I'm friendly with a new girl at work. I'm not sure if she has a boyfriend. I would like to ask her out. I work in a 24 hour call centre and our shifts rarely overlap. We did get to sit next to each other a couple weeks ago and she mentioned she would bake a cake and bring in a slice for me. The following week she gave me a slice of sticky chocolate cake in a small rectangular plastic tub. I washed the container, filled it with tiny party-sized chocolate bars and returned it to her when I saw her the following week. At the same time she gave me some cookies she baked in a second plastic tub, then later an email at work thanking me for the chocolates. I have two questions - 1. How can I ask her out when I rarely see her? I could send her an email at work but would rather ask her out in person. 2. After washing the second container I would like to put something nice but not overwhelming in it for her - not the same chocolates again - any suggestions? Sorry this post is rambling but wanted to provide background information.
Friendly with a girl at work...
How about putting in the tub a note inviting her to a movie or dinner on a particular night?
No, that's cheesy and would probably make her think your weird. Just chat to her when you next see her, get to know her interests. Once you've found something in common, use it.
Eg: If she likes the theatre, invite her to see a play etc. Do it tactfully, maybe say that a friend pulled out at the last minute, and you've got a spare ticket.
Aha, just had an idea. You know you get various food festivals and such? Try looking up a few in your local area. It's obvious she has a passion for baking etc, so maybe invite her to a food festival one day?
When you return the tub say something like "They were fantastic, thanks. I've always thought homemade cookies tasted better than supermarket ones. I'm actually going to the ----- food festival next week, they've got some great homemade food. Theres a lot to see and do there expand. I normally go with a few friends of mine, but none of them seem able to go this year. Actually, if your not doing anything you could come along? I think it could be a laugh. Maybe you could show me what's what?"
If she says yes: "Great, see you then!"
If she says no: "Ah nevermind. Your to blame if I get fat eating all those free samples alone though! (that was a joke) Maybe when your available we can sort something out for another time. It would be the least I could do for that fantastic baking."
Lol, if that doesn't work, I don't know what will.
A single red rose that's not completely bloomed.
how about casually asking her to dinner. Say somethig like I see you have an interest in food, how about you come over to my place and I cook you a meal?
I mean I know how you feel I have been friendly with this one girl at work, and I finally told her today to call me if she ever wants to hang out or play some soccer or something, and I gave her my number (casually). That way it is up to her, and there is no pressure and no feelings get hurt if she does not call b/c it is not a date.
Last week I returned the second tub, washed with a hand-written note on decent writing paper thanking her for the cake and cookies, commenting on a couple recent movies we both enjoyed, and suggested we see a movie sometime. I included my phone number on the note. She sent me a friendly email last night (a week later - the next time she was at work) Turns out she has a boyfriend - they are going away next weekend to celebrate their 12 month anniversary. I tend to agree that it's preferable to ask someone out face to face rather than via email or notes; however we work in a 24 hour call centre - she only works 2 shifts per week and usually our shifts only overlap for an hour per week. If I do see her it's in the busy call centre with 30 other people - i'd rather ask her out one-on-one but that scenario never arises. She could have been just being friendly but she brought in cake then cookies specifically for me. I remember introducing myself to her when she first started work, but I try to be friendly to all new employees - regardless of whether they are male or female. I think asking a girl out can be like applying for a job you are not sure that you are going to get - at least the prospective employer now knows that you are interested. Now I can move on. There's another girl at work who seems to be showing positive body language towards me, so may pursue that.
Thank you all for your suggestions.
LOL! That's the way, don't get that "I'm so sad cuz I got denied" syndrome. The more the merrier, aye?
Good Luck, and if you fail once again, find another!
Sorry to hear it mate, been on the end of that kinda thing before, a good thing to come out of it is your're wiser from the experience, AND she didn't say no because she didn't like you, she's just unavailable, and that don't count! lol :grin: