im a 20 yo girl but i have a very bad fascination with young things, puppies, kittens etc and boys, i never used to like boys when i was younger, i wouldnt say my childhood was deprived, it's gotten really bad recently when my bf (20yo) show me pictures of him when he was young (10-18) he also sub-conscienciously indulges my fascination because he look and act very young, i would NEVER act on it or anything. i grew up without a dad and a male teacher hit me with a ruler once. im attractive and not a bad girl so how do i stop these bad thoughts?
Very bad fascination!
Thoughts are pretty hard to control. Remember though, that they are essentially harmless as long as they remain thoughts only.
My x-wife's fascination with teenaged boys ultimately killed our relationship but it was her actions, not thoughts that casued the problem (yeah yeah... I know were all sick of hearing about the sicko :stuck_out_tongue_winking_eye: ).
If you are really disturbed by your own thoughts or are even remotely concerned that you may be driven to act on them, you should seek councelling. Other than that, I think we all have some scary shit floating around in our minds... I know I do.
<b>and there was light</b>
in response..keep them thoughts...
yeah that is all i gotta say
oh god, making someone doing something against their will doesnt do anything for me. Is it wrong to do things like purposely leaving a few buttons of your blouse open while leaning over to pick up a book infront of your little brother's 13yo friend so he can catch a glimpse of your lacey white bra and knowing that he couldnt do anything about it gets you off. am i sick?
I just registered when I saw your post.
The reason I want to answer is because I too am fantasising about younger girls (I'm a guy) Not really young, just underage. I've only been thinking about it for like two months but I feel sick, I can't look at myself in the mirror sometimes because of what I have been thinking. I only seem to fantasise when I am very very horny, otherwise I find it digusting (go figure).
So I will say two things, firstly adults shouldn't even be thinking about sexual encounters with underage children, but thoughts in reality are harmless. However acting on a fantasy, like your comments about the blouse are very wrong. The only reason is little things like that can lead to more, and that's where it becomes both illegal and wrong.
Anyway, I think you should try and put it out of your mind, I have considered councelling, but I feel like I am strong willed enough to stop these fanatsies. My advice is to pick another fantasy, something really really out there but legal.
Hope it helps.
(And sorry to others for having such a grim first post )
miss_thy, in leaving your buttons open deliberately you are going from thinking to doing, and that's not right.
Iamconfused, welcome to AfraidToAsk.
hmmm, everyone seems to think i want to have sex with little boys, I never said i wanted to have sex with little boys (that's sick)! they just fascinate me, if i was locked up with a young guy i wouldnt know what to do (probably read a book) but i like the way how they have so much energy and always laughing and never have any problems and how they rather play football than make a fool of themselves by trying hard to pick up girls, besides if a girl let me see a bit of her bra when i was that young, it probably would of made my day. but then, everybody's different
I don't think you get it. Doing 'little' things like that on purpose is wrong. If you start doing that, it will only be a matter of time before it goes further and further until it is too late.
Despite the fantasies Iamconfused is having, I think he made a great post (welcome to a2a ). I think you should follow his advice. The fact that you do not see this as a problem is really sickening.
~I tried to be good, but then I got bored~
I never told anyone this before but I have fantasized about underage children.
I would never, ever do anything like that in real life... it's horrible and wrong. But sometimes I can't help thinking about it when i'm really horny. I would think that since it's only a thought... then it's not a big deal.
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so he can catch a glimpse of your lacey white bra and knowing that he couldnt do anything about it
If he is a nice boy he will just go to his room and masturbate about a dozen times thinking of you. (If he is REALLY "good" he won't masturbate but will have a lot of wet dreams about you.)
If he is NOT a nice boy he and a few of his friends may decide to rape you one day. Yes, this stuff happens.
You wanna get someone hard? Save it for your boyfriend.
It makes me sick the way that "petite blonde" teacher in Florida got away with what she did with a 14 yr old boy. If it was a male teacher he would be getting gang raped in prison every day now.
We ALL have scary shit in our heads. And we can't change it. I think we can convince ourselves to think in a certain way by rationalizing the problem, right, but we can't just "pick another fantasy", like Iamconfused said. We are what we are. So long as we keep what is wrong to ourselves we have nothing to be ashamed of. Absolutely nobody should feel bad over their fantasies. What hurts people is feeling unduly guilty and a deprivation of pleasure, which is what happens when you deny or punish yourself because of what turns you on.
As for what miss thy was doing with her blouse--that's awesome! I wish I had kinky memories like that. They make growing up fun. I think it's pretty harmless.
well from my point of view and alot of guys my age would love to have sex with older girls (20s)
When I was in middle school I would have loved to have sex with Ms. Erickson, my hot blonde math teacher. But that would have been wrong.
(I can't believe it was even necessary for me to say that.)
Screw the whales, save the subjunctive!
"a male teacher hit me with a ruler once." iS THAT REALLY THE BEST YOU CAN DO? i got chewed out by women teachers in middle school, and yes i got hit, drug by the ear, yep. Thats why im sexist. JK but i think i am some time. But im only 15 and think all women love is dimonds and money.