A question of attraction

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Hello everyoneI am in the process of writing my book about the psychological side of dating, relationships, and so forth. I was hoping that you good people would aid me in my research. My question is: What do you often find the most physically attractive about the opposite sex? Such as, but not limited to, what things you first notice and things that really turn you on. Please be specific and as detailed as you can. I'm asking the same question to almost everyone I come speak to(both men and women) and I would like all of your opinions as well. Also I may be asking for your thoughts again on other subjects for my book. Thank you all for your time and feedback.

I'm doing this for a signed copy of ur book :smile:

I guess when i first see a girl the first thing i look at is her face, it doesent matter how great her body is if she doesent have a nice face. She also has to have a friendly looking face, soft facial features, a nice smile, wide, dark eyes. I think you can tell a lot about someone by looking into their eyes. Eyes are a strange thing. Deep eyes with a fun glint in them. If you see them you'll know them :wink:

On liking the face, i'll look up and down her. I like slim women who are shorter than me (most are im 5'11"), taller women can make be feel uncomfortable, breasts, probably a C-D cup, proportionately large but not ungainly looking. Flat tummy. Don't care too much about her ass.

I would also look at her clothing as you can tell a lot about her from what she wears. I like dresses, nothing to tarty or slutty. I like girls who are fashionable and trendy who wear flattering outfits.

These are what i would prehaps look at in the first 5-10 seconds of seeing a girl.

I like girls who look innocent but a glint in their eye leads you to beleive shes dirty as, thats what i like.

I would say between 10 and 20 percent of people i see when im on the prowl fall into this catagory they would be shortlisted after having a chat with 'em.

I dont like girls with high pitched voices, a deeper voice works best for me. Accents are also good.

Hope this helps!

male herei like a women who is elegant and maintains a lady like view in public but isn't afraid to cuss or talk about bad things in private. her hands need to look good. the hair can NOT be frizzy. nice clean legs, a slim body. soft hair. relatively small boobs. not ghost white pale (somewhat pale is hot) and not black either (i just dont find black women attractive). hair that isn't too short, atleast a few inches.

I agree with Max, face is the first thing that you look at. Soft features, clean skin, eyes. Eyes are huge, not so much of a turn on maybe, but a huge part of attraction.

Next I tend to look at the shape of the body. I'm a thin guy so I tend to prefer skinny girls who are my height or shorter (I'm 5'6"). I've been attracted to tall girls but its usually a purely physical attraction. I've only had crushes on girls who were shorter than me.

I also agree with Max that clothing is important. Slutty clothes are generally a huge turn off unless you're looking for a one night stand or something. I'm somewhat conservative I like a girl who dresses modestly, but still has style and character.

Breasts B-C cup, it depends on the girl though. Some girls look bad with Cs, some girls look bad with Bs. An ass is also important, I like cute, toned and round. Legs are also great but I think that is more of a sensual thing than something you look at.

How a girl carries herself is important too. I tend to like girls who are somewhat innocent and not shy but not overly outgoing.

I'll admit I have somewhat of an asian fetish as well.

I find that the things I am physically attracted to often indicate something about their personality.A girl with a great smile for example. Most of the time, these are the girls who are smiling, laughing, and enjoying life. People like this are often easy going, optimistic, and happy people.I like girls who are in shape too. This often indicates that they're not lazy and they're probably health conscious.I also like girls with good posture. Generally, this is a silent signal for confidence. I like a girl who is confident and ready to take on challenges.I really love a girl that is open minded and intelligent as well... but there's not much to physically generalize when it comes to this.

They have to have an attractive face, and pretty teeth. I am always look at people's teeth. I like then to be straight with no gaps. Other things are: Good sense of humor, nice, that the other person cares about me and trys to make me happy.Some physical traits are: Nice butt, nice chest-defintion, not alot of fat on there bodies.

I agree with max on the most part
Face is what determines what i go for most of the time.. if its ugly .. no show from me lol .. not saying its from all the guys here . Body is just a really a add thing, i don't need it in a girl for me to go after her. Sense of humor, talkative, joking around is wat i like as well and of course no having sandy vagina everyday is good too. Hope this helps heh.

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What do you often find the most physically attractive about the opposite sex? Such as, but not limited to, what things you first notice and things that really turn you on. Please be specific and as detailed as you can

The thing that I find most physically attractive about a guy is how he presents himself, a guy with a nice stance is really hot to me! Weird I know! But when my boyfriend stands with him hands in his pockets, leaned back, straight, and a cute little smile on his face.. I go gah gah!

I love a guys smile, and nice straight white teeth!

There are so many things I find attractive, but a guy really needs to have a positive, confident attitude. Someone who puts himself or other down is sooo unattractive and disgusts me. My boyfriend would say things like "i wish i was a little taller" and put himself down because hes the same height as me.. and in some shoes i look taller.. and it turned me off from him! I told him that he was the only one who noticed it and it didnt bother me!

one thing i find interesting is that it seems (nearly) all women find confidence attractive in a man but i've yet to hear a man say he finds confidence in a woman to be sexy. im sure some do, but its real uncommon to hear a guy say confidence is a big turn on or a turn on at all.

I forgot to mention hair, I like long hair, short hair just doesnt do it for me.

Interesting analysis poply, Ive heard the same things, girls dig confidence. I think for girls personality is on the same level of importance if not more than looks, whereas for guys looks play a larger role.

I am also attracted to intelligence. I love it when a guy is smart and when he has confidence on top of that, it is great!!!

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one thing i find interesting is that it seems (nearly) all women find confidence attractive in a man but i've yet to hear a man say he finds confidence in a woman to be sexy.

Just a suggestion... read my post above.

Originally Posted By: websexinfo

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one thing i find interesting is that it seems (nearly) all women find confidence attractive in a man but i've yet to hear a man say he finds confidence in a woman to be sexy.

Just a suggestion... read my post above.
my bad, i just kind of skimmed through the posts, didn't read them all.

well if its from behind the first thing i would check out is that ass the girls got. and if there is no way to see that ass then i check to see if she has a nice face then look my way down to see if she got a nice rack.

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hmmm...well, I've had a revalation today that I am only atracted to unavailible girls since i broek up with my ex...but anyway...I always notice the eyes and the smile first, aint nothing better then a pair of beautiful blues and rows of white teeth that flash when i crack a good joke.

When I look at a man, I want to see that he has confidence in him-self, but I don't want a man with too much cockiness. I'm kind of weird when it comes to looking at people, but I tend to study the features of someone's face. The way their jaws are cut, the shadows that are cast across different parts of their face and so on. I'm drawn to a man's eyes when I first look at his face, and then I move to his lips. I like to see a man with a full mouth, thin is okay, but you just can't beat full lips.

I really like it when a guy has a great personality, and since I'm such a nerd, I extremely attracted to a man with brains! Intelligence is so sexy it's unbelievable! I'm really attracted to a wide variety of people so I can't really pin point all the things that turn me on, but I can say that humor is a big turn on as well. And I like a man who looks clean, I'm not into the whole greasy look, shampoo/soap was made for a reason and I'm all for using it daily. I also like it when a man smells really nice... that really turns me on.

oh gosh darn it, ya had me down to a T right up untill ya started talking about hygene, but what the hell, I'm a 16 year old boy, I dont know the deffinition, lol

im a dude and i know what kinda girls im attracted to.my girlfriend is perfect, and she is what i look for. when i first saw her (5-2, tan, quiet, slim, dark hair and eyes) i saw that she was cute. she has an accent too, european. what really caught me was her innocent shyness, she seemed to be occupied by schoolwork and didnt look like she would care about a relationship. this spurred me on to approach her and try to break open her shell. once i saw that she was amused by my jokes, attracted to my personality, and that she found me attractive physically i knew i got lucky. initially, thats what i saw and thats what i got.

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I guess when i first see a girl the first thing i look at is her face, it doesent matter how great her body is if she doesent have a nice face.

uh woah buddy try again ... seems like all guys say this but yet the first thing they say when they see a girl is "woah look at that body" that's it. and how come (sorry I'm ranting) when you talk to a guy he doesn't look at your so called pretty face lol but your boobies even if they aren't showcased to the whole world? just a question don't hate :scream_cat:

I'm just saying because I hear my guy friends talk about how the face counts first but :frowning: most guys don't look at the cute face :confused: