13 year old forced to have circumcision

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I picked this up on another forum. If you want the link to the entire thread PM me for it. He is now circumcised and not too happy about it. In reply to: Hi... Ive been a lurker here for a while. I will be 14 in March. family is of Muslim faith and our faith requires circumcision. I have tried to make my parents forget about this by ignoring it forever. But I had my yearly physical last week and the doctor told my parents that I am very close to starting puberty. If you dont know, a muslim boy has to be circumcised before puberty to become a man.Yesterday after school I saw a urologist, who is also muslim. My parents said that he will be preforming the circumcision and that I needed a checkup by him before they could schedule an apointment. He inspected my cock... measured my foreskin.. retracted it and showed me what would be done and how much would be 'cut away'. My dad insists on a 'high and tight' and im not allowed to have any pain killers, because that would take away the reasonings for entering manhood.I get gifts and money after its done, and im supposed to invite some friends over for a party, sorta like a birthday party... WTF...My mother wanted to have this done a few years ago, but I cried and cried and my parents said, "well its got to happen sometime, you can pick the time when your ready" I hope that they would just totaly forget about it and i woudlnt have to have it done. But my dad says it needs to be done before I start growing so i 'grow into it' and dont have problems.has anyone ever had bee circumcised as a teenager? Can I FORCE my parents not to make me have this done? Im quite scared... Whats it going to do to me ajacking off and stuff?

In some parts of the world, female genital mutilation is practiced (mainly northern African Moslem countries). Some would argue that circumcision is a form of mutilation as well (and one sanctioned by religion).

one question...why did u post this here? It's obviously part of his transformation into a man. And if you look at other cultures, that have no affiliation with God, their transformation into mandhood is far more severe. One culture in Africa requires that their young males jump off a platform that is over 30 feet high, with their legs bound by homemade...HOMEMADE ropes. They pass if they survive. And I'm positive legs do get broken, and these people have to anethesia as well.

I don't think a clidetomy is any worse than male circumcision. All it is is removal of the clitoral hood. That's no worse than removing the foreskin. But it is still considered to be genital mutiliation along with the other kinds of female circumcision.

Of course, cliterectomies and the stitching up the vagina etc. are acts of mutilation. But people group all the kinds of female circumcision into one.

This looks like one of those situations where someone who has moved from one culture to the other is so insistent on keeping the old culture that he goes further than people are now doing in his old homeland. It often happens that old customs are continued by expatriates that have died out in the homeland, and with more strictness than they ever had there.

Circumcision is indeed part of the Muslim religion, but no anaesthesia is not necessarily part of it, nor need it be "high and tight". Assuming this boy was in the West, he could have refused the procedure - indeed the urologist could still be sued if he failed to give consent. However, the result would have been estrangement from his father and (probably) his religion.

well, if your parents are loving, they will respect your wishes, but only if your wishes do not conflict with your greater good. your parents here see that you need to be cut in order to enter your manhood. i cannot agree, or dissagree on either opnion. but, if you feel real strongly about this incodent, there is something you can do to stop your parents. this does not classify as child abuse, there are some actions you may take.according to the department of children services, child abuse has 5 main classifications, one of which is emotional abuse. this is a quote from there deffinition of abuse. Emotional abuse - Any attitude or behavior which interferes with a child's mental health or social development. This includes yelling, screaming, name-calling, shaming, negative comparisons to others, telling them they are "bad, no good, worthless" or "a mistake". It also includes the failure to provide the affection and support necessary for the development of a child's emotional, social, physical and intellectual well-being. This includes ignoring, lack of appropriate physical affection (hugs), not saying "I love you", withdrawal of attention, lack of praise, and lack of positive reinforcement. if you feel strongly enough about this situation, give the center a call, and they can help direct you as to whom to talk to, and to what rights you have. 1-800-827-8724

omg...CPS? come on...all centers? give me a break...the dude's getting circumcised...not losing a limb. It's in the name of his faith, and culture..telling him to go against that, really goes against the very thing that makes him, him. You're asking him to go against his, religion, and parents? Tell that guy he needs to stop worrying about becoming a man, and worry more about what his responsibilities will be, and what makes him a man, not referring to the "mutilation" which some people still like to use to categorize this specific procedure.

In reply to: This looks like one of those situations where someone who has moved from one culture to the other is so insistent on keeping the old culture that he goes further than people are now doing in his old homeland. It often happens that old customs are continued by expatriates that have died out in the homeland, and with more strictness than they ever had there.Circumcision is indeed part of the Muslim religion, but no anaesthesia is not necessarily part of it, nor need it be "high and tight". Assuming this boy was in the West, he could have refused the procedure - indeed the urologist could still be sued if he failed to give consent. However, the result would have been estrangement from his father and (probably) his religion. The family is of the Muslim culture but does not practice the Muslim faith and the son has never received any religious instruction in any faith. This happened in the USA. He now hates his father and refused to allow him to witness the circumcision. The family finally did permit the use of pain killers. The link I have to where he posted this story, and about five pages of posts, is to another site. May I post the link?

In reply to: I will be 14 in March. family is of Muslim faith and our faith requires circumcision. really? not of muslim faith...well maybe the cut and paste messed something up.

In reply to: In reply to: I will be 14 in March. family is of Muslim faith and our faith requires circumcision.really? not of muslim faith...well maybe the cut and paste messed something up. My cut and paste works fine. I said they do not practice the faith. Here is another cut and paste from the information on the other site: In reply to: My family's faith by nature is Muslim, However I dont see in any of our days or years that we have ever really practiced any of the relegion. So in many ways this is a bafflement to me. In this culture that I know nothing about males are to be circumcised before they enter puberty.

i have to agree with no1 on this one. A male circumcision is relatively better in the shape that the male still retains feeling is his gland. where as they remove the clitoris itself in some cases. They even give it a different name for f**ks sake. FGM, female genital mutalation, as opposed to female circumcision.

I see no problem if you want to post the link, Nazgul.

So, even though circumcision in the case of the 13-year-old is not as bad as a clitoridectomy (excision of the clitoris), the boy didn't want it. How about if the parents just broke his leg instead? Maybe that would be a sufficient covenant with God.Forcing a 13-year-old to have a circumcision (i.e., unwanted, unnecessary surgery) is abusive any way you look at it. But when religion comes into play, logic flies out the window.

it's not just a covenant with God, it's a passage from childhood to manhood. You can not despise something from another culture purely based on what you think is right or wrong.

In reply to:You can not despise something from another culture purely based on what you think is right or wrong.Then I can't despise female genital mutilation, or lynching, since at different times and places, they are culturally accepted? Are there no absolute bounds to behavior, because everything is relative? If circumcision is a part of my culture, am I allowed to have a problem with it? Are you totally cool with Sharia law?There are a lot of traditions that are just plain stupid. Performing an unneeded surgery (with its inherent risks) when there's no medical indication for it is one of those. The fact that there's evidence that it has an adverse effect on sensation makes it that much worse.(For what it's worth, I was circumcised in a traditional ritual. I was unable to defend myself as an infant.)

In reply to: I see no problem if you want to post the link, Nazgul. Thanks. I wasn't sure if you welcomed off site links. 13 year old forced to undergo circumcision 13 Year old forced to undergo circumcision - another thread from different site

Lynching? lol are you just throwing out what ever you feel like? Taking a life based on color, is a lot different than take foreskin.

off site links are fine as long as they perform to a "medical nature", they give "required information" to a question or topic.

In reply to:Lynching? lol are you just throwing out what ever you feel like? Taking a life based on color, is a lot different than take foreskin.Slapping me silly is a lot different than shooting me in the head, but they're both bad. Many people think circumcision, especially if forced, is a problem. It's not as bad as a clitoridectomy, but it's still bad.I'm trying to make the point that just because something is traditional, it doesn't mean it's acceptable by modern civilized standards.If you thought I was saying that circumcision is morally equivalent to lynching, then you missed the point.

Clitoridotomy is no worse than male circumcision. All the different kinds of female circumcision have been grouped together when in actuality, they are very different. A Type I female circumcision, known as clitoridotomy, is the removal of the clitoral hood. The clitoral hood is homologous with the male foreskin. It covers the clitoris in the same way that the foreskin covers the glans. I agree that the other types of female circumcision are mutiliations (stitching up the vagina, excising the clitoris etc.). But clitoridotomy is no worse than male circumcision.

ok i see your point(s) but what's so unacceptable about male circumcision? other than the fact that YOU think it's unnecessary? Forget about the fact that this specific boy did not want it done. To Nazgul, has this specific boy suffered ANY more after all has healed, and time has elapsed?