Questioning my sexuality

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Well, to start things off, I think I may be turning gay.It all started when I noticed that I was becoming more and more bored at straight porn (It just seem repetative- strip,oral,sex,money shot,fin ) so I decided to check out gay porn just to see something different. To my dismay, i was aroused by it. I just thought that i was just experimenting and I looked at more gay stuff but I soon stopped when I realize that I was becoming less turned on by women.Fuck i thought to myself.Now here is the strange thing:When I am away from women I seriously question my sexuality but When I am around them (especially an attractive one) I am like "fuck that gay shit, I want a piece of that ass!"I just feel like I am on a fence, leaning towords homosexuality but still want my heterosexual life style back.I know that there is a wide spectrum between homosexuality and heterosexuality but I just feel that I am slowly moving towards being gay then being straight everytime I am alone.I really need some opinions on this.Thanks.first post btw

Welcome to A2A, Grim28!I think most people are at least somewhat bi. But I wonder if you are finding gay porn more interesting just because it's new and different?You've said that in real life, as opposed to porn, you are attracted to good-looking women; what about men?

not really. although with this question hanging over my mind recently, I have been thinking some "what ifs?" but they do not last long. I try to censor these thoughts out of fear that I am moving closer along the spectrum towards homosexuality, something that I don't want.You may be right about it being new and different though.

I have quite a bit of experience with this sort of thing, and I'd say that if your completely straight (or at least almost completely straight) in real life, then you're probably being aroused simply by the sex in the gay porn, not by the men. Since your brain knows it is watching sexual acts, and it knows sexual acts are linked to arousal, it causes you to become aroused regardless of who is having sex: men, women, or both. Also, I would say the reason male-female sex is not arousing you at present is because of exactly what you said, you've seen a lot and you're bored. Generally anyone can get bored with anything if they do it often, I mean, for example, some rich people get bored with being rich. You'll probably be aroused by male-female sex again at some point, in the meantime, maybe you should try watching some lesbian porn and see if that arouses you. And if it doesn't don't worry about it, watching, doing, and becoming are different, and usually completely unrelated things. So just because watching gay sex gets you off, it does not mean you would enjoy gay sex, or become gay. I hope you find this helpful. And whether you find it helpful or not, I'd be glad to try to help more.

In my opinion — and I’m pretty damn gay — gay porn is very boring. There’s a reason I never watch any, much rather spend my time on a certain ’Tube site where people upload their own smut. On the topic though — I think you may well be bi if you’re turned on by both things, it’s simply just that you, until now, never gave much thought, nor have experimented with the homo stuff. It’s fine to be a bit confused, and by all means it’s pretty normal to cling to your “normal” life. You have no idea how much I’d love to be bi and some hint of “normal” in my love life All in all, I say just let your mind digest this for a while and don’t get too worked up about it

Originally Posted By: HelmsmaN

**just as folloding your mind with midget porn would make you want to hook in to really short people!
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Dude, no way will midget porn EVER get boring.

Grim it seems nowadays that Bi is the new straight man. And I'm not talking like orange is the new black fad or whatever the hell it is. But seriously, if you're bi...it's straight -- i mean cool -- i mean, it's ok to be. If you want your hetero-lifestyle back. Just take it back. Like my man (completely straight reference) helms said: Get with another dude and you'll be straight right, quick, and in a hurry.

I think these thourghts cross our minds from time to time. I had the 'am i gay' dilemma a few months ago, i dont do porn at all, i dont masturbate, i dont get off on other people getting off at all, when im not with a girl for a period of some i kinda go into sexuality limbo.I have checked out other blokes, i check out hot men. I am a face man, i dont check our their arses or think about their cock, i have flirted a little with gay collegues at work but only loosely, more inuendo than anything.Me and my mates spank each others arses, stroke each other, just messin around i dont see any depth in what we do as ultimately when it comes to the crunch i like women, i just know it. When i see a hot woman i just cant help but to keep checking her out. I can be talking to someone but checking her out over their shoulder, you just know.Although there is nothing wrong with being Gay they can even get married (called a civil partnership), gay pride seems to be somewhere different every other week (Its in Brighton at the moment, the UKs gay capital). People dont look down at it like they used to, people should be free to express their sexuality however they see fit. People shouldnt have to come to forums like this acctually 'worried' that they may be gay, there should be no anxieties about it, be proud of who you are!

As said before. I think it comes down to you being bored.

Try cutting back on the porn.

I mean.. Everyone at some point in their life ask "am I gay" (least I think so.. ).

Personally it just boils down to the forbidden fruit thing I think. You like girls.. so you wonder what it would be like to be with a guy.

You see a girl in real life.. and your back to normal.. and too busy worring about her to worry about raul.