I Cheated

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I guess I have to weigh my thoughts on the situation at hand. Perhaps a quick sabbatical is worth my time.

Nothing is unforgivable.

Trust me it is.

To forgive or not to forgive is up to your girl to decide when you tell her that.Take it easy......you regret what you did and know it was wrong......thats good, now you gotta forgive yourself and make sure you dont do it again.........one mistake can be forgiven.

Also, get tested and dont have sex with your girlfriend till you do. What you did was bad enough without you giving her something to.Hey, I'm all for the fantasy of threesomes and all but truth is if a man and woman are letting other people into their lives there's no telling who else came before you and what those other people may have had.again, GET TESTED.

If your not going to do it again what's to be gained by fessing up. It seems that would only benefit you. You get to clear you conscious and she just gets hurt knowing you cheated. Think about what's to be gained on her part before you tell her.

You are giving her false hope by not telling her. MAN UP... Be a MAN and tell her the truth so SHE can decide what she wants!!!!If I found out my boyfriend cheated on me.. with a female AND A MAN. I wouldnt want to be with him. Would u want to be with a girl who did that to u??

This thread is absolutly riduculous... As he said in his first post.. I had recently gotten together with a girl, although I've only seen her once so it's not really a relationship Why hell are you people jumping on him to "confess" and all this shit.. And I really don't understand why you(Jedi) are even worked up about this. There is no exclusivity here.. there is no "relationship". Just because you've seen her once, this means you can't see anyone else?? This is so stupid.

Originally Posted By: sdpThis thread is absolutly riduculous... As he said in his first post.. I had recently gotten together with a girl, although I've only seen her once so it's not really a relationship Why hell are you people jumping on him to "confess" and all this shit.. And I really don't understand why you(Jedi) are even worked up about this. There is no exclusivity here.. there is no "relationship". Just because you've seen her once, this means you can't see anyone else?? This is so stupid. I actually completely agree. From everything I heard there is no real relationship. Though I am not one to agree with random hook-ups, I don't see anything to confess.

End it and don't tell her. It will spare her feelings, your trouble, and to be honest you're not even sure you're in a relationship with her so why go to the effort of "coming clean" about it?On the other hand, what you did is wrong if you consider the threesome "cheating". End it on a friendly, vague basis, and move on. You might care for her, but at the end of the day you're the one in the wrong and the one who needs to learn from the mistake, she needs someone who won't go off shagging people at a doctor who convention.If you really care about her, let her go and leave her ignorant.

Originally Posted By: sdpThis thread is absolutly riduculous... As he said in his first post.. I had recently gotten together with a girl, although I've only seen her once so it's not really a relationship Why hell are you people jumping on him to "confess" and all this shit.. And I really don't understand why you(Jedi) are even worked up about this. There is no exclusivity here.. there is no "relationship". Just because you've seen her once, this means you can't see anyone else?? This is so stupid. I completely agree with this. These comments make no sense under the circumstances.

If you're not in a relationship with her, why say you cheated? Sounds pretty confusing.

i agree.

I have something else to say though, when I had sex with the guy, it felt right. I'm not ashamed to say it but, it was more pleasurable than being with a woman. Take from it what you will, but, I beg all of you to not judge me on what I felt with another man. Please. I beg of you.

It's not that really it's just, I need to speak with someone who can help me come out to my loved ones regarding my life style. My nieces aunt from her mother's side is a lesbian and I don't know how to ask her if she can help me come out. Believe me I'm comfortable with who I am, just not comfortable on knowing how to come out. Ya dig? -_^

You are sounding more confusing now more than you did in the beginning of this thread........first its about this girl and now its about a guy........You need to think over what you really want. Its doesnt matter who you end up choosing in the end as long as you are comfortable with it.

i have no input on your comment with the guy but if you dont want to be with the girl you think you cheated on its simple, dont be with her. if there was no exclusivity as sdp put it then you shouldnt say you cheated. now if you two went out, and actually discussed being exclusive thats a different story. but in the end all that matters is that you said you dont want to be with her so let her and yourself move on.

You getting nasty, butt-fucking, sucking cock, whatever you did with another guy...Has no effect on me personally, so I dont give a fuck.The only judgment Id have is if it was me that you did it to.Its why I do not give a rats ass if two men or women marry each other, it has no personal effect on me, do what ya want. Until someone can explain how what someone else does in a personal matter, how that impacts me negatively, Id say do what ya want, if ya dont want to tell your family, then dont, if ya do then do it. Fuck it.

Lol, Um what?

Do what ya want. If your actions do not have a negative impact on someone else then what you do is up to you.Tell people, do not tell people, what ever fucking makes ya feel better.