both sides respect the other more, or at least accept they can't change each other.
It helps if you can show that you can make sensible decisions, and that you can accept the consequences of your decisions if they turn out to be the wrong ones, as some decisions inevitably will be. But some parents need a lot of showing, and it can be a slow process. With some parents you just have to look forward to when you are able to leave.
Ok thankyou! I will keep that In mind