I really think he has "Retarded Ejaculation" like I wrote in my PM to you. He's basically trained his penis to only cum through only visual stimulation and using his own hands. Since his penis basically knows no other way to ejaculate, it can't do it any other way. Porn seems to be one of the causes, but there are many more things that can cause it. Some can be physical, or some can be psychological like I believe your boyfriends is. There also seems to be a feeling of guys wanting to really hold back and wait for the female to orgasm. But orgasms are really a selfish act and shouldn't be controlled that much. If you try or learn to control them too much, you may have trouble having them period. Luckily it looks to be very treatable.
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He CANT Hold on to HIS ERECTION!!
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I thing artdog may be right... but it's still strange. I'd think most guys could stay erect and cum easily from intercourse.Is he on any medication? Anti-depressants maybe? These can cause erection problems. How about steroids?
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Well from what I was reading, some medications can cause it too. It seems to be a much bigger issue than people think it is. But since guys can hold out for such long amounts of time, they don't always see it as and issue. Most are in denial about it though, because most guys (deep-down) want to be able to orgasm, and after too long a time, it starts playing in their minds, and it gets worser and worser. Sex or anything sexual is more mental than people think it is. For a guy, or I suspect women also, to orgasm, he has to really want to and his mind has to let him. If it isn't, he may start thinking ang worrying about so much, that he'll become too frustrated and basically give up thinking its never gonna happen. And if his mind isn't totally into it, it'll be very easy for him to lose his erection. The mind and body are always connected. It looks like Therapy may be needed in some cases, but the guy may be able to reverse this (with help from his partner in some cases) by himself. He's gonna have to find out what's fueling it. Porn is just one possibility, other factors like religion, medications, or childhood trauma could be factors. He's gonna have to probably stop masturbating for at least a week. Guys that have this, seem to masturbate a lot, and I mean a real lot. If its porn induced, he's gonna have to stop watching it. If its medication induced, he's gonna need to talk to his medical doctor and then maybe change meds. If its some kind of Religious or childhood trauma type thing, he'll probably have to talk to a therapist. I'm no Doctor or Psychologist, I'm just relaying some of the stuff I read. I simple Google Search for "Retarded Ejaculation" will get anyone to the information I read. Don't just take my word for it, because I may not be explaining everything I read right. It does look very treatable, but the guy has to really want it, and he has to be really willing to stick with it even though he may not get results right away.
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"Retarded" ejaculation? Do you mean retrograde ejaculation?It can also be caused by nerve damage, e.g. from physical trauma or as a result of diabetes.
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Retarded Ejaculation (also called Delayed Ejaculation) and Retrograde Ejaculation appear to be 2 separate things, although they may have a similar affect. Again I'm no Doctor! I concentrated on Retarded Ejaculation because of the symptoms that were brought up and what was said. I ran across quite a few people with stories that were simlar to the original posters. It may be best to look that one up to and anything else that has similar symptoms. In truth I think a professional should be consulted, with a medical doctor being seen first. Unfortunately it looks like a lot of the guys were very uncomfortable seeing one for something like this.
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Yes, my brain was stuck on a different thread. Retrograde ejaculation is where the semen is forced into the bladder during ejaculation, rather than coming through the penis.
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Very well put, artdog. I think you covered all the possibilities.
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Now that so many people are on antidepressants, it's a possibility that should always be considered, so thanks for bringing it up, ilikeitalot. The traditional SSRI antidepressants tend to reduce libido, make it more difficult to get an erection, and make it especially difficult to reach ejaculation. There are, however, a few modern antidepressants that don't have this side effect."Retarded ejaculation" or ejaculatio retardans is indeed the official name for taking too long to ejaculate. The opposite is premature ejaculation, ejaculatio praecox.
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ok.. i fucked a girl once, 2x actually n lost my hard.. the other 2 girls i had sex with tho, i kept it. also turns out that i was more interested in the other 2, so i would assume in relation to your problem that it has a matter to do with interest for the other person.
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I suppose a "lack of interest" can't always be ruled out, but they were actually having sex, and she did say he was almost there but couldn't. From what I can tell, the interest is always there in regard to RE. But since the guy can't ejaculate, the women think he isn't interested. The guy wants to orgasm, gets frustrated that he can't, and gives up. He wants and likes the sex, but he has trained himself not too orgasm during a sexual act without knowing it. The fact that you had interest and could release, separates you from these guys. You can probably cum when and as often as you want or choose too, they simply can't. Its just not the same thing.