Turnaround????

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Most girls tell me that all you need to be is nice. But then go date the bigest jackass in the class. some on please tell me "WHAT DO YOU WANT?!"

Because he is probably one of the preppy guys in school. Or is really popular is another reason why girls like to date jack asses. Because i have dated tons of jack asses. Now i'm dating a really nice guy easy to get a long with.

Im not gothic or anything. I have wear collered shirts from AE. But that still doesnt answer my question

Um, actually, some of the guys in our class are considered jackasses by the rest of the guys, but are pretty nice to us girls. Also, if you think about it, the guys you are calling jackasses aren't friends with you (so they aren't going to be nice to you), but maybe they are friends with those girls, so they are nice to them.

Its not like the werent nice to me. They mercilessly made fun of me! Now if thats not a jackass i dont know what is!

Well, in time these girls will find out how horrible these guys are, but its still their choice. As ajmakoko said, they are probably nice guys to the girls, so the girls might turn a blind eye to their darker sides. Not saying its a good thing, but it happens.

because there is no attraction, why would a girl be attracted to you if you were always "nice" and bending over backwards for eveything she wanted

Guys always have a motive for being "nice". Be clear on what they want and be sure it's what you want. Girls are the same way. If a girl is being nice all the time, she wants something in return. Point my by TrendyGuy though, if you're nice all the time, you become boring. There has to be some spark. Maybe try nice and temptuous at the same time. That usually works well.

Whats temptous?

Well, whether this is what it means or not, I meant it as being a little of a tease. Be alluring. Women and men both like to chase a little. They also like to be chased. It's not as exciting to have someone always be there and give, give, give. Where's the challenge?

Also, I don't know any woman that doesn't like a man with a sense of humor. I'll tell you a short story. I have a male and female friend that I introduced. She is very pretty. Blonde, blue eyes, great body, great personality. The guy I introduced her to is a man I would never take a 2nd look at in a crowded room. Sorry to sound so shallow, but most of us will choice a partner based on looks at first. Anyway, this guy is one of the funniest people I know. He can keep you laughing with one liners for hours. Your stomach muscles will ache after a round with him.Point to the story, she had no interest in him until they started joking around together. They have now been seeing each other on a daily basis for over a month. I never saw that match coming at all. So moral of the story, make sure you have a good sense of humor, and never act pathetic either. Women don't like weak men.

It's great to have a sense of humor, but isn't telling someone to "be funny" kind of like telling him to "be handsome"? (Sorry, I can't help thinking of Homer Simpson yelling at his TV to "be funny!".) The average guy can't reel off one-liners for two hours.That, and the "not pathetic" thing, come down to self confidence (being at ease, or at least acting like you are), and experience (dressing, grooming, etc.). Body language and eye contact are also very important. We're still mammals. Some ideas:o Get advice from male friends (who are successful at meeting women) on what they do; note how they dress.o Get advice from female friends on what's wrong with your approach / dress / demeanor / etc.o Observe how successful guys "close the deal". Don't forget to ask for a phone number! (Or e-mail address, if you must, if even appropriate.)o Practice, practice, practice! Keep doing it unitl it seems natural.Not to sound mean, but if a lot of guys could see themselves on videotape, interacting with a newly-met woman, they'd understand why they're not very successful. It's easy just to blame women, but they're just products of their culture and their genes. But women's tastes and interests vary widely.

You know, you're right about the sense of humor thing. It didn't really occur to me that not all people can be funny. I seek out people like that. I surround myself with humorous people. I guess it would be best for a man or a woman to follow other leads like you said. Also, listen to women. They give hints all the time. Yes, you will need some lessons on chick language. It's not that hard if you listen real close.

Well, I know a pretty attractive girl at school (who drinks often, but that's beside the point) and she says she's really attracted to jerks and assholes. Here's the reason she provided. She told me that the jack asses are mean to all the other girls, but if you're their girlfriend, then you're the only one they're nice to... Kind of odd philosophy if you ask me, but that's what she said.

It's the philosophy of an insecure person with a very bad self image.

Like i said before i wear stuff from American Eagle and other stuff like that, but its just the same thing like when i used to wear big and strappy pants from hot topic and the heavy metal band t-shirt so thats not working. people tell me im the funniest people. When i ask girls out they say "i dont like you that way" or i ask my friends to ask the girl and she says "i like him because he is funny" And i dont think i am ugly. mabye i am

Sometimes funny guys can also be jackasses, or are disrespectful. I'm not saying that you are that kind of guy, I'm just saying that that could be a solution (not THE solution).

but they say im one of the most nice and mature people they know.

And they say i am one of the most nice and most mature people they know. im probably the only one to admit im not ugly.

Huh, well, maybe it's just your approach... I have no clue, actually... I don't know you, so I can't really tell. Ask a best friend (that's a girl).