Bj's

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this will sound hard to beleive (it is to the ppl who know) several years ago i was forced to give a bj (held my head at his dick until i did it) and therefore have trouble doing it now. any tips to get past this? also - i dont really like the taste of semen, this could or could not be related.. have heard of using 'head candy' - does that really work to cover the taste?

I'm very sorry, a079759. That was rape. I'm not surprised you find it hard to do now. :frowning:

yeah it was - and i've dealt with it somewhat - was able to give my soon to be ex husband a few when he came back from war - but to me that was a special cercumstance. i mean - it was WAR ya know? i guess i need to figure out a tenique of sorts? for bj's that is.

it seems to be some sort of rape.a079759 did you know the boy at the time when he forced you to give blowjob?i am not blaming you but i know that some girls do it with their consent and pretends to be forced.or in other words, most willing-girls pretends to be unwilling at first.

i did know him.. and it was forced. he was a football player and a big guy, and he held my head down until i did what he wanted. i have gotten past a lot of it.. for a long time i couldn't do it at all - or even attempt without flash backs.. it took the ex a long time to get used to that. but i finally got past that part.

In reply to:i did know him.. and it was forced. he was a football player and a big guy, and he held my head down until i did what he wanted. i have gotten past a lot of it.. for a long time i couldn't do it at all - or even attempt without flash backs.. it took the ex a long time to get used to that. but i finally got past that part.what do you think he would do if you had not obeyed him?and were you willing to have sex (without BJ) with him at that time?

i dont know what he would have done. and no i wasn't willing to have sex at that time. could anyone who replies please reply to the question i asked and not the circumstances that caused me to ask it?

I was sexually abused as a child so I have some experience getting beyond that type of stuff, and worse. My first orgasm was while being abused. Try to get your head around that. (And if anyone tries to say I liked it go "f" yourself.) Anyway, the best thing you can do is accept ALL the feelings you have about it. The sadness, the anger, the guilt, the embarrassment, even if some part of you liked being dominated, all of it. Once you've come to terms with them then you can begin to move beyond it. As long as you fight how you feel it will have a hold on you. Know that it has changed you forever and learn to be happy with who you are now. If you don’t feel uncomfortable giving bj’s don’t give them. Someday you’ll move beyond that, if you accept that’s how you feel because of what happened. Someday, you will no longer associate them with that. You’ll give one to someone you love and from that point on you’ll associate them with the new experience. Don’t be so hard on yourself. This is going to be a tough thing to get through. Give yourself time, a lot of time, to get over it. Take a deep breath, and smile. You will get through this.

Some advice for the taste...don't feel bad, alot of people don't like the taste. I haven't heard of the head candy, but you could always use things in your own fridge. Like whipped cream, chocolate syrup etc. They work really good to mask the taste of his cum. I'm sorry, I don't really know how to get over the 'mental' trauma. Maybe just try to relax and think about how nice it is to give pleasure to someone you really care about.

girls can reach orgasms being raped? than they must like it lol

That was a pretty stupid comment.

Actaully he was eating me, it was my grandmother's bf, and the physial act did feel good. Which is not that same as liking it.At least I've had one, which is more than can be said about your girlfriends.

no dissrespect, but thats pretty sad of pac man. Then you go and put yourself in his place and making urself go lower than him but actully being proud of being raped...just my opinion. Well c'mon its like if ur fighting with someone and u say "i was raped and had an orgasmn unlike ur girlfriend so there!" lol pretty Naff on ur part.

I'm not proud of being abused, but I'm not ashamed either. On top of that, it's my right to feel however I feel about it.

allow it..nuff said

Alright I think we are past the part of what happened, but yes that is surprising and sad, though some people are immature about such things, nothing can change the past and thats it. As for making it taste less strong I have heard of a system awhile back. Try altoids and mints, the feeling is supposed to make it special for a guy and it will also cut down on the taste alot. Besides the loose little mints are impossible to guess where they move next and can be used to enhance it greatly. Though if you want to cut it out without that try to deepthroat it so you don't taste any, and it feels great for a guy. Just try not to have your gag reflex act up because you won't be able to do it then, it takes some good practice and may be a few horrible times for a guy, but its a good thing to learn to stop the taste problem and make it better for both.Try it and get back to us on the board, its always good to know what works and what doesn't for other people with the same problems.

i can't deep throat b/c my gag is too sensitive. i will get back but it will be a while - the person i want to give them to is currently deployed to iraq - due back mid january.