Ive been sexually acting now for quite a few monnths, but when ever i have sex with my boyfriend i can't seem to orgasm. When i play with my self i orgasm but thats throu alot of clit stimulation, when my boyfriend goes in me it feels good but i cant seem to get as far as to orgasm. Is it because ive been playing too much with myself? Ive heard 70% of women cant orgasm throu penetration, i want to but what can we do??? PLEASE HELP ASAP!!!
I can't orgasm!!!!!
You say that you orgasm from clit stimulation. Is your bf also stimulating your clit or just going for vaginal penetration? You might try being on top and grinding your clit into his pelvic bone, if he can last that long. I doubt that it has anything to do with you playing with yourself too much, but rather techniqe that needs improvement.
He might hold off penetration until you are close to orgasm by oral or him stimulating your clit and fingering you.
I think a lot of girls probably finish more often and better when they are in control. Have you tried getting on top and doing whatever feels good to you! It's a much better position for clitoral stimulation anyway.
Yes i have tried being on top too, and it felt really good with my clit grinding against him, but i still couldnt finish!!! Anymore?
Did he finish before you????
The grinding on top is the best way to orgasm ... try it for a longer period of time or maybe make sure there is enough 4play before penetration... that way it'll be a bit easier.
LOL... It took me a 1½ years to orgasm with my ex... but now that i learned how to do it well... I can prty much orgasm with anyone I have sex with.
so keep trying.
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Every lady is different. Some never orgasm and some (like my wife) will orgasm, at the drop of a hat.
People here may chastise me for saying this but sex is at least 90% mental. Your mind is the biggest sexual organ you have next to your skin. Stimulate the mind towards sex and everything else will fall into place.
My wife and I work very long hours and it's difficult to find personal time together. When we do, I make love to her all day long. It's a build up to things that will happen later. Phone calls, sending flowers, notes stuffed in her purse, a small gift, flirting, etc.. She is mentally primed and darn near rips my clothes off later.
An inexperienced young man doesn't know entirely what to do. For myself, I needed to be taught, when young.
Talk to him, experiment, teach him what makes you feel good! My role, is to please my wife to the max. I don't care, if I cum or not (old age setting in.)
Work on the mental plus LOTS of foreplay and you may find yourself orgasming alot sooner. Juat a grain of salt.
I can never orgasm through penetration, no matter what i try or what the guy does, it just doesnt happen but we manage to work around that, by stimulation and other stuff. i heard the same stat, so im not worried about it.
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i had the same problem with my bf until we started to experiment. try different positions. i find i orgasm the fastest in missionary but i tip my hips up so that my clit gets rubbed as well as my g-spot.. you might also want to try spooning as you or him can stimulate it as you have sex
yea i ve heard of this problem before i have 2 things for you to try
1. Buy the book named She Comes First great book has alot of oral sex tips
2. tell your BF the way you like it(you know the way you pleasure your self what do you do to make yourself have a
as said, alot of clit stimulation, fingerings before hand (pun). it took my girlfriend forever to do it with me. she actually had never done it untill i made her do it. we found that if we do missionary. and she has something under her butt. like a pellow, or something like that, that it rasies her hips to a great angle to get it going in the right direction (with the puns agian.)
hope it helps, try pellows, maybe even 2!
if he cums too soon, then talk to him, tell him you dont orgasm during sex, and sugest to him that he masturbate before sex, not right before, but within the couple hours before. this way, he wont finish first...have him play wiht your clit too during sex, or you can play with it yourself.
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