i havent had sex in a while since ive been raped. me and the boi that i have been talking to have gotten serious. he wants to have sex and ive even gonna on teh pill 4 the 3 months, but everytime the subject comes up, i break down and cry. i want to have sex but i cant pu mysef to do it. wat sha i do now?
See a therapist. You have some deep seated issue with the rape you've been though. You need someone to help you sort and separate the emotions dealing with teh rape.
I totally agree with SPD.
But also cut yourself some slack. Rape isn't some small thing to wipe away. Just have faith in yourself. You will get through it. You can be happy and have a normal sex life again.
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I'd just add to both of those very good pieces of advice that you should make sure your boyfriend understands how you feel, and why.
i agree also...the only way its gonna get better is with therapy. without it, you may develop a phobia to sex.
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