Have you ever met someone, when you just saw them at first say your heart felt like it had butterflies and you don't know what to say or how to act? Have you ever seen a person where you know you want to spend the rest of your life with? I have.I am from Atlanta and I just met a girl through a friend a couple of months ago. Right from the beginning, I fell head over heels for this girl. Usually I am okay with girls. I can make them laugh, small talk, act cool etc etc. I have had six girlfriends and have many friends that are girls so I consider myself a person that can talk to the opposite sex. However when it comes to this girl, I don't know what to say sometimes, I act like a total goof. Is that bad? Haha. Anyways so this girl is friends with my friend and she usually hangs out with another set of people. However recently she has been hanging out with me and my friends more and more. We go out to bars and this one time we were both drunk at a bar she held my hand and we walked to the car together. I didn't want to sleep with her or do anything of that sort because I felt like this girl was the one, not some girl to sleep around with. Anyways she usually hangs out with us and we go to our friends apartment together to drink and hang out. On top of that recently I have been seeing her at the cafe where I study for my grad school. She and her friends all of a sudden joined my group to study together. Also, we sometimes text each other here and there every other day. Now this is where it gets kind of tricky. She has a boyfriend. Yes, she has had a boyfriend for the past 5 years but he is in Europe for something (job?) so he is never around.So my question is this, would a girl not attracted to a guy do these kinds of actions? Is she doing this because she likes me or likes one of my friends? Why all of a sudden am I seeing her more? If you guys could help this lost romantic in this struggle, it would be much appreciated. Thanks guys and gals.
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Help this romantic out.
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I don't think we can tell from this distance whether this girl is seriously romantically interested in you. There's not much in what you say that indicates more than that she enjoys you and your friends' friendly company. She may have just decided you people are nicer people than her old set of friends.The only thing that goes further than that is that she held your hand when you were both drunk, and I don't think you can read much into that. The only way to find out any more, I think, would be to ask her.Many people would hold the view that you should consider her not available while she has a boyfriend - I'm not sure.
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Yea I know. But something about this girl really grabs my heart. I really don't know how to explain it. I know the "home wrecking" business is a bad industry, but I don't know, I feel like this girl is the one for me.I just need to know if she is interest. Do girls do this to guys that they are interested in? Bleh, this is one girl that really stumps me. You are probably right, her intentions are most likely friendly.
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Ok so me and this girl have been getting closer now. I go help her workout and we have been texting everyday this week. Sometimes ill initiate it, other times she will initiate it. Is this what girls do to guys that they are not interested in? Do girls text heavily and I mean 3 sentences plus to guys that are just friends with everyday? Just confused..
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Just give it a little time. It will become obvious soon enough.
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It sounds to me like she likes you but obviously I don't know her and i can't see what signs she is actually giving off.I was in a really similar position to you about 3 years ago. There was a girl i was head over heels for who I'd wanted to be with since the first time i saw her. I came on here and asked should i make a move and put her in a situation where she could choose between me or her bf or would that be unfair on him.In the end i chose that it was a bad idea and i should just keep my distance and see how things turned out. I moved on went out with someone else, she broke up with her boyfriend as he was a bum and really liked me, 2 years later and we're finally going out with eachother. The point is you dont know whats going to happen, she could break up with her boyfriend tomorrow and go out with you or you could end up playing the long game like me and get there 3 years later. It all out of your hands. All you can do is be there and get closer to her as a friend. Just keep an eye out and make sure you dont get too friendly.If its meant to happen it will.
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I'm just gonna update my situation with this girl. So by now we have gotten to know each other a lot. Like we go workout together, go out to drink together and eat together. Usually we go with friends not alone, but sometimes when we go workout we will go alone. We usually text each other everyday and see each other other day. And I remember one time while we were chatting, she just ended up calling me. When we go out together, it will usually be me, the only guy, and her and my girlfriends and we will usually dance together. Not particular grinding but pretty close. I was just wondering, would it be bad of me if she vented out to me about her ex boyfriend? My brother said that it would be a huge mistake but I just wanted to know your guys opinion. Now this is where I am confused. I DO NOT want to be in just the friend zone with this girl. I still want to have the mysterious allure to me but I always want her to be comfortable around me so we can get to know each other. Her any her boyfriend have officially broken up now and me, her and a bunch of my friends are going to spring break together in California. I was wondering if you guys think I should make any moves? Do you guys think by the way she spends her time with me and dancing, that she just sees me as just a friend?
