A turn of events

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I can't play the field if the field came and told me to play it. I'm just not that popular with girls.Anyhow, she came online tonight and bitched at me because apparently one of her friend's sisters claimed that I was complaining about her and called her boring.That is total rubbish, and I have no idea where it came from, but I had a long talk with her about trust, and we both agreed to forget everything and make a fresh start.Then, for the first time in about 12 days, she was affectionate towards me. We're meeting up later today and hopefully things will be fine!

Just remember what I've been telling you. Don't put it all out there at once. Make her guess. It'll keep her attention that way.

Well today went fine!She was a little late cos of the bus, so I got a little bored waiting, but when she arrived it was great! Better than ever in fact I reckon. Just felt closer, although we were quite "placid".

Things are definately much better now.I saw her earlier today and things were very nice, and then we went out this evening and she was very affectionate. It was really nice and I'm very very happy now

OK so I know no-one cared any more but I need more help.It's been almost 3 days since I last heard from her and I'm getting worried.Today is the 4-week mark of since we started going out, so it has some sort of significance, but I've not heard from her in so long and I'm really worried.I don't wanna contact her though in case it annoys her.What can i do? What could this be?

do what I usually do when I want to chat to someone and try not to annoy them... send a sms (txt) with "hey'ho... what you up to?"

I'm starting to panic pretty badly now.I did as you suggested and have had nothing in return. This is the longest it's ever been, and I'm crapping myself that something's wrong.It's so strange that it goes from being really good on Tuesday night to absolutely nothing the next morning.I'm so worried.

Don't panic. Try to stay calm. I know you like her sweetie but I can go days without talking to someone I'm interested in. It's not always the same for every girl but try not to worry about it. I know you're interested in her but just blow it off and don't say anything until she says something to you.

It's really hard to forget it when I have nothing else to think about.I'm part way thru my exams (done 3, 2 left) and am currently on a 2-day revision fest. I can't revise solidly for that, though, and so the only other thing I have to think about is her.It's driving me crazy.

Like I said before, I know you like her but you got to quit panicking. Getting the way you are is only going to make you more upset. Just relax and wait it out until she says something to you. If she doesn't say anything forget about her. She wasn't worth it to begin with. However, if you really think she is and you really want to give it a shot, against my better judgement I would give her an ultimatum (that is not to say YOU should). BUT if you were to do that I would say something like, "Look, I like you so I need to know where you stand with me right now." Don't let her pussy foot around about it either by saying I'm not sure or I don't know.

Well I tried ringing her.
At first there was no answer so I tried again and she had switched her phone off...

speaks for itself doesn't it?

Okay put the phone down. Yank the cords outta the wall if you have to. Do NOT call her again. I repeat. Do NOT call. Let her call you. Without actually knowing what went on during your dates you're either pushing too much or she's too emotionally constipated. You need to decide now whether or she's worth keeping or not. My opinion is no but this is up to you because it's your life.

Well she texted me back saying that she had been busy and that everything is fine. So I guess I have to believe her on that.In relation to what we have done when we go out, last tuesday, I didn't really initiate anything. She was the one who came up to me and put her arms round me, and she was the one who kissed me, so I can't see how it could have been either of the things you said.I can't find a reason myself.

I'm really curious, are all relationships this much trouble? I mean come on, honestly...

Well it seems like she's phasing me out of her life.She sent me another message telling me that she wouldn't be able to talk to me for a further 2 days. So unless I hear from her tomorrow, I'm guessing that that's pretty much it.I drove past her workplace yesterday, when she was supposed to be working, and there was no sign of her there...which is a bit dubious. She could have always been in the toilet or something, but the mind wanders when you haven't really talked to your supposed girlfriend in a week.

My opinion is "Dump" her.Honestly it seems you are more unhappy now than you were before you even met her..Im not sure how she is seeing your relationship, but it seems you are wanting more than she is willing to put into it.You will meet someone Sad,someone who will treat you well and want to spend the rest of their life with you.But that doesnt happen over night,it takes time to find the ONE.Thats only my opinion though.

Hmm, well she sent me an apologetic message last night and asked if she could see me on friday. I might be seeing her tonight also, but it seems she knew I was upset about it and now she seems to be trying to fix it...at least that's what I hope.

if by friday she doesnt seem to try to put a effort in.. well i think you should stop phoning her and move on.. shes not treating you how you deserve to be treated.. find someone who will respect you.. and treat you nicely... because i know how it feels and it really hurts in the end.. :frowning:

Well that's Friday done with, and it was actually very nice. I went over to hers and we just spent some decent time together, it was overall a very nice day indeed.

same.. hows it been going?