Tips for good wetness?

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Well since I'm kinda getting back with my ex. I wanna improve everything! Well when we first dated I thought sex was great...for the first couple of months but until I got pregnant. I started not enjoying it not as much...I was so freaked about getting pregnant again. After the abortion it took me a while to get back into it. Even when we did it, it wasn't the same. I think the sex has a connection to my feelings to him. But now its kinda hard for me to enjoy sex. I barely get wet anymore for him. I love him to death but another point raised is that usually he doesn't spend enough time on foreplay. When he fingers me he does it too rough or too direct. I like it gentler but when he does it ,its too gentle... when he eats me out it feels really good but not orgasmically good... His tongue is shortened because when he as younger he cutted it on a straw, ouch I know. Could that be why?!What are some good tips for better foreplay? What has worked for you? UHm...just what makes sex better?

Varying positions that you haven't been through before but not so intense that it'll make him ejaculate or you achieve orgasm too fast.

Er... but it sounds like to me you're still worried about getting pregnant because you don't want it to happen again and it seems as though everytime you have sex with him, you think about it and that causes your mood to crush into worry. You've got to try and get over those thoughts because you can't be thinking about getting pregnant everytime you have sex with him because it happened one time. Using a condom prevents it 99% of the time and I guess, you just got caught with that 1%.

Why did you and the ex get back together? And why did you split up?

Originally Posted By: katonsuiiton

Using a condom prevents it 99% of the time and I guess, you just got caught with that 1%.

I thought they wrote like 99.9% for condoms nowadays. i've been told they are 100% effective when used properly. the .1% is for people who use them incorrectly and sorts. that's just what i've heard.

Originally Posted By: Decius08i've been told they are 100% effective when used properly. the .1% is for people who use them incorrectly and sorts. that's just what i've heard. You heard wrong.The only thing that is 100% sure your partner won't get pregnant is either surgery or abstinence.

It seems like the biggest part of your problem is the fear of getting pregnant again. Maybe you should try using birth control pills in addition to condoms, to lessen your fear. As for getting we, I think if you can put the pregnancy thing out of your mind for a while, it will definitely help you in that department. Also, if he's fingering you too rough, just tell him. If he doesn't understand, then take his hand, and show him how you like it. When he learns what makes you hot and what doesn't, then it'll be easier on the both of you. Also, have you thought of fingering yourself while he sucks on your breasts, or watches? That may also help you get excited faster.

Originally Posted By: Virtual_Star[quote=Decius08]The only thing that is 100% sure your partner won't get pregnant is either surgery or abstinence.[/size][/font][/color] Abstinence only. Surgery isn't 100% either. Neither the tubal ligation or the vasectomy are 100% effective.

Originally Posted By: SexpertSurgery isn't 100% either. Neither the tubal ligation or the vasectomy are 100% effective. Damn you, science! You've failed again!

When condoms fail, it's practically always because they either broke (itself nearly always due to poor storage or using oil-based lube or something else preventable), or they came off because the guy didn't withdraw before he became soft, or was using too large a size.In other words, when condoms fail, it's nearly always from misuse. Properly used, they are extremely effective - reputable brands test every one, so they don't have pinholes. In average use, their effectiveness is lower, because people don't always use them properly.

Although I really love and appreciate your posts of great wisdom, I was talking about surgery. I was always under the impression that once a man or woman ties their tubes, there's no chance of pregnancy.

I mean, how's that still possible? Teach me! :smile:

Holy cow, the human body is such a endless wonder.Thanks you guys.

I think it's a 100% if it's a hysterectomy...

Originally Posted By: ajmakoko

I think it's a 100% if it's a hysterectomy...

Thats because they literally remove the uterus.
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I would not know, sorry hun.

Yeah, I know, I guess dry humor doesn't go over that well in writing... :P

Yeah but somtimes the surgery doesn't work. Or so I've heard.

I think I've been hawking this book so much that people will think I'm a salesman for it; but here is some good reading for your gent."She Comes First" By Ian Kerner; it pretty much has anything and everything that could pleasure a woman orally and digitally (fingering) as well as a great deal of pre-foreplay activities. If you think he'll be offended by it, get the book called "He comes next" and read that whilst he reads She comes First. You'll both learn something.

Whenever I give my GF an orgasm, her whole body shakes and she's so tired that she pretty much just passes out. Either I'm that good at giving her oral or it's because she doesn't masturbate.

It means you're that good. :smile: Not masturbating at all doesn't usually make girls more receptive - if anything, it's the reverse.

Nice. I am good at oral. Perhaps it is time to improve on everything else in life?

I thought giving the girl an orgasm before sex was to get her ready and wet, but no matter what she would get really tight again...and of course fall asleep.