actions define themselves- that is, anyone can look and say, "he's jumping."you define yourself- that is, no matter what you've done or plan to do, if today you say "I am straight," then you are.If you WANT to/would have sex with other women but can't/won't because of some external factor, sure, you're bi in some small way by my way of looking at it, but you aren't eternally bi, are you?Mostly I bring this all up because of the fear people have of the word 'gay'. I'm not gay, but I think it's a big deal. 'Gay' is scarier than 'cancer', it's scarier than 'murderer', it's scarier than 'terrorist'. Your typical 'straight' white guy is so scared of the word he never even ponders why he's so scared of it. It's pathetic how brainwashed a good portion of the country is, and how wracked with guilt they are over miniscule and stupid things.It's largely because people are afraid to ask anyone else that they come here wondering about 'gay', and when people here smack them with the same thoughtless rhetoric about 'gay', they aren't being shown the light, they're just having the same fears reinforced by the few anonymous people who should be there to try and pull the wool from their eyes.You do have a point: if you can get it up for a gay fantasy, you might be gay, however, we all know many fantasies were never meant to see the light of day. That, and you personal definition of who you are should be the one that others respect whether they know better or not- in order to know how to define yourself you have to know yourself, and you do not end up knowing yourself better with other people telling you who you are.'s all.
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Is it possible 4A str8 guy to give a bj to a guy
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I don't think so!
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it's samantics. homo. hetro, metro, whatever, it's all sexual.
define me, i dare you!
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it IS all semantics. the only thing separating us from common apes is semantics.and you can go around flaunting graceless semantics, or you can go around showing that you give a crap.I wouldn't dare define you: that's your job. If you choose to go undefined, it's just as respectable.
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sorry Action, that wasn't meant to come off sounding confrontational. It was intended more to be rhetorical.We organize and categorize, it’s in our nature. Pigeon-holing tends to bug me a bit, that’s all.
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Oh, no no, it is I who must apologise.I proof what I type, but I forget to check to make sure I don't sound all wound up and grumpy.Didn't mean to at all. You were sharing, I just meant to share back.
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thanks
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That is most definitely a homosexual act. You may not be a homosexual but the act itself is homosexual. And if the thought of giving another guy oral sex arouses you it is possible you are gay/bi, however you wish to label yourself. People really try to blur the lines and introduce shades of gray. But we are products of our environments and perhaps I grew up differently than you guys. Because I have never had the urge to engage in sexual activity of any kind with a guy. Far be it from me to tell others how to live their lives. You're only here once so you gotta be happy, but call a spade a spade.in the statement "Let's say you rob a bank. You can later realize it's not a way of life for you, and decide never to do it again. You can then say:"I am not a criminal. I have commited crimes, but I have realized that that way is wrong for me. I have discovered the error of my ways."Actually that man is still a criminal. He may have changed his ways, but in that example he is and always will be a convicted criminal. according to dictionary.com That guy is still a criminal. Even without the definition he would still be a convicted criminal. He may get out of jail and be a pillar of the community, but he still remains a criminal.And the statement gay is scarier than murderer.... Have you taken a look at society lately. A lot of pop culture is being driven towards a more for lack of a better phrase "gay culture". Everything from tv shows, music, pop stars etc a lot of them are gay. And a lot of them are raking in the money. Gay is chic now. I find it hard to believe that the bulk of society thinks gay is scarier than murderer. You may have been able to say that a decade or two ago, but now... come on.
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In reply to your "man is still a criminal" comment, I am referencing the hilarious movie Meet the Parents. When the father is asking a series of questions to Ben Stiller, the question comes: "Are you a pothead?" Ben replies "No." The next question asked is: "Have you ever smoked pot?" Ben replies "yes." This can be related to the pertaining topic. "Is one gay if they perform a sexual act on a person of the same gender?"No. Homosexuality is a state of mind. Although I do agree that the act itself is homosexual, this definetly does not make the persons involved gay. Even if you keep doing it (I reccommend against this, you'll get lots of jeers if people find out) it doesn't make you gay unless you say to yourself "I am attracted to people that are my sex." So while the acts themselves are gay, if you don't find attraction to people of your same gender, you are not gay.
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I will agree with you that a guy giving another guy a bj is a homosexual act. However, I have to agree with some other people who have posted. It doesn't mean that the guys involved are gay.I recently saw a special on prisons and the military. There is a lot of sex that goes on in both of those places because of a lack of women. Does this mean that our prisons and military are full of gay people? No (although I am sure there are many who are). They just needed release. However, they were doing the homosexual acts, most of them are not gay or bi. Once out of prison many of them never do stuff with a guy again. Of course the special's focus was around the spread of AIDS do to lack of condoms in prisons. But that shows many guys are having sex in prisons. So I don't think doing the homosexual act means you are gay. Sex is sex. Guys are sexual. Screwing around with another guy is just that. I think to be a true homosexual, you have to also be emotionally homosexual (as in mentually attracted/connected to the same sex). Does that make sense?
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For the longest time i would of said your still "str8" because I use to jack off my friend and we gave each other head now and then and I use to think I was str8. But now I know i'm not really... since that happen when I was young I learned that it's not that bad. So I would say your bi..
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SuMadre said"No. Homosexuality is a state of mind."Right, it is. You make a choice to engage in those acts. There are girls available, you can always masturbate, etc. But you are making a choice to jerk off your friend, whatever is involved. Im not trying to gay bash but saying that that is perfectly straight behavior is not correct. "Even if you keep doing it (I reccommend against this, you'll get lots of jeers if people find out) it doesn't make you gay"Really? So after doing it once and finding out that it is very sexually gratifying and something you enjoy doing, this doesn't make you bi or gay. Look, right after you do it once if you say to yourself DAMN, I liked that lets do it again, thats a good sign you may be gay or bi. If it didn't feel good you probably wouldn't do it again."unless you say to yourself "I am attracted to people that are my sex." So while the acts themselves are gay, if you don't find attraction to people of your same gender, you are not gay. "The acts themselves are gay, but something must be attracting you to them or you probably wouldn't be doing it in the first place. DarkShadow88 Said"I recently saw a special on prisons and the military. There is a lot of sex that goes on in both of those places because of a lack of women. Does this mean that our prisons and military are full of gay people?"You're right there about prisons. I didn't see the special in question, so its kind of hard for me to comment on this but keep in mind a lot of people are raped in prisons and a lot of the people that are lifers in there turn into homosexuals. If you're going to die in prison, and your surrounded by guys, chances are you're going to fuck one of them.As for the military, You just mentioned sex in the military. You realize there is a large population of female recruits in there. Did the special mention specifically gay sex or all types of sex. I had a friend in the military and in some of her letters she wrote from boot camp she mentioned about guys getting together with girls on base who wound up pregnant. And she did mention there was a lot of sex and fooling around going on. With the huge influx of women in the military its bound to happen."They just needed release. However, they were doing the homosexual acts, most of them are not gay or bi. Once out of prison many of them never do stuff with a guy again. Of course the special's focus was around the spread of AIDS do to lack of condoms in prisons. But that shows many guys are having sex in prisons."Did that show mention the rape in prisons? I would be willing to bet the number of guys that engaged in gay sex willingly is actually really small. Like I was saying before I would be willing to bet its the people that are in there for life who have nothing to lose. If I were in prison and it wasn't a life sentence, I would masturbate instead of having sex with some guy. Thats just me though."So I don't think doing the homosexual act means you are gay."So if I go steal a car stereo just once for some extra $$$, that doesn't make me a thief ?"Sex is sex. Guys are sexual. Screwing around with another guy is just that."Guys are sexual, it doesn't mean it has to be with each other. There are plenty of ways to get a release without it being with another guy. "I think to be a true homosexual, you have to also be emotionally homosexual (as in mentually attracted/connected to the same sex). Does that make sense?"So if you are not attracted to a guy why engage in sexual acts with him? Maybe my mind works differently but If I have sex with a girl its because I'm attracted to her physically, emotionaly, whatever. There is some attraction there. I don't have sex with a girl and have a neutral feeling about her. Something excites me about her whether its her tits or her mind, something is attracting me to her. If you've messed around with a guy thats fine, but thats not straight behavior. You're probably gay or bi. And frankly I don't care what you do but you can't call yourself straight.
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yep it is called expermenting
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I have to agree it is expermenting
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two of my guy friends have given each other head. They're not gay or bi they were just curious.
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haha very nicely put my friend. Especially the stereo - thief part..."So killing one person just to see what it's like, doesn't make you a killer?" P.S. I wasn't quoting anybody on these boards.
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I don't think so. I'm straight and I'd never do it. But it seems a lot of people are predominantly straight but do take part in some homosexual activity. If you beleive straight means only attracted to women sexually then I guess it is not possible for a straight guy to do a bj under normal circumstances (ie. no gun to ones head).
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This thread is dead, the original poster was a fucking paedophile looking for sex stories from kids!!!
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prior to puberty, many kids experiement. After puberty, especially in the late teen years, if a peron of one sex gives sexual pleasure directly to another person of the same sex, that is, by definition, a same sex act, therefore, a homosexual act. SOme might split hairs and suggest that it was not an emotional investment, so it is not really the act of homosexuality, but I cannot see how one cannot engage in any sexual act with a member of the same sex and NOT have an emotional investment. The short version...if a person commits a sex act with a person of the same sex after peuberty, then they have committed a homosexual act. Does that make someone bisexual or gay? Smoke usually accompanies fire, or so I have been told.
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Sure you can give a bj to a guy. I have been a heterosexual homo for over 5 years now. It's a lot easier to get someone to concent if you just repeat "It's ok, you'll still be straight when we're done." Teens under 18 especially.