Please help don't judge

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Dear Who ever is reading, I'm 16 and just found out I'm pregnant. Before I know for sure I thought I'd have a abortion but, now I don't know what to do. My mom said if I ever got pregnant she'd kick me out. I'm so scared and confused. I just feel alone and very gulty. If there are any young women who have had a to deal with something like this please post or e-mail me. Thank you for reading my post

How about starting with... Who got you pregnant? Is it possible to talk to that individual? Are you still in school? Doing well? Planning on college? If your not comfortable with abortion, is adoption an option you would consider? I'm not quite sure how you hide it from your mother, but would she really kick you out? Would she support you in giving it up for adoption? If your drinking, smoking or using any drugs, you need to stop using now. Take a little time and seriously think about it. Throw it onto Google and do a little research. This is a big decision. If your 16, going to get kicked out, screw up your schooling and the father is a pussy, I would say you should seriously consider an abortion. But that is my own opinion based on my own beliefs. Please dont turn this into an abortion debateGood luck and take care of yourself.

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That's assuming CelestialOrgasm's mother is actually going to follow through with her threat - and there's considerable doubt about that.

I completely agree with what FaBMX said. This is a huge deal and we can't give you an easy answer, you have to make a decision for yourself. In my own, personal opinion, if I were you (again this is MY opinion) I would get my ass to the clinic to get an abortion asap. At 16 you barely lived life, and having a baby seriously slows down and damages your future. But if you believe that you can maturely and successfuly handle this baby, then start thinking of ways to support it.In the end, it comes down to your own beliefs, feelings and decisions.

get an abortion. ive seen this happen to alot of sluts at my school. Calling her a slut is a bit out of line don't you think? Especially since you don't know the circumstances surrounding her pregnancy. If you don't have any positive helpful input for this girl seeking help, please stay out of this thread

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Well I know I could never have an abortion.. but in the end it really is up to you. you need to consider how you would deal with the emotional consequences of whatever you choose, and you really do need to talk to whoever is involved with this. Drop me a pm if you want to x

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ah yes! The crisis centers. I forgot about those. They are easy to find. Check out your school or a community resource center (if you have one.. Im not exactly sure where you reside) .. They should point you in the right direction.

Sweetie, there is no reason you should be judged, things like this happen. I've never had to deal with something like this but I have really good friends that have (and I was there with them every step of the way because they needed a shoulder to lean on), and there is nothing to be ashamed about. You made a mistake and sweetie that's okay, you didn't plan on this happening. There are free clinics that are completely confidential that you can go to to get advice. You should talk to a trusted school offcial, or a trusted adult about this. I know you've got to be scared, and that's completely understandable, this is something new to you and something you didn't plan on. You need to really think about this and talk to someone before you make any choice, and make sure it's the choice you want and not what someone else wants. There are people out there that will help you, and if you need anyone to talk to about this, don't be afraid to shoot me a PM. Good lucky sweetie, I wish you the best! hugs

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My thoughts (Since this thread is actually being moderated to keep the trolls off):

Just consider these things, because my dear friend got pregnant, and thanks to me, she decided to have an abortion. Im not saying that you have to get one though.

You may think that getting an abortion can seriously mess you up, which it can, but giving birth at your age can kill you.

Are you ready to completely leave school and cherish your baby every moment from now on?

Are you planning to go to college? Your chances of going wich a bady is slim to none.

Is the father ready for a baby? Are YOU ready for a baby?

IS having a baby important at this time of your life? Do you really need one right now?

Just ask yourself those questions outloud, and hopefully you make a good choice. I personally think you should get an abortion, but do w/e you like.

which it can, but giving birth at your age can kill you. I hope you didn't mean actually kill you........if you did thats a load of rubbish!

The younger you are, the more risk of complications you take. So, in extreme cases, it could probably kill you. Depending on family history.. diet.. health.. etc

I think this fear of complications, killing you etc... are the opposite. I believe the younger you are the less likely that there will be problems.