I'M SO HURT!! :(

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If my extremely helpful advice is 'ban-worthy' get to it.

Originally Posted By: ashley69I don't want people bitching at me for trying to give him a chance here. I just want to know what other people would do. We've been dating almost a year! And I love him. And he loves me. He has no explanation for what he did. I mean, other couples go through things that are worse than this, and they can work through it. So do you think there is any hope left for us? I want him working his ass off to get me back. We're still together, but we both know that I could dump him at any minute, and honestly I want him scared shitless. He's scared but I think he's expecting it... And I don't know when I will even see him again. He lives 4 hours away until the fall when we had plans to live together. I had plans to see him next week, but now I'm doubting it, unless he wants to pay my way out there. I feel like taking part of the bus money and buying myself a sexy pair of shoes. Oh, and mom really hates him for this. And says that he will probably never be welcome back in the house again At least not for a long time. And I told him I hated him for what he did to me I love him, but I hate how he risked our relationship for some skank bitch that he hasn't even met in real life! I can relate, I once found pictures of my own girlfriend that had been sent to another guy that lived pretty far away. I was devastated, and from then on the relationship never had the same trust. I don't think comparing this situation to other couples' is really wise - maybe it's good to try to rationalize the situation, but at the same time every relationship is different. It's been a week or more now since this happened (I think), so the initial reactions and feelings should start to wear off and you can think about it more clearly. You'll probably find that it will take a long time, if ever, for the same level of trust to return to the relationship. Obviously this is terrible timing because you were going to move in with him - but it could be a positive, if that's possible. It allows you to take a step back and analalyze the direction the relationship is going and whether you want to make that commitment. Sometimes just loving a person isn't enough. I can also relate to a parent having a dislike for someone you're in a relationship with. My parents, atleast, made it really awkward because they weren't receptive to her, at all. You mentioned you hated how he risked your relationship. Do you feel he values it as much as you do?

Why would you even stay with this man? Why can't you demand more for yourself? What the fuck is wrong with you?

He did lie. He said she was the only one.. and lied about that.

glad to hear you say that.

Hey Ash, I'm sorry you're going through such a rough patch. Since you've already decided to give him a chance, give him only one more chance. And honestly, if he screws up again, put your foot down and break up.This isn't healthy for you. He's putting you through a lot of emotional pain and it's not worth it. No man is worth that. If he doesn't want to change, then you can't help him and there's no hope for this relationship to work. Trust is important but it seems like it's been shattered and it's going to take a lot of time to pick up the pieces. If he can't do that, then what else can you do?I wish you the best of luck. But don't forget how special and beautiful you are. You deserve so much more than you're getting right now. The most important thing to do is keep up your self-esteem.hugsAnd P.S., don't let memcmatty get to you. He's just another internet troll.

Originally Posted By: memcmattynot to sound like an asshole (too much) but if you don't dumb and stay broken up with him, you are a real p.o.s who's bringing heartache on yourself. i see women do this all the time. pisses me off when people thinking 'working through the issues' (issues like that) is somehow noble and NOT degrading. --- i can see how this could have been taken the wrong way, steph. but i wasn't meaning to call her a piece of shit. more of saying that if she intends on keeping herself in this situation just to keep getting her, she is dumb.

What does this mean??"you are a real p.o.s who's bringing heartache on yourself."

"not to sound like an asshole (too much) but if you don't dumb and stay broken up with him, you are a real p.o.s who's bringing heartache on yourself." --- go ahead and pick and choose what you want. if you think this sentence doesn't sound tongue and cheek(ish) i don't know what to tell you

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Is SteveA back?

SteveA had more social skills.

and seemed to be 150xs more intelligent

To everyone:

He's changed since I posted the first post.

He's not pushing me away. He's calling me now, and telling me how he feels without making me cry.

to memcdooshbag : Your comments mean nothing to me.

He wants to make it work, and he's going to help pay my way to go see him, if I decide to. He's not pressuring me, but he wants to see me in person to try and sort through this. the only thing we're both afraid of is fighting to the point of me dumping him.

the first couple of days were a lot harder than how it is now. I dont understand why he did this, but the shock is over, and now im just trying to get over it.

theres a bunch of comments on ehre from people, so if anyone wants me to answer something specific, post it again. I'm annoyed to read everything, because I came on here this morning and saw like 14 comments on my threaad! and it turns out the majority is spam.. =/

Originally Posted By: readytogoIs SteveA back? What? Name one thing about his posts that in any way similar to SteveA's posts. I miss him.

lol. i sure amz dumb.