Something new ?

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me and my girlfriend have been dating for almost 3 years now, and just the normal sexual things are getting boreing. we havnt had sex, but we are trying to think of something else we can do besides that... any suggestions?thanks

Welcome back, Goisman! I don't have any great ideas myself, unfortunately.

Just as a matter of interest, why are you keeping away from sexual intercourse? I just ask because 3 years is quite a serious relationship, and if you do other things then it seems like an acceptable move forward. Especially if your current activities are starting to get boring.

well... she isnt ready to have sex yet, and that doesnt really matter to me, but she just doesnt want to keep doing the normal oral, im not sure why... normaly we barly ever do anything sexual, but then we talked about finding something "new", so we tired the ice cube thing, and it was very funnn! haha, just trying to come up with some more ideas..

i forgot to add, during grade 8, we did oral sex littery every time we hung out, sometimes even twice... and she belives that is why she doesnt want to anymore, but she doesnt mind it when we try differnt things.... idk how to explain it... but help?

Grade 8? So that would make you about 13/14/15? Well then I take back what I said before, I (foolishly) assumed that you were older. I don't know why I thought this, most people on this forum are quite young. But yes, let her wait as long as she wants!

But as for spicing things up a bit, hmmm... Doing things in public, but don't do something that you'll get arrested for. Taking showers or baths together. Play little sex games like trying to make each other orgasm without touching anywhere sexual.

ha sorry about that, i should have said our age...and i know, i just want to be with her.and do you know of any other little sex games? that one sounds real fun hahahathanks for the help!

Well if you do a search online you can find some good ideas. Altho you'll probably find a lot of weird anime sex flash games, but sure if you're in the mood for them...
A few that I found are:
**Erotic Endeavors** - Both you and your partner make a list of your sexual fantasies you want to play out. Trade lists and then set a deadline to make all of each other's fantasies come true.
**Truth or Dare** - Well its truth or dare, except you sex it up a little.
**Mother May I** - Like the kids game, you can't do anything without permission. Or if you havea problem saying mother constantly during your intimate moments, you can do a similar variation of Simon Says.
**The Spelling Bee** - While performing oral sex, use your tongue to spell out words on her clit, or she spells words on your penis, and you have to guess what the word is.
**Under No Circumstances** - Without tying your partners hands or confining them in any way, tell them that they can not touch you no matter what you do to them. That means you can't touch her if she does a lap dance or even if she sucks your dick. Same goes for her. No touching whatsoever or you will have to pay a penalty.
Then of course there are other, non-game things you can do. Like mutual masturbation.

haha thanks

Try dry sex. It can be tricky and a bit awkward to initiate but it'd worked out really well in the past for my g/f and I, especially before we started having sex.
Wear sweatpants or something the first time, not jeans, both of you.

we always have dry sex, but shes always worried (i pre-cum sometimes) and that will leak through everything and get in her... so nromaly dont do it that long ha. i have told her many of times it wont happen, even asked on here awhile ago, and even the sex-ed person at our school said no.. but she is still worried.

You should also inform her that even by the tiniest of tiny chances that it did leak through, the chances of her getting pregnant are still near impossible!

i know, but she said he wanted to try other things...

Originally Posted By: HelmsmaNDude, if she's that young, and that worried about boy goo getting in or on her, she's not ready for much of anything beyond what you are already doing. I concur. Pre-cum, although at times can contain sperm cells, poses a small risk on the scale of pregnancy. If she's worried about it leaking through some clothing and getting on her in just the right way that it can impregnate her...well, she's not ready for anything past (or even what) you guys are doing.

oh.. alright, btw, we are both 15.and she is very perinoid about getting prenate because of her mother, she is so like over protected of her, but idreally blame her for it..and im not talking about having sex with her, i was just asking about some fun sexual games to play, like she though of the ice-cubes on eachother, and she enjoyed it, so i figured i'd ask here for some more ideas.

blindfold her, or have her do it to you if she's more comfortable with that.Try oral sex in the shower. It doesn't work for me, for some reason I can't get that aroused in the shower, but my roommate and several other friends swear getting head in the shower has been one of the best experiences of their lives.69 or do mutual masturbation and race. Either see who can cum first or who can make the other person cum first "against their will"

Originally Posted By: HelmsmaNSex Ed person? At school? She's worried??Dude, if she's that young, and that worried about boy goo getting in or on her, she's not ready for much of anything beyond what you are already doing. I agree. I suggest instead of asking for advice on sexual activity, how about something that has NOTHING to do with sex at all? Whatever happened to going to the movies, the beach, go bowling, a museum, and other normal, yet fun, things to do as a teenager?

I don't think a frisbee would make a very good sex toy at all!

I think the OP has every right to do whatever he wants sexually, I don't feel right about discouraging him from sexual activity. It's not like he's pressuring her into anything, at least that's not how it seems to me.Age isn't everything, and I think if he's mature enough to be in a relationship with the same girl for three years and mature enough to respect her wishes and feelings about sex, then he's definitly mature enough to engage in whatever sort of sexual activity he and this girl want.

The problem isn't with him, it's with his girlfriend. If she's so worried JUST about pre-cum, she's not ready to do ANYTHING sexually. She may be the one who want's something new, but that's just her hormones talking.

Quote:Try oral sex in the shower. It doesn't work for me, for some reason I can't get that aroused in the shower, but my roommate and several other friends swear getting head in the shower has been one of the best experiences of their lives. the shower talk reminded me of when me and my gf got a hotel room and we took a shower together. i dk.. maybe i'm wired ( already said in another post tonight i'm not normal lol) but we washed each other's hair and that was pretty cool and relaxing... as for the getting head in the shower.... i don’t want head in the shower. been there, done that and it freaks me out. me and Shannon draw on each other’s backs and stomachs. not draw like with something but like fingers.. she likes to come around the side of me and watch me squirm..... i'm deadly ticklish.. it’s like she’s running her finger on back and i'll start falling asleep on her and then i jump and move and not laugh but kinda laugh cuz she's run her finger over my side. it's hard to explain. but... i dk..