I'M SO HURT!! :(

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Originally Posted By: bobalicious Originally Posted By: readytogoIs SteveA back? What? Name one thing about his posts that in any way similar to SteveA's posts. I miss him. He, like our current friend, always seemed ready to stir the pot.Ineligible, I would agree that there is a vast difference in social skills.Stephanie, his intelligence did show through his posts.

Wow Ash... I'm sorry hun. I went through this about a few weeks back. It's pretty recent though. My guy had been talking to one of my "friends" she's so slutty and really rude I can't stand her. But they were flirting with each other online and she told me about it (just to get on my nerves but in a really rude way saying something about him wanting to f*ck her and all that nonsense) during soccer practice. Needless to say I punched the crap out of her (sowwy!) and gave her a bloody nose. Got suspended from my soccer team and then had to go with her to the hospital to make sure she was ok. Then when he called I told him what happened hoping it wasn't true and he apologized because it was true. I was beyond pissed especially since he used my recent troubles as an excuse. We got through it though.Normally I would agree with Steph and and Amz but since you've already decided to give him another chance I suggest you just make him work for it. Make him work his butt off and keep him scared senseless to the point where his doing it again won't even cross his mind. You deserve so much better hun but because you love him and he loves you then you're right, don't give up just yet. Because love is very powerful and not easy to come by. Real love that is.

I had no idea you went through something similar.. in fact very similar.. the only thing different really is that you know the girl personally, and my bf got pictures.. but the flirting happened between them. so yeah.. if i saw her inperson id probably beat her face in.I am actually pretty aggressive. i remember a few years back this one bitch wouldnt stop getting on my nerves while i was on the phone with a guy i liked. she was my friend (at the time) and i warned her that if she didnt leave me alone I would "punch her in the face"Anyways, she didn't stop, so I nailed her in the face and she started to cry. lmaooo :P I chipped her tooth apparently. But yeh. i get angry. I do love him, and i feel better knowing that someone is going through something similar with their bf. and Im glad to know that you two worked it out. do you find it hard to trust him now?I find it funny because last night, i was on the phone with stephen, and i told him that my guy friend alex said "tell him hes a luck bastard, because he has you". and I told steve this, and he got all like, pissed and goes "do these guys ALWAYS flirt with you?!" and I was thinking "yessssss. get jealous, i want you to get jealous." lmao. but yeah, i get hit on a lot, and i dont think he likes it.we're trying to work it out, but it will take a lot of effort on his part. he told me tonight that hes lonely, because he doesnt know when he will see me again. I told him "hey it could be worse, i could not be talking to you at all right now!" but yeah, he misses me. and im glad he does. i want to go see him next week, but i dont know if im ready. i work a part time job, and my two shifts next week totally interfere with my plans of seeing him, so im hoping i can switch a day to go see him. But if not, then he will have to wait. because he definately cant come in to see mom, because mom will kill him,

LOL Ash, your my sista from anotha mista. Honestly.At first it was INCREDIBLY hard to trust him. I was so paranoid. He lives pretty far from me too. It's extremely difficult. And I can't say that I "fully" trust him just yet because I told him that I have issues with cheaters. I absolutely hate them. Once you've been cheated on it's almost a phobia of being cheated on again. And I told him from the get go how I felt about men in general and my personal opinion of them. And after that little incident I asked him why would you work so hard to gain my love and my trust and then dare to lose it all in one night. And he had to think long and hard about that cause Lord knows I gave that guy the hardest time. But I have trust issues so it's not that much of a surprise.I too have to deal with alot of guys not necessarily flirting but always cat-calling and trying to get with me which is EXTREMELY burdensome in the city that I live because the pervs are EVERYWHERE on every street corner. LOL It's ridiculous. And it gets out of control sometimes. He can be extremely jealous and he hates whenever I mention any guy that's not related to me. But I'm jealous to so what the heck, man? lol Seriously girl, your guy needs to learn because if he screws this up then he's screwing himself. And he'd be just another dimwit that lost what he never knew he had.Keep him in check. And if he does it again. Get someone MORE WORTHY of you! I know it's hard since you're so AMAZING! lol But still. =p

AGH!Kay, I think it's insane how similar our situations are. I hate cheaters.. and I have trust issues. And I don't blame you for still not trusting him totally! It's going to take a lonnnng time for me to trust Stephen again.He has to earn it all back from me. I need to know that he will never hurt me like this again. I told him the EXACT same thing you said to your man about why he would risk our relationship for this person after being with me for so long and being so committed!

Well Ash I can honestly say I'm very impressed with how you're dealing with this (though I can't see you in person).Personally I think you have far too much tolerance for his shenanigans, but well done for keeping at it! You must really love the guy to want to keep him after all of this.All I can really do is echo the advice (nearly) everyone else has given you, and that you need to stay strong and maintain your hard-edge so that you don't look like you've gone soft on him. You're right. He DOES need to earn your respect and trust again. It's gonna take a long time, and it might not ever happen - so stick to your guns Good luck!

thank you

With ya all the way.

Originally Posted By: readytogo Originally Posted By: bobalicious Originally Posted By: readytogoIs SteveA back? What? Name one thing about his posts that in any way similar to SteveA's posts. I miss him. He, like our current friend, always seemed ready to stir the pot.Stir the pot? No, SteveA just didn't like seeing people getting away with saying ignorant shit. He didn't cause little arguments just for the sake of fighting.

Umm... so. I told mom that i was going out to visit him.. and she goes "I'll pretend i never heard that". She got SO mad!. And it's not fair on me. i know shes my mother, but i want to try and work through it with him She said she wont drive me to the bus stop to go visit him she told me a bunch of shit like hes plastic around me and stuff. like WTF no hes not!!!

OPMS - Over Protective Mom Syndrome

LOL wow then I have had OPMS since birth! ha

Sorry I haven't been around in a grip, ash. Did he loeave you for a thinner girl yet?