My girlfriend and I had been arguing a lot lately, and there was this girl at my job I was kind of interested in. She had a boyfriend, and they had been dating for around 8 months. She always was flirting with me, asking me about me and my girl. I told her we were going downhill. Well, me and my girlfriend of 2 years broke up the other day, kind of. I told the girl at my job we broke up and I guess she thought I was going to jump right on her. My girlfriend called me and talked and we decided to work on it one night. She was going to come over and stay at my house and we talk. So after talking one thing lead to another and we had sex. I realized, I've been with this girl for 2 years, of course we are going to bump heads. I can't throw something that I've had for 2 years in a matter of days so I can talk to this other girl. Well, when I went into work today she told me she broke up with her boyfriend last night.Then she asked me how me and my situation was going. I told her that we decided to work on it. Immidiately she asked me if we had sex, and me being the honest guy I am said yes. She got mad at me, like I had done her wrong. I explained to her that I have been with this girl for 2 years, and I love her. I can't throw that away right? Well, coincedence or not, after her break today, she came up to me and told me that her and her boyfriend are going to work it out... Heh... Do you guys think I'm an asshole, for being attracted to this girl? I had to end what we may have had, because I want to work things out with my baby. I really love her.
Made my decision...
I guess you did the right thing. Problems in a relationship is normal, you could talk about it and get over with... if you love your girl, that's the most important reason to keep the relationship.
As for this other girl... I gues I'll suggest never to discuss with her anything that's going on with you and your girlfriend, specially if it's some problem...
I am a nobody,
Therefore I am perfect
You've tried to act honestly and for the best, so you've done well. We can't control our attractions much, and you have to expect you will be attracted to other girls sometimes. It's what you do about it that you can control, and you've done the right thing.
good work and keep strong with your decision
I don't think you were an asshole, but if you thought that things with your girlfriend were going to improve and you KNEW that the girl you worked with had a thing for you, I would have at least said something to her in the sense of you don't know what is going to happen with you and your girlfriend, and for her not to get any ideas.....so I guess this is just a pointer for next time if it happens. Cool that you and your girl stayed together though.
I think you've done the right thing. Your work friend obviously liked you, and got upset because her hopes were raised when you'd broken up with your girlfriend. Hey, at least she knows that you're not a quitter, and ready to just 'jump ship' when the going gets tough. I can understand her being upset, I suppose that her hopes where crushed there a bit, but you're not to blame for that. You were honest and straight with her, but had never made a committment to her anyway.
In addition, it would have been better of you not to release so much information if you knew that your colleague liked you, and if you thought that you may try to work things out with your g/f. I supposed it'd be better off not to reveal so much information from now on, at least until you're ready for a relationship with your work friend (if indeed you want that). Don't forget some kind of cooling off period either!