The most experince in wanking, ha ha, I know there is a complement in there somewhere! lol Have you shown your girlfriend this site? I think that might be a good idea. As to problems climaxing, there are any number of inhibitors to sexual release. You said that if anybody was stressed it was you; maybe she has picked up on this, in fact I'd be surprised if she hadnt. I think your best bet is to stop making her orgasm the 'prize' as it were, that you are both seeking. Just as a man sometimes has problems 'preforming' (I hate that word when related to sex, it's not as if you're both on a bloody stage!) women too can feel under pressure to function 'normally' when it comes to sex and orgasms in particular. If a women, for example, knows that her partners previous girlfriend had no problem coming several times a session it will often intimidate her and create feelings of inadequacy and inferiority in her mind, and because good sex is A LOT more mental than most people realise, thoughts like that will inevitably interfer with whats going on between the couple in bed. A women with a low body image, for example, often faces HUGE problems reaching climax because all the negativity racing round her head puts a mental blocker on her ability to esculate sexually to the point of orgasm.What I suspect may be going on here is that your girlfriend, regardless of how comfortable she may be, is under some degree of mental pressure to come. Women can feel less than fully female if they have what they regard to be 'problems' in this area. I'd had more lovers than I'd like to tell you before I first came, and when I did there was no other person with me in the bed!I think your girlfriend may need to get back into the masturbating till she gets it down pat; I often masturbate with my boyfriend lying beside me stimulating my nipples with his tounge and toutching me all over. It's just bloody fabulous, the feeling of being touched all over while I'm bringing myself off, you should both give that a go.Also, there's a little technique that makes the clitorus MUCH more sensitive, I may have mentioned it on here before, but I cant remember so here goes: If you place your hand about midway on her public bone and pull the skin up by a couple of inches and seperate her outer lips so her clitorus is much more exposed it also has the effect of makeing it so much more sensitive you wouldnt believe. Give that a go and if it works for you half as well as it works for me you'll be well on your way!I'm sorry for the late reply, I just dont visit this thread very much anymore. By the way, you sometimes forget when you respond to a specific post that many other people will read it and some may benefit from it and that's nice to know! Hope all goes well for you, I think it will as long as you stop making the orgasm the primary goal because when you do that it lessens the sexual experience you've just had when she hasnt had one, with isnt good for your sex life in any way. It's not always the be all and end all, I've had some very beautiful sex in my life with no climax involved. Anyway, you can be sure it'll be when you stop stressing about it that it'll arrive!
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Best way to masterbate for girls
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In reply to:last night i rubbed my clit....first just stroking it back and forth...with underwear on because i like how it feels...and once i started getting into it i would rub harder...in circular motions...then when it felt like it was too much to handle i slowed it down again...i was kinda teasing myself. i cummed at the end...it was amazingi did that last night i love how my fingers just touch my pants.. i find that if i do it skin to skin it doesnt last as long
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whenever Im penetrating myself, I always get waves of pelasure throughout my body, and it feels great. I also feel like Im going to pee too, and usually at some point I squirt. But I never have orgasms like the ones I have when Im stimulating my clit. I know when I do then because its so strong and there are tons of contractions after. But when Im just penetrating myself, it get better and better, and I feel like I want to come really bad, and I can feel it coming, but I just dont. I dont get the relief I should I think. And should you only be squirting from orgasm? I heard there is a wrong way to do it and a right way. That you could just be pushing to hard on your g-spot. Not actually forcing the liquids out.
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I've found recently that it works better for me to use a pillow or somethin'. Get a pillow or stuffed animal or anything like that, put a towel over it and hump it.
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hi i'm 12 and i have never masterbated do you have any tips
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i have been materbating since i was about 7. humping blankets has always been good to me. Dont use objects until you are comfortable and used to masterbating. enjoy it and take it slow. youll get used to it.
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Yes an electric drill.. Thats going to work wonders......I wont even ask...But thanks for making my day.....electric drill LMAO!
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how can i be sure im accualy having an orgasm?
I belive i am, cuz the feeling is over whelming, im just not sure if I am or not. And Ive been doing almost the same thing since i was a little girl(about 7 yrs) experimenting with other little boys, and I came accross my little trick, but i updated it an started using my fingers too;)
But yeh, is there any particular way to accualy KNOW if im having an orgasm? And I dont think Im cumming either. -
I am new on here... I was molested when I was 8 up until about 2 years ago. I am 13 almost 14 and that person did nasty stuff to me it is now stuck in my head. Now I at least masturbate daily and I was wondering if it is normal and okay to be masturbating at this age? What should I do?
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Quite normal, Cheyenne, and welcome to the boards.The healing process from what you have suffered is a slow one, but you are already a survivor.