Fall Out of Love

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Alright. I got off the phone with her. This is what happened in relation to the list.1. She agreed that if I got a girlfriend she'd back off of me a lot. And that she'd back off of me a little bit right now.2. She understands that I'll always have feelings for her. But she believes I'll never always be in love with her.3. She still wants me to move up North with her. I agreed.4. She said I shouldn't blow things out of proportion5. She agreed she wouldn't tell me when she's going to go see him6. Already said she agreed to back off me All in all, I'm happy with the results. Reached a compromise. Feels like governemnt or somthing.

So does that mean you're moving with her? I don't understand why you'd do that, if you don't want to see her.

I want her to still be my best friend, yet I want to get over her. I've decided it's an internal conflict that I need to battle on my own. The whole moving with her thing won't be until 2 years. Who knows what's going to happen until then. But if it were right now, and we were both done with our associate degrees, then I'd move up there with her.

2 years until the move. A lot can happen until then. She doesn't know what she wants and she doesn't know for sure what she wants to do. She's one of those live for the day kind of people.

I'm tired of being used now. I want a girl who will love me back. I want a girl who will treat me as good as I'll treat her. Right now, she's not the girl I want. When she becomes older and more mature we'll probably be perfect for each other. By then, she'll have missed out on me. A girl will realize how happy I can make her and how much she can love me.........Any takers?

you sound like a romantic, and I sure as hell know I am.I have discovered romantics never seem to catch any breaks! The girls you don't pursue think your sweet but 'the one' takes no notice Good luck finding love.

Yeah, I am a hopeless romantic. It kills me sometimes. I'll need the luck.

In reply to: I'm tired of being used now. I want a girl who will love me back. I want a girl who will treat me as good as I'll treat her ...Don't we all...

If every man got their wish when they say, "I want a girl who will treat me as good as I'll treat her", than a bunch of guys wouldn't have a girl that treats them good because they don't know how to treat them good first.

Sings Weezer's I want a girl

Ok. Big step tonight. She was really upset because I wrote her an e-mail saying it hurt that she comes over to my house and calls her boyfriend and that I didn't want her to do it from my house anymore.She was over at one of my buddie's houses talking to him about me since she had no one else to go to really. Well, I decided I'm going to show up at his house while she's there without them knowing! Surprise!!!! I knew something was going to happen.Anyways, long story short. It was a big bitch out on her part. I didn't have a chance to say much. One of the last things I said, "I need you to be my friend." Right after that she responds, "fuck you" and gets into the car.I'm still a little messed up about it, so I'm gonna stop writing now.

Guess it was a bad day for all of us...my condolences. *hug*

ok first: were they fooling around? If not I don't see what the big deal is. secondly: if they are fooling around I'd be a little crushed myself, more mad at my friend then anything because chances are you've told your friend how you feel about her so the "unwritten code of man" would mean she is hands off.If she wasn't fooling around maybe she needs time away from you to think things through and find out what she wants from the relationship you guys have. And by barging in when she was communicating with one of your friends might have made u appear to be a little clingy or emotional.I know you get sorta paranoid when you seem to be the only one with nothing to do but from my experiences most things come about in a positive way. I'm sorta like you but I generally let things play out and try to remain cool about it. I suggest apologizing, doesn't matter if your right or wrong about anything....if a woman is involved your ass is wrong no matter what so you might as well get it over with. Maybe take a break from eachother...a few days or a week apart. It'll give you both time to reflect on what went on and were things got rough. Hope this helps.

Yeah, if I didn't show up like I did, I would have NEVER been able to talk to her. I'm pretty sure she had it in her head that she wasn't going to talk to me anymore because it happened before.I've already decided I'm going to avoid her for the next month to three months. I always want to be there as a friend, not a best friend, but only if she wants me that way. I couldn't be the person she wanted me to be. In order for me to become that person, I had to tell her it hurt me that she calls him at my house and cut off that vital string for a while. I had all intention of going back to what we were as soon as I was very sure I could move on, but she didn't give me the time I needed.She knew I had feelings for her. She knew she could play me like a puppet, and she was. When I cut the strings, shit hit the fan.I'm moving on. "fuck you" she said to me. I will always remember that moment. After 4 years of friendship and shit we've went through, she couldn't give me time to lose my romantic interest in her.

Thank you.

Move on, websex. It sounds like things are moving - messily, but that's normal.One day it will all be in the past.

yes.

I went through a similar thing with my first love. After we broke up, we went through hell and tried to hate each other. It took two years, me moving away, and new love interests in both our lives before we could be good friends again. But now we are close. Just keep the lines open, and someday it will heal itself w/out you even realizing it happened.

Since I've been concentrating on myself, things have been weary. But my boss gave me a small thing to look forward to. He gave me the mileage benefit. For every mile I drive, I receive 80 cents, or something like that. So my gas is paid for as long as I'm working. Yet I found myself a lot more bossy with the people I work over the last few days. School teachers, administrators, and such. Need to change that.Self fulfillment, right django. I'm striving for it.

How would one start to gain self-fulfillment?