I think I might have a higher libido than my boyfriend. Either that, or he doesn't have much of one. It's strange to be typing this stuff out in a public forum and all, but I've gotta talk to SOMEONE about this, and this seems like the place to do it.My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years, and have been having sex for about 1 year now. And within this last year I have noticed that I get much hornier than he does! He says its not true.. that he gets super horny too, but that he just doesn't tell me when he is, or that he doesn't take advantage of the situation. But I have told him several times that he SHOULD tell me! He just doesn't do it. He'll go a week without even looking at me that way... Is there something wrong with me? Does the fact that I wouldn't mind having sex every day of the week make me a sex fiend? Or is there something wrong with him? I've never heard of a boy who turns his girlfriend down for sex.. or HARDLY EVER gets the hint.I know he loves me, and he loves having sex with me, he's told me all of this.. but he never brings it up. I don't like straight out asking for sex.. I let him know I want it in different ways, but he never gets the hint. I have talked to him about this several times, but it seems like nothing changes. And I end up feeling like either I must be an addict or something, or he must not be normal! Tonight I finally just told him. He said, "What do you want to do tonight?" And I said, "Just you." His reply was "Hmm... I'm too tired." And yet he offered to take me out to do stuff..... Which made me feel hideous and unwanted. I don't know what to do. It really bothers me. ponders
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Having Issues... listen/help?
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I just can't understand the problem!Ask him why he is holding out? Maybe he feels adequate or that he can't please you the way he wants to. I jsut can't see why he'd refuse, I don't every refuse it from my gf.
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He is extremely good in bed... Every now and then I don't get to an orgasm, but that doesn't mean he didnt please me. And he knows that... So I don't think he's afraid he's inadequate.And see, thats what I thought, I've never heard of a guy refusing sex! He used to be so different. I don't know what changed him.
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It might be an isuue of insecurity on his part. You may tell him all the time that he will NOT be rejected, yet there may be an underlying fear of rejection of his advances.Is it possible that he has an underlying self esteem problem?When I was in highschool, I hardly ever had a g/f and didn't start having sex until my last year. Later, I bumped into a couple of girls (3 actually) thas said basically "I would have torn you apart but you seemed so unaproachable". The truth is, I was to scared of rejection to ask anyone out.
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its perfectly nomral to be incredibly horny and many people have sex everyday. Some men dont express themselves, such as myself. I have no clue why a male would hold out unless he is A)gay or B) cheating on you, relieving his sexual urges. C)masturbating, relieving his sexual urges
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My boyfriend usually has a high sex drive, and wants it often, like any guy would. During those times, when he wants it more, I seem to want it less for some reason. Then things will turn around, and there will be periods of time where I want it a lot, but he doesn't seem to get as horny anymore. So we usually have opposite positions on this, which is good I suppose because it balances things out. However, we never stay in one of those phases for too long...my boyfriend will go back to being horny often, and I will go back to wanting it less. So, I'm not sure why your boyfriend would be feeling the way he does for so long. The only thing I can recommend, from my experience, is acting like you want sex less...that might encourage him to want it more somehow, like what happens with my boyfriend. However, our situations aren't identical so I really can't say whether or not that would work. Good luck!