Nice Guys Finish Last

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It's just that nice guys let people shit on them in most cases. Girls want guys who won't let anyone take advantage of them. If a girl knows she can take from you, she will. I'm not saying this about myself, but usually superficial girls will do that.

I'm a nice guy and I always finish last. I have no luck with girls. THe ones I'm interested in aren't usually interested in me or they have boyfriends. I'm 21 and I still haven't had a girlfriend. So yes, nice guys DO finish last.

Yea, I don't know if I agree to that..... the girls I know don't like sexual stuff. Whenever I mentions oomething sexual they get all blushy and dont want to talk to me.

Hmm... how old are they?

In reply to: Nice Guys Finish Last its truewhy? girls are dumbforget bout them unless you're good at being an assbetter things out there, such as carstheres always the exhaust pipe too lol jj

some girls are just too picky. They prefer the bigger and better looking guy who may not be as smart.

err, i'm a nice guy and i won't say i finish last. just be confident in yourself.

thats because i think girls just like to be pushed around... i know it may sound mean but i really think thats right... i mean i'm a complete ass... and thats my way of flirting and for some reason it always works... but i just say some jackass remark thats not to harsh but still not nice... some girls like good gentlemen who pick up their pen when they drop it... but others like it when you kick the pen so its esier for them to pick it up...

A lot of girls want what they can't have. Nice guys come off as the ones they can get, while jerks seem like the ones that are hard to get.

One of my friend's has been with a lot of girls and he told me something pretty funny. He said the girls found it easier to leave him or would take it easier if he broke up with them if he was nice the whole time. But the girl's he lost interest in and tried to make them brake up with them wouldn't leave and would just put up with all the shit he put them through. His new philosophy is that it's good to be an asshole every once in a while because it keeps the girl interested. Blah.

Every guy (and girl) has the potential to be an asshole (or a bitch). Some people act on it a little more readily like our friend HeHe. kidding! Some just have their moods. I'm more inclined to put up with a guy being an asshole on an occasional basis than if a guy were to do it all the time from the get go. I'm a zero bullshit tolerance person so being an asshole doesn't fly with me for too long especially if it's the same crap over and over again. Like I said, everyone has the potention to be one and everyone has at least been a jerk to one person at some point in time.And please remember that nice guys don't always finish last. My ex was a nice guy but because of certain circumstances we weren't able to contine with our relationship. It had nothing to do with losing interest either. It had more to do with other factors like kids, age, etc.

I hate to say this, but it sounds like your ex isn't the most articulate female around. Being an ass usually gets you kicked in it.

Nice guys don't finish last; it's NON-ASSERTIVE guys who don't finish last. Trust me when I tell you this, because I'm speaking from experience. A good friend of mine felt that by being an asshole, he'd be able to get further ahead in life. The result of him being an asshole almost resulted in him being kicked out of the college we attended, as well as going onto his educational record. I'm not saying he didn't get ahead in some aspects, but what got him ahead was being assertive. Yes assholes can be assertive too, but they tend to make more enemies.

Try to think of it in terms of a going to a party, where anyone who's anyone will be there: when you walk into that party, do you want people to whisper, "There's that jerk. Who the hell invited him?" or would you rather have people come up to you and shake your hand, like you were royalty? Nice guys get that- assholes don't.

Being assertive doesn't mean you have to be an ass. You can still be a nice guy, but don't let people walk all over you. If someone does something you don't like, call them on it, but don't be a jerk about it.

that entire post doesn't mean anything to me until i know what assertive means...whats assertive mean?and ahhh yeah i was thinkin about this this afternoon... so i tried being nice to this one chick i have no care about.. well i care about her but i dont care if she hates me or somtin... and then i was a complete ass to this other chick.. (same thing) and the other chick i was being an ass too actually wanted to go to come over... weird the girl i was nice to wasnt as intrested

Being assertive means not being a doormat to be walked all over - it means making your feelings known, not pretending you don't have them because that might upset someone. It means standing up for yourself.Of course, there can be a fine line between being assertive and being an asshole. There are times when it's better not to be assertive. But if you never make your true feelings known, something is wrong.

assholes are screwey nice is the way to go man GIRLS DIG IT!

I couldn't agree more, from my experience it's the backstabbing bastards that get all the attention, all the girls love their bad image and people who genuinely care about people's feelings get to be "just friends"

I AM A GIRL!!!! I feel like I'm standing in the middle of the room screaming, "I'm a girl! I'm a girl!" And not one of you guys have heard anything I've said (or any of the other females in this room for that matter).I dated the captain of another high schools football team when I was in high school. It's not all it's cracked up to be dating the assholes. Overdramatically says** YOU MUST BOW DOWN BEFORE HIS ROYAL HIGHNESS AND WORSHIP HIM IN ALL HIS FOOTBALL GLORY....**** Bullshit! How hard is it to be a dickhead? You just make sure your head is a dick and it's attached to your neck (in the words of Robin Williams). I'm so sick of assholes thinking they're hot shit and these chicks who dig 'em. And I'm sick of the nice guy just sitting back there saying, "oh, it's okay. Whatever makes you happy." Did it ever occur to some of you fellas that a girl doesn't want the prick she wants the nice guys BUT she wants someone who's going to stand up for himself and not let others push him around??? You want to know what I want out of a REAL MAN? I'll tell you:I want someone who can stand up for himself and show me that he's not a push over without being an asshole. I've dated plenty of assholes. Maybe that's why I'm so picky. I make the nice guys job a little harder. However, if they're worth it, they stick around.So for you nice guys, I don't know what type of a girl you're trying to get attention from but if you let people push you around, she's not going to bite. You don't have to be an asshole to be assertive. And HeHe - check out DICTIONARY.COM for the meaning of assertive.

yeah yeah yeah we sorta already got to that point...

In reply to: I'm with a wonderful man ummmm typo?

Me again, throwing in a quick point.

I recently started talking to a girl, and things seemed ok to begin with. Possibly because I was quite sarcastic to her.

After a while, she decided to stop talking to me.
The last thing she said to me was "stop being nice".

Interesting huh?

oo god i thought it was i am a wonderful man wow i dont know how to read lol i funno how i miss read that i read that over and over again