Too many guys!!!

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ok. I have a problem some may find silly, or consider me lucky; I consider it just plain annoying. See, I love to be friends with everyone, I'll talk to any of the guys that come up to me, i'm nice, i like to flirt (I think this is where my problems begin) . All the guys I just want to be friends with always seem to develope a crush on me, or already had one for awhile and it's hard because I really don't want to get into another relationship right now after 2... not so nice endings. But anyways, do all guys think a girl is interested in him just because she flirts a bit and likes talking? (and i can't really help flirting, it's part of my personality (and now people are going to say that's untrue...) oh well) you don't have to answer that last question, just say what's on your mind...

yes, any girl that is super friendly and talks to me i, sort of have a crush on them but but in my heart i know that is not the case because this current girl that sits next to me in bio class is friendly to me and i like her alot but there are so many other hotter guys that she flirts with so i know there is no chance for me..for ur problem, just tell them that u have no interest in them or stop being so friendly to everyone and just those that ur interested in.

well how old are you?

i'll be 16 in a month, so 15. lol.

Simple answer is...
if a guy isn't cynical enough, then yeah, any guy you flirt with will try it on with you, because in effect you're showing interest in him.
My question is - why do you flirt with them if you have no interest in them?! Don't you think that's pretty cruel?

I have girls flirting with me all the time, but they have NO intention of going out with me. It makes me feel defective.

Don't do it any more. It's heartless and mean.

See, because it's happened to me so much, I now ignore every girl that flirts with me, and it makes me wonder if I've accidentally passed something up by ignoring girls.

One girl reassured me that isn't the case and that i genuinely have no chance with girls ever, so I guess in a way that's reassuring.

Yes you damn tease.

Hey! you know, guys flirt too if you haven't notice already. any it's not as if I act serious, I always show that I'm joking unless i'm not. just some guys can't take hints i guess...

You're young!! Have fun and flirt!! Who cares if they like you.. you have options!

Girls :frowning:

Girls with confidence** you mean

slutting yourself out to guys, whether you want to be with them or not, isn't much my idea of confidence.I think it's mean and self-centred that you get your own thrills from it, at the cost of making some poor sap feel worthless.Don't you ever stop to think what harm you could be causing some people?Flirting with guys who you like is fine! I encourage that cos we guys aren't gonna figure it out any other way. But with guys you have no interest in whatsoever is really shallow and narcissistic. Stop it.

I "slut myself out" to girls. Mean and self-centered? Maybe, but damnit its mutually enjoyable as I never put the girls down ever. I just like to entertain any fantasy I can, for the pleasure of all.

That's my dawg Straping Young Lad

Just because your past love life has been shit.. doesnt mean everyone elses is.

Slutting yourself and flirting are two completely different things. You don't have to flirt with people you like.. Flirting is the way I am.. I have a flirt attitude.. doesnt make me a slut.

And Trust me.. I am far from mean and self-centered.. I Have CONFIDENCE

OK. Obviously I'm wrong here...again. I'll shut up.Go flirt with any guy you want. Even if you don't like them. They'll get a crush on you and it'll destroy their hearts, but who cares, eh!

Yeah, I agree, but by the time they (I) figure it out, I've already gone too far down the line and I get hurt, sometimes badly.

I always refer to the girl I know, who has absolutely no intention to be with me, and has said she finds me physically repulsive, yet she'll grope me and rub me and even lick me and stuff. Now before I knew how she actually felt, what the hell am I supposed to think when a girl rubs my genitals and licks me seductively?!
It's just downright harsh.

When I first went into secondary school when I was 12 within 3 days the English teacher assigned me with the word "gregarious". I am an extremely flirty guy, I always do it and I get jokes made cause I do it even with the most... unlikely of girls. Its not me trying to get with them, I just communicate very well with them and actually gain confidence when I talk to girls. And my flirting doesn't really cross a line or anything, it just creates a very friendly atmosphere, something that some girls aren't used to cause usually guys would either be all nervous around them cause they like them, or don't really care cause they don't like them. I act the same with everybody, all the guys see it as me trying to get with every girl I can but its far from that, I'm quite selective actually. Its just that flirting is fun and its friendly. Much nicer than only talking to the girls ya fancy. It can lead to good friendships but rarely do I want more. Altho it is how I got to know my current gf... which is kinda arguing against my own point, so I'm gonna shut up now.

I flirt (anyone notice???? ) LOL but I am far from a slut. The two don't necessarily go together.

Exactly!!

yes, same here. and i can assure everyone that i am quite confident (you would know that if you knew me).