The other night I had sex for the first time with a girl I've been seeing for a while now. We're both 18 and were responsible about it (condom, no drugs/alcohol, etc) we have a pretty strong connection and she's really attractive and I know she'd say the same thing about me but for some reason I couldn't orgasm and I went for maybe 15-20 minutes, she wasn't complaining but said she had to stop (tired or something.) Is this normal for a guy who's doing it for his first time? I even took the condom off (please no remarks about safety/pregnancy issues) because she has morning after pills and it didn't help much. Any thoughts/suggestions? I'm thoroughly confused.
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My experience
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so is your concern that u didnt orgasm...or that she had to stop?...cuz the her geting sore and haveing to stop is pretty normal...my first time we did it twice...but it only lasted for like 5 min each time...and i was still sore...but if your concern is about not cuming, then it could have to do with a few factors. one, if you masterbase often then it could have something to do with the difference in texture/ tightness from your hand...u may wanna try laying off on mastermation for a wile till u get used to the sex thing....
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I just feel weird. I waited till I was old enough to do it right and with someone who I really wanted to do it with but I just kind of felt let down not really from her but just like discouraged from doing it again with her. I tried everything. Going fast, slow, hard, etc - and she liked it but I just couldn't orgasm and when I was close she had to stop. And I've always heard it's supposed to be the other way around with guys not lasting long enough. Again I just feel really weird even though I did everything right.
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i understand you feeling wierd...i think one thing that happens...is that people who havent had sex b4 tend to glorify it as a mind blowing intensly passionate experionce...dont get me wrong it can get to that point...but your first time is NOT the best sex you will ever have...i was kinda let down by my first time cuz it just didnt feel all that great...not that it was to painful...it just wast very pleasurable....my suggestion is that you just give it another shot...at least to try and find out if it is lack of sensation that is causing your issue or if it is just that it wasnt what you were expecting?
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Quote:because she has morning after pillsShe should really think about getting onto birth control pills. The morning after pill is just a concentrated dose of the same chemicals that are in birth control. From my understanding, morning after pills should not be used often.Quote:Is this normal for a guy who's doing it for his first time? It sounds like you're distracted to me. Relax and stop thinking about having an orgasm so much.
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You do realize that even taking a morning after pill doesnt protect against STDs and the like?
aside form that it was the first time, the first time has alot of nerves to go with it and it either makes ya brush shoot her with out ever getting it inside and just popping off onher pubes or you cant bust. Sounds like you hada case of the later, itll go away and soon youll be premature ejaculating all over the place. -
Quote:Again I just feel really weird even though I did everything right.Lose the notion of what is right and what is wrong. Do what feels good to her and what feels good to you. It can take a while for people to figure out the things that feel good for them. When you're with someone new, it's a whole new game of finding out what works for that person and what doesn't.Don't play to win, play to have fun!
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Quote:Don't play to win, play to have fun! What great advice for good sex!
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Originally Posted By: GrvtykllrYou do realize that even taking a morning after pill doesnt protect against STDs and the like?Wow you are just too stupid for words. She got checked after she broke up w/ her boyfriend of 1yr. There was a reason I asked politely the first time for no remarks like that, if I hadn't made that clear there would be ten other naysayers just like you doing the same thing. Get off my thread. We saw eachother again and everything went fine. She bought us better condoms and we went through all of them. Ty everyone for your insight and suggestions, I'm glad this site has been here for me when I'm confused.
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Originally Posted By: Coheed
Originally Posted By: Grvtykllr
You do realize that even taking a morning after pill doesnt protect against STDs and the like?
Wow you are just too stupid for words. She got checked after she broke up w/ her boyfriend of 1yr. There was a reason I asked politely the first time for no remarks like that, if I hadn't made that clear there would be ten other naysayers just like you doing the same thing. Get off my thread.
We saw eachother again and everything went fine. She bought us better condoms and we went through all of them. Ty everyone for your insight and suggestions, I'm glad this site has been here for me when I'm confused.
Okay well what might seem like common sense to you (About morning after pill not protecting again STDs) is not common sense for others. There are people who think this pill protects them from STD's as well. I don't think Grvtykllr was trying to be rude or "mean" just making sure you understood this for your benefit. So instead of being rude, take it as someone looking out for your best interest.
