Too scared

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Sorry if this is the wrong board, my bf wants me to give him a hand job, i dont know how, i want to but keep making excuses because im too scared of doing it wrong, im too scared to do oral for the same reasons- he thinks im being selfish, what if i mess up and it makes me look bad? ive watched him before like masturbating but his hand just becomes a blur, it looks complicated. plz dont tell me to tell him this, i really want that to be my last option, thanks all

A handjob is just stroking his penis, feeling his balls, playing with them. It isn't complicated, it only seems so because he goes so fast, but that takes years of practice.

The idea is to stroke a rigid pole...how far off can you go? As long as you don't use power tools, you won't break anything.Whether or not your boyfriend is experienced, he can tell you what feels good. Just keep doing what feels good and don't do what feels bad. Communication is important.

Thats all it is? just stroking, he seems to hold it like an 'o' shape and well, yeah goes really fast

First of all hon, relax, the very fact that someone else hand will be doing the work for him will turn him on anyway seriously tho, start by running your fingers up and down his length, familiarise yourself with it, then wrap your fingers gently around it and move it up and down, when your happy that hes happy, tighten the pressure, and increase the speed a little as you do. You can use your other hand to fondle his balls, and when the head gets wet with pre-cum smear it over the head with your finger in circles..... don't expect to be able to do it as fast as he does, and to be honest there won't be any need......listen to his breathing and any sounds he makes to get a better idea how much he is enjoying it, and most of all YOU enjoy doing it

aw thankyou angel, i really do panic over stuff, im scared but i guess ill have to try, thanks so much

Try it with thumb and forefinger, try it with an open fist, rotate your fist, try it with lubricant (KY, or one of those expensive sex lubes)...use your imagination. Vary your tecnique (if you don't use lube and rub the exact same spot for a long time, you might irritate the skin).

Unless you boyfriend is a complete jerk, he will be happy to work with you on this...trust me. He's the one getting the physical benefit here; you get the benefit of making him feel good.

Yes, thank you Angel, you just gave every guy on this site an erection!!

Have him show you how he masturbates. When he does, you will have a lot of the knowledge that you need.

i know it sounds bad but maybe i should practice on one of my lad friends first so i know ill get it right with my boyfriend

NOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!My god don't do that, I know where your coming from, but how would you feel if you foudn out he practised licking a girls clit on one of his girl freinds......you will be fine, just relax and both enjoy it.....don't wanna sound like a perv but let us know how it all went laffin ok that did sound pervy, i mean, an everything went great would do it

Yeah, don't forget, everyone who does it had to do it a first time.

Now this is starting to sound like a soap opera....are you kidding? How about your boyfriend starts practicing with one of his chick friends? Or one of his lad friends?Are you pulling our (third) leg here?

In reply to: Yes, thank you Angel, you just gave every guy on this site an erection!! Nah Bob, I think thats just you kiss LOL

Sorry that was a pretty silly thing to think about doing, you are right, i would go crazy if he did something with someone else, its weird because i feel so open with him about everything, its just this i cant talk about with him, but im gonna just take the plunge, he gets back from his holiday either 2morra or monday so ive got at least one day to pluck up the courage, thanks all

hehe steve said: " Or one of his lad friends?"Got me thinking, mmm id quite like that, wouldnt mind at all!! And thanks angel, i think you are so funny- brilliant!!!!

In reply to: And thanks angel, i think you are so funny- brilliant!!!! Aww thankyou honey, and your welcome, anytime, I can't wait to know what happens now grin ok ok i know i am sad and have no life.....but so what laffin

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i feel so open with him about everything, its just this i cant talk about with him

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You seem to have no problem talking about your sexual issues here with perfect strangers. Why don't you have him join the thread. Then he can understand your situation without actually having to talk to you about it.

STEVEA-I think sometimes its easy to talk to strangers about problems, its not personal and its an easy way to gain information from many different people, infact isnt that what this whole web site is for, i think she (miss betty) is doing the right thing, she's come to a place where we are all open and here to help and which is good as there are some problems you cant always share with another person involved in the problem- situation what ever. good luck chick.

Yeah, I wouldn't be able to post the some of the stuff that I do here if anyone I knew was on here... I just feel more comfortable knowing that you guys aren't my next door neighbours or the guy who sits behind me or the girl that gave me a blowjob when I was drunk or... you get the idea.