I hate myself. I am best friends with this girl and I'm so so happy about it we can tell each other anything. We've been like this for well over a year now. The problem is is am totally positively head over heels in love with her and she has no idea. Numerous times I have told her she's the nicest person in the world to me and I wouldn't have it any other way, but that's only because SHE has said the same thing to me. She always says she has total faith and trust in me and I seriously want to kill myself for betraying her and feeling this way. (I'm 16 by the way)
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Somebody please just give their view on this
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Why do you feel you are betraying her by being in love with her?
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She trusts me more than anyone, I have told her I don't want anything more than friendship because I know that's what she wants....so essentially I am lying to her
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I wonder if she really doesn't want anything more.Why not tell her you are falling in love with her?
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She is the best friend I've ever had, surely she could react the wrong way and I could lose her forever.Also she talks to me when there is a guy bothering her that she likes (none at the moment) so I doubt she'd talk to me about them if she liked me tooThanks by the way I didn't think anyone would react...It's quite sad I'm doing this at 1.45 am on my birthday
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Well first, happy birthday!In reply to:She is the best friend I've ever had, surely she could react the wrong way and I could lose her forever.I can understand that, but think how you'd feel later if she went with someone else and it could have been you. I think there are times when it's important to take a serious risk.In reply to:Also she talks to me when there is a guy bothering her that she likes (none at the moment) so I doubt she'd talk to me about them if she liked me tooI'm not sure she wouldn't talk to you about that if she liked you. And if she truly liked the guy, how would he be bothering her?
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Just quickly mate:Go for it. You'll never ever know what could have been, and then when she does get another guy (which is inevitable) it'll hurt like hell.I held off doing this actually, as I didn't want to 'put her on the spot' or pressure her. I'm totally over her now, but it was bloody hard (quite some time ago).
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I've done this before.Coming clean is the only way to get ahead.The news you get may be good or bad, but either way it'll allow you to get on with your life instead of wondering.Putting it off only makes things worse, like I did, and I eventually burst and told, probably at a bad time, but at least it meant that I could carry on with my life.
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ive seen this happen to MANY of my friends..both guys and girls..and myself.take time with her alone and tell her how you feel.tell her about falling in love with you and most likely she'll be flattered and if she is you could kiss her cheek or something like that..no matter how she is she'll think it's the cutest thing..even if she doesn't tell you.i don't think she would stop being friends with you if you told her and she didnt feel the same way..that doesn't really seem like something a best friend would do.besides..if you never tell her then you're going to be thinking about it forever and you might lose your chance..just tell her how you feel and then tell me what happened..i wanna know now.pm me after you tell her if you dont post it good luck!!
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I've been there. Take the big risk, better than being stuck for who knows how long. Tell her how you feel and that you wish there could be more between you two.I'm not going to lie, I fell in love with the girl I was best friends with for 4 years... When I told her how I felt everything spiraled down the drain... This was a good 6 months ago and I still feel the hurt from it.But better than being stuck. And if it does work out, you'll be one of the happiest people on earth.
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I have nothing original to add, just go for it, it is well worth the risk.If you don't do it you'll always wonder what could have happened and that is one of the worst feelings in the world.Best of luck, and let me know how it went.
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I have seen her with other guys, it KLLED me and I know the only way to solve the whole thing and stop it from eating me alive is to tell her....but if this happpened...... When I told her how I felt everything spiraled down the drain... I really would not want to go on living
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In reply to:
I have seen her with other guys, it KLLED me and I know the only way to solve the whole thing and stop it from eating me alive is to tell her....but if this happpened...
... When I told her how I felt everything spiraled down the drain...
I really would not want to go on living
The girl I was after started dating a 29 year old married cop who had 2 kids. After that, she started dating a 25 year old marine. It killed me and I had to tell her how I felt. Otherwise, I probably would have done something bad to myself anyway.
Sure, when everything spiraled down I really thought about killing myself. Why go on when I can't have the girl I truly want? Well, as time has passed by, I realize I was just blinded. Love does that to you. It blinds you from seeing the truth of things. The truth is if it was meant to be then she would have wanted to be with me and there are a lot of girls out there.
So, take the risk. If things go bad then you have everything to gain in the end. If things go good then you have everything to gain now. Either way it's good. Stay strong.
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Do not even think of doing something bad to yourself, nothing and I mean NOTHING is worth ending your life.LIfe is such a beautiful and wonderful thing that it really would be a crime to end it prematurely.Just think, you may not have her, but someone else will come along and she will be better.Sure you'll be sad for some time but sadness will pass.And just think of all the little things that make your life special, and rememberyou live for yourself not for someone else, so you and only you can enjoj your life, sometimes it just takes a little effort but if one tries just a bit he will enjoj every minute of his existance, I speak from experiance so trust me.
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I guess I should just wait it out then. It's going to be a LONG summer/eternity
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you're going to wait out telling her how you feel? think of it this way..if it works out then you get the best summer of your life..if it doesn't work out then you get the summer to get over it and start a new year after summer. by the way, How old are you?
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16
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its like in Old School, how the chick and the godfather are talking and he was like yea i was head over heels for you, and your jacket was so hot, and she thought the same way. they ended up dating but could have been a long time ago. its the same thing, and i feel the same way cause my good good girl friend who i can tell anything or she can tell me anything, i always talk about howthis one chick has nice boobs and a decent but, but yet she(my good friend) has a beatiful ass. she loves it, but luckily she has a bf so i dont have to worry abuot anything. lol
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1 year, 0 progress
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Have you told her you love her? If you do nothing, nothing will happen.