I do not know where to put this, so I decided to ask in the "Teen Life & Health" though I am already 26, not a teen anymore...I have some questions in my heads. I would appreciate it if anyone can share what they think with me1. Are there any gay Christians here? Is homosexual not allowed in Chrisitianity?2. I think pre-marital sex is not allowed in Christianity? So as long as the gay couple is not married, they cannot have sex?3. Is it okay for gay couple to have sex even after getting married?4. Is it okay for Christian to watch gay porn?And...I am just confused... I am a Christian, still a virgin, and found male body very sexy and attractive.But I also like girls. I loved a girl and she was my girlfriend. But later because of going to different school, our relationship ended. I had a few crush with some girls in school and college before. Currently no girlfriend.I think As long as I found someone I really love, that one can be a man or a woman.So it means I am bisexual? Or am I gay?But that is tricky because I think I will try to suppress my feeling or ignore the feeling for men if I think I should concentrate on women.I do not want to watch male x female porn because I think it is not polite to watch a man having sex with a woman, like peeking into others' life. But I found gay porn very interesting and hot (yes, I know it does not make sense..., but I don't know why) Please help, or simply tell me what you know or what you think about it.Thanks!
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My life against my religion?
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If you can achieve sexual arousal from men as well as woman then it sounds like you're bisexual.Lucky you! Means you get more choice.Ignore this christianity thing. Stop worrying about what's acceptable in Christianity and worry about what is acceptable for you. Don't let a religion tell you how to live your life. Live your life the way you want to live your life. Just because your family or minister thinks God looks down upon gays doesn't mean God actually looks down upon gays.Who was the last person you met that knows God and hangs out with him? Nobody. Everyone is just speculating about what they think of God.Of course the bible may portray that it doesn't support gays/women etc. That's because the bible was written nearly two thousand years ago.Live your life without worry about judgement from others, and especially without worry about judgement from God.
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Quote: Live your life without worry about judgement from others, and especially without worry about judgement from God. I fully agree with the first part of this comment, but I'd be real carefull about the second. This is not, however, meant as any commentary as to how God feels about homosexuality.
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Hi ClarksonThanks for sharing the difficulties you're having. If you are having feelings towards both males and females then, yes, you might be bisexual.Some Christians believe homosexuality is wrong, and some believe it isn't - it all depends on how people interpret scripture. For me, Christianity is about being in relationship with God, and it is important to let God lead the way you live your life, so I would advise you to talk to God about your worries - pray, read the Bible, take times of silence - do whatever works for you, and ask God to lead you on this.You might feel that God is saying to you that homosexual sex is wrong, or you might feel that God is telling you to embrace your sexuality. Not I nor anyone else on this board can tell you what's right and what's wrong - you need to work out what's right/wrong for you and be prepared to live with that decision.One thing I would add is that Jesus said "I will draw all men to me" - including those of any sexual orientation. It sounds from your post like you're really struggling with this issue, and God doesn't want anyone to be unhappy so I really hope you work this out soon.Take care,JFLP.S. I have many friends who are Christian and gay/bisexual who have come to terms with their sexuality and their faith. It might seem hard, but you will get there.
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I really like what Just For Laughs said, I don't think ic ould have said it any better myself.I'm a gay Christian man it did take awhile for me to accept my sexuality. I prayed for a long time for God to "fix me" because I was raised believing that homosexuality was wrong. I made posts in the past about this, but I remember the last night I prayed to God to fix me and take away the evil. I remember having a complete feeling of peace after I prayed, like it was God's way of telling me everything was going to be okay. Without anyone saying a word, I had this feeling of acceptace. It was one of the best feeling I've ever felt. From that point on I knew I was going to be okay and that God accepted me for who I am.Struggling with acceptance within one's self is hard enough but to add Christianity into the mix it makes it that much harder. All I can say is get right with God; talk with him directly. We don't need middle men/women, we have a direct link to him through prayer.
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Thank you guys so much.And as you guys say, yes, religion is the relationship between God and me. No one can give me an absolute answer but God Himself. It enlightens me and I think I should ask Him and be patient until I get an answer from Him.I think I was kind of losing my patience because I was getting older and I did not want to be all by myself anymore. I wanted somebody to love, so my emotion got the better of me and I was confused.Thank you guys!
