PREVENTING orgasm

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I know, why would you want to prevent it right? But here's the thing. My g/f and I just recently got up to oral, and just the whole, situation kinda overwhelms me and I'm pretty much done before it's started. I'd really rather prolong things, but I need some tips on how to stop myself from just blowing it after like 2 seconds.

i never had the same exact situation with you, matter a factly i had the opposite when i started having sex, i noticed it was taking me HOURS and HOURS and HOURS to cum, and frankly it was annoying because sometimes, i would juss wanna bust and be done... but it wasnt working... so i started buying sex books, books on tantra, tantric masterbation, karma sutra, etc...i've learned to control my orgasm, force myself to cum faster, slower, etc... i ask my girlfriend when she wants me to cum, and whenever i ask her i can make myself cum within 20 seconds of that... so im not as good as ron jeremy but im pretty good....what you wanna do is this make shure u have about 1 hour maybe an hour and a half... depending on how long u normally last, masturbate as you normally would, but take you time, build yourself up... then when you feel yourself cumming, contract your penis, squeeze your penile muscles so hard that it wont let the cum, come out, (i almost got this to work as a birth control method, but i couldnt completely control it, and ended up shooting a HUGE load into her... lucky i pulled out... sry, anyways) after your past orgasm, stimulate yourself and keep yourself at least 70-75% erect, then build yourself up to orgasm again...this time your going to burst through. keep going till you cum, and then keep going after that for another 5-10 minutes...after you cum u have to keep going the same pace, it helps to numb down the nerves in your head...do this 3-4 times a week, and u will notice a drastic change in your self control... but make shure that you contract and dont let any semen out...and once u can do that, all you do is learn to squeeze those muscles when shes giving you head or w.e.that way if you cant completely control ur orgasm, at least you can control what comes out! ;-) lol let me know how it turns out for u...

It sounds like you're describing retrograde ejaculation there. I don't think that's supposed to be a good idea.

That's what I was thinking.

Yeah.. that actually sounds like it'd have a negative effect on your health. Forcefully preventing any kind of fluid from leaving your body is usually a bad thing.

I heard retrograde ejaculation can lead to some serious medical problems in the future.

I'm going to agree with you and the others before you, Tony. I'm not sure if forcibly stopping the flow of semen is a good or safe idea.  Originally Posted By: GrownPastMyYears(i almost got this to work as a birth control method, but i couldnt completely control it, and ended up shooting a HUGE load into her... lucky i pulled out... sry, anyways)Not only is trying to stop ejaculate during sex is crazy enough, the pull out method is absurd. There's no reason for someone to follow that road. Condoms are the only way to go.To the OP: Try to mastubate before you see you girlfriend. And I mean by your own method.

Yeah, I agree. If you've ever noticed that it's hard to masturbate to orgasm (or it takes longer) a few hours after having masturbated, then you know that it's likely to have the same effect when she gives you a BJ. If you want to last forever, masturbate twice, and then go for it. But she might feel like she's dissatisfying you, hahaha.

Is it your first time being given head? Because if it is, i am sure you will settle down the more it happens. She must also get a confidence booster getting you to cum before the average time! Tell her she's pretty good! : P

Originally Posted By: Radeckl Originally Posted By: Virtual_StarI'm going to agree with you and the others before you, Tony. I'm not sure if forcibly stopping the flow of semen is a good or safe idea.  Originally Posted By: GrownPastMyYears(i almost got this to work as a birth control method, but i couldnt completely control it, and ended up shooting a HUGE load into her... lucky i pulled out... sry, anyways)Not only is trying to stop ejaculate during sex is crazy enough, the pull out method is absurd. There's no reason for someone to follow that road. Condoms are the only way to go.To the OP: Try to mastubate before you see you girlfriend. And I mean by your own method. The "pull out" method where you "ended up shooting a HUGE load into her" is an especially poor method of birth control. hmmm... well first off i didnt know stopping semen flow was unhealthy, lol... thanks for letting me know, what are some general problems with it though? when i was referring the birth control thing, i was talking about withholding myself from ejaculating. and the pull out method may not be the BEST method, but its better than juss cumming inside of her, it works best if you know how to control yourself as i do, and also doesnt preejaculate fluid have like no traces of semen? as ineligible said. so if u pull out minutes before u cum, i think the chances of her not being pregnant would be about 85%-90%... im not condoning this method, or suggesting it to him, i was juss saying that it works for me...

Hey Dude...Everyone has their own fix. It's just something you learn to do Some of it come from experience and others by stopping for a few moments to let the feeling of "Going to cum" subside.I tend to stop anc change positions or the act or just pull out and let it subside before doing it again. You can practice the start and stop method while jacking off. Just before you feel like you're gonna cum, stop and let the feeling go away. then bring yourself to the edge again and stop again. Do this several times intil just touching it will make you cum.Practice make perfect so try it everynight and see how many times you can get to the edge without actually cumming. Make it a game.Good luck!

Quote:Practice make perfect Perfect Practice make perfect i swear i rememeber saying that b4 someplace

You did.... I stole it from you... (Evil Grin)

Quote:what are some general problems with it though? The semen can be redirected back into the bladder, mixing your semen with your urine. It doesn't really cause serious problems. It just kills your fertility.  Quote:and the pull out method may not be the BEST method, but its better than juss cumming inside of her,Yes, but ever heard of condoms? Last time I checked, you said you were a "Trojan Man". You lessen the chances of pregnancy with a condom more than withdrawal.  Quote:and also doesnt preejaculate fluid have like no traces of semen? Only if you used the bathroom before sex.  Quote:i think the chances of her not being pregnant would be about 85%-90%... But the more you do it, the more your chances of getting her pregnant increase. Please tell me she's on birth control...

Originally Posted By: Virtual_Star  Quote:what are some general problems with it though? The semen can be redirected back into the bladder, mixing your semen with your urine. It doesn't really cause serious problems. It just kills your fertility.  Quote:and the pull out method may not be the BEST method, but its better than juss cumming inside of her,Yes, but ever heard of condoms? Last time I checked, you said you were a "Trojan Man". You lessen the chances of pregnancy with a condom more than withdrawal.  Quote:and also doesnt preejaculate fluid have like no traces of semen? Only if you used the bathroom before sex.  Quote:i think the chances of her not being pregnant would be about 85%-90%... But the more you do it, the more your chances of getting her pregnant increase. Please tell me she's on birth control... fertility as in like? forever? or for that perticular time... ?i am a trojan man, but the wal greens and the wal mart and most other places that sell condoms only carry large's... i wear XL and the larges aggitate me cause there is like 2 1/2 inchs left uncovered :-... uhhh birth control?... lol... whats that? (sarcasm much, but no she's not)

Quote:fertility as in like? forever? or for that perticular time... ? I suppose until it's corrected.  Quote:the wal greens and the wal mart and most other places that sell condoms only carry large's...sarcasm much, but no she's notIf that's your reason, you still continue to go unprotected AND her without birth contol? Where's your logic?

Originally Posted By: Virtual\_Star
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fertility as in like? forever? or for that perticular time... ?
I suppose until it's corrected.
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the wal greens and the wal mart and most other places that sell condoms only carry large's
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sarcasm much, but no she's not
If that's your reason, you still continue to go unprotected AND her without birth contol? Where's your logic?
uhhh since when does sex have to do with logic? and its not like im forcing her to stay off birth control, i understand the risks of having sex unprotected and its not like we do it all the time, for every 4 condoms we use, we have unprotected sex once. so one outta 5...
so let me do as i please with my dick...
by "until its corrected" did u mean like, till i cum? ive noticed sometimes that after doing this, my load isnt that large... could that be the cause?

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uhhh since when does sex have to do with logic?
Wow...you mean I acutally have to explain it? If you have sex without a condom with your girlfriend, who isn't on a form of birth control, you're going to have a baby sooner or later.

Either you don't know where babies come from or you are asking to screw up the lives of three people (you, your girlfriend, and the baby). Either way, it's disappointing to hear that from someone who claims to be intelligent. But hey, if you want to be a teenage dad, don't let me stop you.

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by "until its corrected" did u mean like, till i cum? ive noticed sometimes that after doing this, my load isnt that large... could that be the cause?
No, I mean until the sphincter that closes the path to the bladder is corrected. And regarding your last question, its a possibility. It's probably why you're girlfriend hasn't had a baby yet. Sorry for being rude, but I'm being real with you.

When ejaculation is blocked coming out of the penis, it may happen anyway and be forced into the bladder, backwards through the valve that is usually closed to prevent this happening. This is called retrograde ejaculation. The sperm later comes out on urination - the urine will be a little cloudy, but this is easily missed.The Tibetan Tantric methods of "conserving semen" actually didn't conserve semen at all, but involved retrograde ejaculation.If that's what happened to you, then the next time the load will indeed be smaller, because in fact it will be a second load.The worry is that if this is done regularly, it might weaken the valve and cause retrograde ejaculation to happen when you don't want it, so you lose fertility because nothing comes ouut of the penis at orgasm. I know of no case where this has actually been observed to happen as a result of clamping the urethra shut, but it is well known that prostate surgery can weaken the valve and cause permanent retrograde ejaculation.

well i usually only practice this method once to twice a week, masturbation for me is extremely hard... but maybe i should limit it to once or twice every 2 weeks...I cum alot when i have sex though, and not so much when i masturbate, any scientific reason for so? i mean last time i spritzed about 9 1/2 times (wanted to hit ten but last one wasnt strong) which is quite a bit in most peoples opinions...