Since splitting up with a long term girlfriend of 2 and a half years, in october last year i have completly gone off sex, masturbation and girls. i have been out in clubs and snogged women and i have had sex once since last october, this kind of didnt worry me but i have totaly lost the drive to even masterbate and nothing seems to turn me on anymore, i cant remember the last time i got an erection just through thought. and when i meet girls and snog them i dont ever get one then, even last weekend i was in my swimming pool with a girl who was topless and we were kissing, agreed it was cold but i did not gain an erection then. i do have a ver busy lifestyle and a high pressure job and i am stressed a lot of the time but i am getting increasingly worried about my sex drive. im a 22 year old male who should be in his prime but it just doesnt interest me? - i think also i have had one bad experience since being single again where a girl who i didnt find attractive at all was trying to give me a hand job when i was drunk and nothing happend, and ever since then i have been so nervous and thinking into things too much when actually getting physical with a girl which has a knock on effect. What advice do you guys wanna give me? should i go and see a sex therapist? should i go and see a doctor? this is my first port of call, its been building up inside of me for quite some time now... i always think of the scenes in alfie (the new version) where he cant get it up for the girls and think thats me. help a distressed bloke out people!!h
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Urgent help / advise needed. im in dispair :(
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**the lack of arousal, in the beginning could have been a touch of depression after the break up of your relationship, and the loss of the closeness you both had at the time, a series of not good sexual encounters kinda adds weight to the feeling, and now worrying about it is no doubt making it worse. Try and stop worrying, who says you are meant to be like this, for this phase at least...........in my opinion once you find a women your comfortable with, and things are not forced etc, then the arousal will happen naturally.........but thats only my, a womans, opinion. sex without feelings for the other person can sometimes lead to lack of arousal, especially if you have been in a steady relationship before, it just seems a little empty. **
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going out with anyold gal, especailly one you dont want, like, or know aint gonna help. hve you luked at porn to test your erection?
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tbh i have not sat down and watched any porn, i dont have time to search the net for a good vid - i am just worried that maybe things aint right.. the one thing i do know is i still wake up with morning glory when i need the toilet so it must be working..its the just the total lack of interest in masterbation for me that really worries me..
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If it comes up on its own, i.e. "morning glory," then I'm all the more inclined that Angel hit it on the head (pardon the pun): sex without feelings for the other person can sometimes lead to lack of arousal, especially if you have been in a steady relationship before, it just seems a little empty. Where's Steve when we need him?
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I agree with readytogo and Angel. If you wake up with morning wood, then you didn't suddenly stop functioning physically...the machinery is working. You're in a spiral of performance anxiety about not being able to get an erection, which probably was originally (and maybe still is) caused by your lack of sex drive. I'm not sure about your continued lack of sex drive; maybe your still depressed over the break-up, maybe it's part of the performance anxiety issue, as well as the other stress in your life.I would definitely recommend talking to a counselor of some sort. It doesn't have to be a sex therapist, but a psychlogist, psychiatrist, or sex therapist might be helpful, and might save you more months of worry.
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having lived through similar experiences in the past, I can just add to the above advice by saying that this will pass.
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one word VIAGRA!!! lol jus messin a agree wit them
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http://www.mpgdm.com/plenty of vids for your viewing pleasureMHHAAAUUU
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Yeah. Nothing turns me on more than crayons
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That's a pretty interesting fetish, and an easy one to indulge.
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