You guys won't agree

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New Yorkers have the reputation of being loud and obnoxious.

Are they?

lol thats not the world.im actually pretty quiet. but sometimes im pretty damn loud.

In the rest of the world, Americans in general have a reputation for being loud.

What do you have against New Yorkers?

Tokyo, Japan is very loud. Rio Janeiro, Brazil is also very loud. And the majority of those who inhabit it. Kingston, Jamaica.. nuff said.

You should have gone more into Oakland That's OK, I'll pass.... I was looking for a grocery store in Oakland last year and I ended up in the 'hood.. Not exactly a comfortable experience.

Strange vibe my dude.. strrraaangggge viiiiibe

Vibe or not.. When you don't belong, you don't belong. I got a lot of stares and I was "escorted" by a big Caddy with blacked out windows on my way out. Not pleasant.

I guess I'm used to it. That's not good lolYou just have to know how to present yourself.

I would so be irritated if I was stuck in a subway with a bunch of people yelling at each other... Why do I need to know your business? Why can't you just stop performing for everyone around you and focus on your friends?

I've worked on the skill of letting people hear what I want them to hear but talking quietly about the things that I don't
I don't think that's too odd. Loud people are just sharing information that they want other people to use to form an opinion, an opinion the speaker wishes to design.
It's really quite simple

pardon?

I am very annoyed by people who are loud in public, regardless of their age. But teenagers tend to be louder than adults. Personally, I think it's a matter of respect. From time to time I see a group of teenagers who are just caught in some sort of moment that might warrant being a little excited. I can usually see that for what it is, and usually smile. But too often it's just kids who have no thought of anything or anyone beyond themselves. I see it every day in the high school...or hear it, that is. It's kind of the same thing as the kid driving down the street with his speakers blasting at such a loud level that you know it's some kind of statement. Abi, why would you think that kind of loud behavior would not be sort of an "invasion" for other people around you? I think part of being mature is learning how to live in community. How to interact with other people, even strangers, without participating in behavior that demands attention from them or is needlessly distracting. If you want to be loud, that's great. But can't you wait until you're off the train and somewhere away from crowds of people?That fact that you're the one posting this makes me believe it's not coming from a disrespectful place, cause you're a nice young lady, but it's still disrespectful behavior.

I don't think I'm taking it wrong at all. Any behavior that's disrespectful when teenagers do it is disrespectful when adults do it. Maybe even more so. But you can't deny that it's more typically an adolescent behavior.

Actually, she didn't say that the adults complaining about loud kids were loud themselves. She said that she believed they (who she clearly called quietand boring) would tolerate loud adults. Be careful, friend. You are portraying me falsely. First of all, I made it a point to say that I didn't think Abi was motivated by disrespect. I also didn't say all teenagers were like that. I did say that it is more typically an adolescent behavior.Do you know what I do for a living? I wouldn't waste my time, and go so much in debt for such a piddly salary, if I didn't believe there were good teenagers. The loud and obnoxious ones, the ones who backtalk and roll their eyes at me, the ones who look for ways to be defiant, they are all amazing in my book. But I would be irresponsible if I let my love for the breed blind me to negative behavior. I spend 40 hours a week trying to help teenagers find ways of dealing with people and systems and society in ways that promote positive interaction and outcomes. It's hard to turn that off when I come here.

I didn't sense any disrespect in your posts.No apology needed.I'm always happy to clarify what I say.Carry on.

_I see adults talk just as loud as teenagers. _

You don't think loud teenagers grow up to be loud adults?

I know it's disrespectful behavior. I get very annoyed when some guy inconsiderately is blabbing on the phone about his stock growth in the furniture market and how he thinks his 3rd wife knows he's cheating on her with some Indonesian girl. I honestly don't want to know about his business like that. Especially when I have to spend 20 minutes of the ride listening to him. I'd just rather he tone it down or stop yelling like the guy is 10 feet away. I just don't like the fact people give me dirty looks and what not when I'm not doing anything because my best friend wants to tell me what she's been doing in Jamaica for the past year. She's excited to be back in the US. It's a 5 minute ride. Divert your eyes and get over it. It's not that serious.

Originally Posted By: JapanFan14I just don't like the fact people give me dirty looks and what not when I'm not doing anything because my best friend wants to tell me what she's been doing in Jamaica for the past year. She's excited to be back in the US. It's a 5 minute ride. Divert your eyes and get over it. It's not that serious. If you're qualifying what you were originally talking about, I don't think this sounds disrespectful at all. I was thinking more along the lines of a group of kids acting obnoxious. This sounds more like a couple of girls talking and one of them maybe not realizing how loud her voice is.

That is what it is. But people are so prejudice they don't even realize it sometimes.